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Facing an entire weekend alone.

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Lonelylockdown22 · 05/06/2020 18:28

I was at work yesterday, day off today. Not in until Monday now. That will mean three whole days completely alone. I won't see a single other person until I go to work on Monday. My life is so unbearably lonely.

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Ginfordinner · 05/06/2020 19:11

I don't want to criticise other posters, but really...is it appropriate to come onto a thread where someone is expressing that they're upset at having to be alone all weekend to tell them how brilliant you are at being alone/how much you love it?

Well said @NuffSaidSam

FloggingMoll · 05/06/2020 19:11

@NuffSaidSam This is Mumsnet, someone almost certainly would.Grin

SinglePringle · 05/06/2020 19:12

Is there no-one you could call? Don’t assume everyone else is doing ‘family time’ (awful phrase). Friends would want to hear from you.

I live alone and have had 2 walks with friends since March. I’m absolutely fine with it but appreciate you are not.

Call a friend. Do it.

1forAll74 · 05/06/2020 19:16

What is the problem with being alone? Thousands of people are alone, and don't complain about it. You can surely spend time doing whatever you like at the weekend.

Sonichu · 05/06/2020 19:16

"just go to the shop"

Typical MN.

lemonsandlimes123 · 05/06/2020 19:21

Well the OP hasn't exactly been forthcoming so people are trying to be helpful based on the very limited information.

It's like someone coming on posting saying 'I feel really hungry' no doubt posters would suggest eating something and then there would be a drip feed about suffering from an ED or having a feeding tube or somesuch other issue that would completely change the context.

Based on the scant information she has posted the reponses to the OP are perfectly reasonable.

NuffSaidSam · 05/06/2020 19:24

Thanks Gin!

You're probably right Flogging 😂

Molocosh · 05/06/2020 19:24

Sounds like bliss. I would kill to have time to myself. I have children to look after every second of the day, I don’t even get to watch the telly.

If you are genuinely sick of being alone though, there are things you can do. When I lived alone I played a lot of online computer games where you play in groups with strangers and talk to them. I also played a lot of Dungeons and Dragons games via DnDBeyond, there’s a section for people who are looking for groups and you voice chat while you play. And after lockdown is over you could try a hobby, maybe music or theatre, or a games club, knitting group, whatever you’re interested in. Pick something where the group organises regular social nights.

Smallsteps88 · 05/06/2020 19:24

@Sonichu

"just go to the shop"

Typical MN.

Except no one said that, did they? They suggested the shops, as one of a list of things to do.
NuffSaidSam · 05/06/2020 19:30

'Based on the scant information she has posted the reponses to the OP are perfectly reasonable.'

No.

The OP says 'My life is so unbearably lonely'.

'Why don't you go to the supermarket' is in no way a reasonable response to that.

In the same way if someone posted 'I'm starving to death' someone saying 'why don't you have a snack?' wouldn't be a reasonable response. You can assume if they had snacks available they would eat them. Just like we can assume the OP knows about Tesco, but perhaps the issue runs a little deeper than a chat with a cashier will solve.

ScissorsBike · 05/06/2020 19:34

You can meet with up to five friends, though.

Sonichu · 05/06/2020 19:35

"Except no one said that, did they? They suggested the shops, as one of a list of things to do."

I think @NuffSaidSam put it better than I could.

Smallsteps88 · 05/06/2020 19:40

Just like we can assume the OP knows about Tesco, but perhaps the issue runs a little deeper than a chat with a cashier will solve.

Actually, and speaking as someone who has been where OP has, we can get so bogged down in our own feelings of loneliness and feeling trapped by it that we lose all sight of our options. Sometimes I’ve had things suggested, really simple things, and I’ve gone “why on Earth didn’t I think of that?”

Yes- “go to the supermarket” sounds like a really obvious thing to say but sometimes it’s the really obvious things that we haven’t even considered that might make a difference.

Please don’t piss over peoples suggestions.

Polkadotdelight · 05/06/2020 19:40

These days, the idea of a weekend alone sounds like bliss but I remember being incredibly lonely in my 20s. I was single, lived alone and weekends could be very very long. I'm more confident now in my 40s but even now I don't have massive social circle and don't seem to attract people. I haven't forgotten how horrible it was and I really feel for you OP.

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Lonelylockdown22 · 05/06/2020 19:41

Okay people have said I haven't given enough information so I live on my own in a town I don't know very well. I'm very low in confidence so I don't think anyone would really want to meet up with me. And no, I don't have any hobbies.

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ScissorsBike · 05/06/2020 19:47

Well you're going to have to get over it and ask someone to meet up with you. I have a family and I would be delighted to meet up with literally any acquaintance who asked - indeed I would be quite flattered.

UnaCorda · 05/06/2020 19:47

Sounds like bliss. I would kill to have time to myself. I have children to look after every second of the day, I don’t even get to watch the telly.

Bingo! Hmm

Hovverry · 05/06/2020 19:48

I spend most weekends alone but a dog makes a world of difference. On two walks daily I meet others to chat to and get fresh air and exercise.
Having a structure to each day helps. I try to always have something to look forward to, something to make it worthwhile getting out of bed. There’s satisfaction in knowing you’ve accomplished something each day.

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Lonelylockdown22 · 05/06/2020 19:48

@UnaCorda well I would love to have children. So you're very lucky.

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Lonelylockdown22 · 05/06/2020 19:49

@Hovverry

I spend most weekends alone but a dog makes a world of difference. On two walks daily I meet others to chat to and get fresh air and exercise. Having a structure to each day helps. I try to always have something to look forward to, something to make it worthwhile getting out of bed. There’s satisfaction in knowing you’ve accomplished something each day.
I'd love to get a dog but I have a cat and I work shifts so unfortunately it's not possible.
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StarryStrawberry · 05/06/2020 19:52

Ah sorry you are feeling down. I had a period of feeling this way, my whole twenties probably. However from my thirties onwards if I had a weekend alone I'd absolutely relish it. Films, books, nice food, walks.. the only difference I can think of is the way you feel within yourself ie. happy or not.

If you're not happy in yourself it's hard to be alone. If it's not too patronising perhaps try things such as counselling, therapy, medication, exercise and so on.

Mummyoflittledragon · 05/06/2020 19:52

Can you not see friends and family from back home or is it too far to go?

AnnaNimmity · 05/06/2020 19:54

Do you know anyone well enough at work to chat with them over the weekend? If so, maybe next week at work start cultivating them.

Can you sign up to tinder or similar and start chatting to men on there? then you can have a socially distanced date?

Do you have any friends further afield? Can you arrange zoom drinks with any of them?

Its hard with lockdown, but afterwards, I would suggest joining random clubs, attending meetup groups and finding book clubs. Just attend anything you can. Don't turn down any invitations.

emmathedilemma · 05/06/2020 19:57

somerimes you have to push yourself out of your own comfort zone! Ask someone if they fancy a walk or chat, find something you enjoy and turn it into a hobby......

gamerchick · 05/06/2020 19:58

Don't assume people won't want to spend time with you OP. Shy bairns get nowt and all that.

Personally for me that's what playstations and Xbox are for. Or any other hobby. Surely there's something that interests you?