It wasn’t wind... it was a baby!

[Ohshitx]

So here’s part 2 (which is crazy to me)

There isn’t really an update as such I should hear today or tomorrow regarding a scan. I’ve got the MW again on Thursday and I suppose this week will be the week of grand reveals.

I’m sorry if I disappear for a day at a time I’m still trying to wrap my own head around this.

NoSauce - you're a dick! Nice

Sending love OP
Sending love? Behave.

OP I hope you are ok, it must be so hard for you, it's a big shock. Tell them when you are ready. Can you tell your mum first? Could you tell her by text if it's so hard to say?

Hope you are ok OP 💐

What a shock, so much for you to process, good luck.

I would really encourage you to talk to someone in real life. Your mom, the midwife, a friend, a counselor but just someone. Do you don’t feel alone in all this. Big hug.

This must be so tough for you op, wishing you strength for whichever conversations you need. You must still be in a huge amount of shock. Take care of yourself

I’ve been lurking since the start. What you’re going through is unimaginable. I think you do need to tell someone, you need that real life support. Keep rambling. Keep posting. There’s always someone here

Wouldn't it be best to give your son as much time as possible to let the new sink in, before the baby is here. And it sounds like that's only a few weeks away.

You don't have to hide that it's a big surprise to you as well, and that you're still figuring things out and processing

I cannot imagine how you are feeling. There’s a specialist counselling service for pregnancy that does telephone/zoom appointments - might be worth getting in touch? www.citypregnancy.org.uk/

Or asking for a referral to your perinatal mental health team just so you’re on their radar and can have a chat and maybe a follow up post birth?

You can also ask the midwife to make sure you get a month of follow up by the health visiting team rather than 2 weeks so you have a bit more support.

Baby is coming whether you like it or not. There's no way to sugar coat it to those who might not welcome the news. Just bite the bullet and get it out of the way - then you can deal with any fall-out. Worrying your head right now about what other people might think, is one stress you really don't need now. As Nike say - Just do it! It's a baby, not the apocalypse. Fuck anyone who has nothing good to say. The only one really affected (and he can decide not to honour his sperm if he so chooses), so fuck everyone else. You're a big girl now.

I posted way back about my God-daughter. Her mother (previously sterilised) didn't speak for 2 days when she found out. The pair of them are like the best mates I've ever seen in a mother daughter relationship (two older brothers). She's a beautiful gifted child (no thanks to me). It will all work out in the end.

Remember, you're pregnant, so mind yourself.

Honestly I think you need to tell the Dad pretty quick.
He’s going to have to get his head round it to, and start sorting out/organising his life in preparation. It’s only fair to give him as much as warning as possible.

Wouldn't it be best to give your son as much time as possible to let the new sink in, before the baby is here. And it sounds like that's only a few weeks away.

Also, he needs a plan for when you go in to labour. Sorry to be blunt.

Hope you're OK OP

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Hope all ok xxx

Wow, I remember reading the first page or so of yourself first thread but never found it again.
But it sparked my interest as I found out about my pregnancy at 7.5 months. Went to the doctor as I felt what was like butterflies and indigestion but had no other symptoms. Have PCOS so never have periods (one every year-18 months so nothing of note there).
Anyway, doctor diagnosed me as 6 months pregnant, sent me to hospital and the scanned me and said it was about 7ish months.
From that date we had 6 weeks and 2 days before dd came along. It was a whirlwind, a rollercoaster. Terrifying, exciting, worrying, all of it.
Good luck. Talk to someone.

For you op x

Op it's so tough but you don't really have any choice but tell people soon. Once you tell one person it will get easier to tell others, I'm sure.

I know everything seems so rough for you at the minute, but now you know, you also need to put plans into place in case you go into labour early. You will feel better if you know who will have ds at that time and who you can call on

Hope you are ok x

I’ve been lurking/following since the start.
@Ohshitx I do hope you’re feeling a bit better now. It’s a massive shock to deal with and you’ve cooed brilliantly so far.

Could you tell a friend first? Someone who will be less emotionally involved than FWB.

It's hard to tell people. It's pretty personal too as such things go- I don't like telling people I'm pregnant. Usually, I just WhatsApp them an ultrasound picture with the caption, 'Baby Number 2' or 'New baby PlasticRings, arriving X date'. If you can do it in text form, it's easier. And, weirdly, I find it much easier to admit to the existence of a fetus than to announce that I'm pregnant even if they both mean the same thing realistically.

Hope you’re ok OP x
It’s so, so tough but you are amazing and it will all work out just fine.