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It wasn’t wind... it was a baby!

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Ohshitx · 01/06/2020 08:10

So here’s part 2 (which is crazy to me)

There isn’t really an update as such I should hear today or tomorrow regarding a scan. I’ve got the MW again on Thursday and I suppose this week will be the week of grand reveals.

I’m sorry if I disappear for a day at a time I’m still trying to wrap my own head around this.

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bluebell94 · 07/06/2020 22:22

Hope you're doing ok OP, thinking of you x

disorganisedsecretsquirrel · 08/06/2020 08:33

Ohshitz I can understand your reluctance.. however you need to tell someone in order to make this 'real' in your head. If you think your DM will be supportive then go for her. If FWB then him... or maybe just a close friend.

Once you have told one person I promise you it will get better (and easier) x

LittlePeepoToy · 08/06/2020 09:02

Completely agree with squirrel above. You need support op to adjust and get things ready. Tell a friend if easier - get the words out, they will want to help you.
Hope you are ok 💐

WhenPushComesToShove · 08/06/2020 11:40

Thinking of you...

biglittlemedium · 08/06/2020 11:53

Just a feeling but OP won’t be back...

sweetmaryjane10 · 08/06/2020 12:45

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lazarusb · 08/06/2020 12:52

Cake Flowers I agree with powkin - pregnancy counselling would help you work your way through the shock and how to begin telling others. A neutral person might also be willing to be around when you tell FWB. That way, if you can find the words yourself, they could explain. This is a huge shock for you and you need to be able to come to terms with it too.
Could the midwife help you find support?

vivariumvivariumsvivaria · 08/06/2020 13:35

I would understand that, medium. Overwhelming situation to be in, never mind with hundreds of messages of advice.

Hope all is well, OP. It'll fall into place.

Sarahplane · 08/06/2020 16:25

Oh Op I can only imagine what's going through your head. I'm thinking of you. Maybe try telling someone in real life so you've said the words out loud (or even by text) and then you'll have someone in your corner in real life. I would start with either your mum or best friend depending on what feels easier. They'll probably be shocked at first but then supportive.

Icanflyhigh · 08/06/2020 17:49

@biglittlemedium what makes you say that?

LadyMuck111 · 08/06/2020 17:54

@biglittlemedium I agree

ButtonMoonLoon · 08/06/2020 18:46

The OP HAS been back in the past few days so I don’t know why people are speculating that she might not return to this.
It’s clearly a very difficult and confusing time for her, I’m not sure updating us every single day is top of her list of priorities right now.

lachy · 08/06/2020 18:53

@ButtonMoonLoon

The OP HAS been back in the past few days so I don’t know why people are speculating that she might not return to this. It’s clearly a very difficult and confusing time for her, I’m not sure updating us every single day is top of her list of priorities right now.
Exactly. This is her life, she has a lot to process at the minute and if she doesn't want to return then that is her perogative.
Itsalwayshard · 08/06/2020 19:20

Hope your doing OK OP. Hope you've managed to talk to someone regarding your lovely news if only for a bit of extra support. Xx

PaulHollywoodsSexGut · 08/06/2020 19:43

Just throwing in my tuppence but telling a trusted friend IRL will allow for you to have the emotional support, advice and all the tea and sympathy you can get your hands on when this fully “lands” which may not be until your baby is here.

Not the same but when I was admitted with coronary shit for a fortnight at 35w I was amazed at how helpful people were, I used to be a complete party hard so was worried people think I’d deserved it.

In short, share your news with the ones you love and fully trust and when THEY have absorbed it there’s your tribe right there. X

LunaNorth · 08/06/2020 20:58

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LidlDonkey · 08/06/2020 22:54

Any update OP?

Brenna24 · 09/06/2020 07:16

I hope that you are doing well and that you have managed to talk to someone.

CormoranStrike · 09/06/2020 08:15

Don’t feel the need to reply @Ohshitx - but if your are reading this thread still I just wanted you to remember there’s an army of MNers thinking of you and supporting you, which I hope makes you feel less alone.

I hope you have someone in real life you can speak to.

Best of luck

incognitomum · 09/06/2020 10:53

Am sure OP is ok and just getting on with telling people. Must be all manner of emotions going on. Excitement fear and worrying about people's reactions.

Best of luck if you ever read this. We're all rooting for you Flowers

BeingKindIsFree · 09/06/2020 13:32

She's probably gone into early labour and will update once they have arrived.

KeepingTwoChevronsApart · 09/06/2020 13:42

They? twins? 😄

EachandEveryone · 09/06/2020 13:45

Oh, that would be the icing on the cake. I hope the scan went well x

CherrySpritz · 09/06/2020 14:36

@BeingKindIsFree

She's probably gone into early labour and will update once they have arrived.
😂
Howmuchlongercanthislast · 09/06/2020 15:25

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