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Slept with him too soon

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MalamuteLover · 10/06/2020 09:24

I'm such an idiot. Met this guy via OLD weve got a mutual friend and we had sex. Now I've been ghosted how embarrassing

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MalamuteLover · 10/06/2020 21:45

Oh god I dont want to seem desperate

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MissConductUS · 10/06/2020 21:52

@MalamuteLover

Oh god I dont want to seem desperate
She who dares wins. Grin

Seriously, if you fancy him, what do you have to lose? And I also don't think that men do the tit for tat scoring on who texted who.

Or you could actually ring him and have a proper conversation.

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MalamuteLover · 10/06/2020 21:54

No way am I ringing him

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MissConductUS · 10/06/2020 22:08

@MalamuteLover

No way am I ringing him
Okay, PM me with his phone number and first name and I'll ring him for you. I'll tell him that I'm a friend of yours and that you're interested in another date. Grin
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MalamuteLover · 10/06/2020 22:12

Hahaha

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MalamuteLover · 10/06/2020 22:22

We had drunk sex Blush I cant text him

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AWiseWomanOnceSaidFuckThisShit · 10/06/2020 22:36

All this talk about sex. A true relationship isn't about the first shag... it's about the first fart 😊

PyongyangKipperbang · 10/06/2020 22:37

I've learned to expect nothing from men, sex or no sex. But ime if a man is interested in you as a relationship prospect then he will stay interested if you sleep with him straight away (ex DH I slept with before our first date technically :o) but a man who is just out to get his end away will do so no matter how far in it is before you sleep with him, and will probably sleep with other women in the mean time.

I wouldnt call him. I really wouldnt.

PyongyangKipperbang · 10/06/2020 22:39

A true relationship isn't about the first shag... it's about the first fart

This I agree with.

You know you've got a keeper when they come back after you fart in their face during oral sex.

Happened to a friend.......Blush

ballsdeep · 10/06/2020 22:40

Maybe he didn't like your cat? 🐈

Makemedoit · 10/06/2020 22:43

I don't think it matters how soon you slept with him. However, I do find this insulting when I have stuck to the rules and not spent the night with my long term partner since lock down and have only met up for walks in the last couple of weeks. Really angry.

Jkslays · 10/06/2020 22:43

‘NEXT!!’ Grin

You used a condom do who cares!

I’ve slept with two people on the first night and had a four year relationship with both ( not at the same time! Grin

And I’ve waited a few weeks and it turned in to nothing.

Don’t beat yourself self up about it!

PyongyangKipperbang · 10/06/2020 22:44

Welcome to the thread CV19, someone had to bring you in Hmm

Jkslays · 10/06/2020 22:46

@Makemedoit

I don't think it matters how soon you slept with him. However, I do find this insulting when I have stuck to the rules and not spent the night with my long term partner since lock down and have only met up for walks in the last couple of weeks. Really angry.
😬😬😬 why didn’t you move in then move back out the next day?
Makemedoit · 10/06/2020 22:51

Because some of us take this situation seriously.

FunnyInjury · 10/06/2020 22:51

Jkslays competitive misery Wink

arethereanyleftatall · 10/06/2020 23:03

Don't worry @Makemedoit
I'm sure the op went for doggy style to make sure she didn't break the rules. (Well, the who's rules of 1m).

Namechange19911987 · 10/06/2020 23:04

Same thing happened to me OP, he was really interested, met up, slept on first date, then later on he became really short worded then didn't talk. Difference is I was the one to block him. You'll find someone better Flowers

arethereanyleftatall · 10/06/2020 23:08

I'd text him op 'so, do you fancy meeting up again?'

  1. No response. Fine. Closure. You definitely know where you stand. Better than the current not knowing.
  2. Response 'no thanks' . Result as above
  3. response 'yes please'
PyongyangKipperbang · 10/06/2020 23:09

Yeah a banging over the table (in the garden obviously) should just about be within SD rules

Sweetlikecoca · 10/06/2020 23:29

One night stands can lead to something long term. I wouldn’t advise it though as I’d personally feel shit if someone ghosted me. Plus you can’t bank on all one night stands to mean something serious either.

x2boys · 10/06/2020 23:30

Do.you want to see him again Op ?,it's only been a,few days if you do just phone him or text what's the worst that can happen ,?he either doesn't answer or says no or he says yes ?if he doesn't answer I would leave it at that though.

Rumtopf · 10/06/2020 23:30

No such thing as too soon, and it's not embarrassing. He's just being a shit if all he was after was no strings sex and didn't tell you that.

Was the sex good at least?

Don't feel bad about it, just block him and move on.

Ginfordinner · 10/06/2020 23:38

How much OLD is going on while we are still meant to be social distancing?

Makemedoit · 10/06/2020 23:57

Clearly no scruples about preventing the spread of coronovirus or for the key workers who have risked everything so you can have a ONS