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If someone said your home was like a hotel would you be offended?

115 replies

MrsGrindah · 10/06/2020 19:57

Someone who stayed with me recently ( pre lockdown) said it about my home when I was talking to them this week. I don’t think it was meant kindly either. I’m not unduly upset but I’m left wondering what that actually means, and what’s wrong with that?

I think she probably meant it’s a bit formal..I don’t do Knick knacks and cushions etc. But would you be miffed if someone described your house like that?

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Kittio · 10/06/2020 21:46

I know what you mean, but they might not have meant it that way. My mum was offended when her sister said her house looked like the Ideal Home Exhibition, as she thought she was saying it was too perfect.

SauvignonGrower · 10/06/2020 21:46

I'd be baffled. Mine really isn't, though I'd love it to be.

Notejode · 10/06/2020 21:47

She was rude because she is probably jealous. I had quite a few comments from jealous school mothers, insecure and competitive.

cabbageking · 10/06/2020 21:52

I would think they meant a lot of comings and goings, it was busy. It doesn't relate to appearance.

BlueJava · 10/06/2020 22:00

I wouldn't care - our home is as we like it. She wouldn't stay again though.

LesLavandes · 10/06/2020 22:01

I think it was a compliment

Yeahyeah9 · 10/06/2020 22:03

compliment - I've said it to a friend when her home was immaculate, beautifully designed, nothing out of place.

pallisers · 10/06/2020 22:19

I'd say thank you! We tried as hard as possible to make our home look something like the Kit Kemp firmdale hotels.

She was being PA and ungrateful too. Ignore her.

Amber0685 · 10/06/2020 22:22

Someone said that to me once, I am not sure if it was because our house was large or if it was rude.

eaglejulesk · 10/06/2020 22:58

I'm guessing she meant it as being soulless and impersonal - but if that's the look you are going for then it's a compliment.

DateLoaf · 10/06/2020 23:07

Fucking hell I would be absolutely delighted if someone ever said that! I’d need the whole 24/7 team of expert professional maintenance, cleaning, catering and front of house staff that comes with a hotel to make that happen though Grin

alittlerespectgoesalongway · 10/06/2020 23:18

Your description of your home sounds sparse and not the sort of place I'd really want for myself but you know what? It doesn't matter because it's your home and needs to work for you not anyone else (and I guarantee you'd find my home garish and cluttered!).

shrill · 10/06/2020 23:28

Someone once surprised me by saying how surprised they were that my house was homely. I took it as a compliment because they only ever saw me as super organised. I love staying in hotels and if they meant the kind of hotels I like I'd be very happy. Maybe they were actually trying to say how lovely their stay was.

eyesbiggerthanstomach · 10/06/2020 23:29

I would be pleased. In fact I think I have said it to my mum in law as a compliment. To me it means the bedding is lovely, towels neatly organised on the bed, guest slippers etc.

Sweettea1 · 10/06/2020 23:31

Does she mean you have people staying over often? Ive said this to my friend joking before as there is always someone staying over kids, grandkids, friends. If that's the what you mean I would just agree an laugh it of.

monkeyonthetable · 10/06/2020 23:35

Depends what kind of hotel.
Travelodge - no
Trendy boutique hotel - yes

Pinkchocolate · 10/06/2020 23:43

I’d be over the moon if someone said that about my home, I’d take it to mean big, beautiful and orderly (none of which mine is).

Horseshoe5 · 10/06/2020 23:43

Someone once said about visitors to my home that those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter. She sounds jealous and not a genuine friend.

LimitIsUp · 10/06/2020 23:47

Does she frequent 3 star or 5 star hotels? If the former - not a compliment, if the latter - a compliment

Thisismytimetoshine · 10/06/2020 23:54

I would assume it meant sterile and soulless, with no personality imposed on it. I wouldn't take it as a compliment, which is not to say she didn't intend it as one.

ThighThighofthigh · 10/06/2020 23:56

It could be meant as a lovely compliment.

But she was being nasty, she's jealous of your home.

Dunking · 10/06/2020 23:58

My friend decorated her room last week and I said 'its beautiful just like a hotel room'.

To me its a massive compliment. Sleak, well decorated and designed !

GinasWig · 11/06/2020 04:53

I would say and receive it as a compliment. I love a decluttered minimalist home

custardbear · 11/06/2020 05:07

Sounds more PA to me from your updates- cow 🤨

My MIL came over one weekend, my DH and I work full time, do washing at weekends - she said to me ' goodness Custard, it's like Chinese laundry here' ... some founded clothes on the dining table and a basket of unfolded clothes ... nothing excessive for a family of four ...
Some people are PA judgemental arses!

DishRanAwayWithTheSpoon · 11/06/2020 05:07

Its clearly not a compliment. It doesnt mean no clutter/minamilist. She means cold and soulless.

Do you like your house? If so it doesnt really matter what she thinks. Your house style is never going to please everyone. Some people like a more minamilist style others dont.

Lots of people like to make digs at others homes that arent to their taste, I think its because theu are insecure about their own homes. On this thread theres plenty of digs at the other side. As long as you like your home thats all that matters, your house is there for you to enjoy not others.