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It wasn’t wind... it was a baby!

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Ohshitx · 01/06/2020 08:10

So here’s part 2 (which is crazy to me)

There isn’t really an update as such I should hear today or tomorrow regarding a scan. I’ve got the MW again on Thursday and I suppose this week will be the week of grand reveals.

I’m sorry if I disappear for a day at a time I’m still trying to wrap my own head around this.

OP posts:

Harrysmum2020 · 04/06/2020 03:49

So happy to find your new thread I was on the last one

FourPlasticRings · 04/06/2020 05:16

@Dowser just read the thread if you want to know the backstory.

Puds11 · 04/06/2020 05:22

Good luck op! It’s bloody scary but you will be ok

BeBopTallulah · 04/06/2020 08:00

Hope the conversations to come go well and that you get support from them.

Huge congratulation though xxx

fluffygreenmonsterhoody · 04/06/2020 08:25

Take your time OP. Another few days won’t make a difference. Do whatever you need to get your own head straight.

WoollyMammouth · 04/06/2020 08:28

You may find that telling someone helps, you may find it a relief that someone knows. I wonder if by telling it makes it too real.

CanIHaveAPenguinPlease · 04/06/2020 08:50

As a mum I can tell you that if my dd came & told me she was pregnant I would be fully supportive. Shocked/surprised initially but fully supportive. I sincerely hope your mum is the same.

CormoranStrike · 04/06/2020 09:26

@CanIHaveAPenguinPlease

As a mum I can tell you that if my dd came & told me she was pregnant I would be fully supportive. Shocked/surprised initially but fully supportive. I sincerely hope your mum is the same.

Absolutely; I would be the exact same.

In fact, amid all the gloom of lockdown and the craziness of the world at the moment, this news - as long as my daughter was coping and comfortable with it - would fill me with joy and positivity.

CaughtInAnnette · 04/06/2020 09:30

Babies are little nuggets of hope and joy

Chimchar · 04/06/2020 09:35

Thinking of you op. It's a major head fuck being pregnant when you have planned and wanted it to happen. You have had a huge shock and need some time to process that.

It'll be ok, but you really need some support to reassure and care for you at this time.

Tell your mum or fwb. If you build it up by telling them you have something you need to talk to them about, they will probably assume that there is some bad news... and may well be very relieved when you tell them that it's a baby!!

Maybe some counselling would help? There will be phone lines you can call if you feel like you can't speak to people you know.

Look after yourself. Sending you a big hug xx

HillieBoliday · 04/06/2020 09:48

The other thing is shitx with kind of being in denial a bit (which is 100% understandable) we now think we need everything straight away, before the baby gets here. And whilst that can be fun for people who want to go shopping together, most of the baby stuff that’s marketed now isn’t essential.
You don’t even need a pram immediately. Friends and family would nip out & buy you some nappies, babygrows & milk if needed.

At first you can just sit and cuddle your baby, for as long as you feel like it. People will rally round, I promise you. The only thing that might be an idea is a Moses basket or carry cot or something. There will be a time, in the future when you’re over the shock when you will think “imagine if I’d never had DD or DS2”.

Blackbear19 · 04/06/2020 09:54

I was thinking the same thing. They will assume that it's bad news.
How long is FWB home, before he goes back to work? The longer you keep it to yourself the harder it will be to tell people.

northernlittledonkey · 04/06/2020 10:38

OP you're being incredibly brave getting your head around this. However, it might be time for you to get some support. If I told my Mum, she'd be delighted, hopefully yours will be the same or a good friend. Whomever you tell first will be the easiest, telling FWB does need to happen but it doesn't need to be first. Good luck and go easy on yourself, you've got this.

Dunking · 04/06/2020 10:51

Take your time OP, let things sink in and tell your FWB in your own time. Good luck !

orangeheater · 04/06/2020 11:52

@Ohshitx I really feel for you. Must be really hard. Just do whatever it takes to help you cope. Tell people when you want to.
I'd completely get it that you're worried fwb will pass judgement here but it is what it is.

When I'm super stressed about a decision I have to make, I think about how in 5 years time it really wasn't the be all and end all, even if it might feel like that right now.
All the best

Abraid2 · 04/06/2020 12:05

When I'm super stressed about a decision I have to make, I think about how in 5 years time it really wasn't the be all and end all, even if it might feel like that right now.

Yes, that's one of the best lessons I've learned in life, too.

Notenoughchocolateomg · 04/06/2020 12:07

Hope you are ok OP. Many congratulations. I read your first thread, and was so surprised. A huge shock for you so hoping all goes well.

HazelBite · 04/06/2020 12:28

OP I'm guessing that you are reluctant to tell your Mum and the father as this will make it all very real, even though of course it is all very real for you.
It has been an enormous shock for you and so difficult to get your head around, as this, I'm sure wasn't in your immediate life plan.
I am assuming you have a good relationship with your Mum so I think I would suggest that you share your news with her first or at least a friend who will be supportive and can offer you practcal help.
Its going to be difficult to tell the father as these are not the easiest times at the moment.
Congratulations and the very best of luck

smilingontheinside · 04/06/2020 13:00

Just read both threads! Wouldn't worry about the alcohol thing. I got pregnant 2nd day of a two week holiday abroad and was mortal drunk every night. I was young and enjoying life no cares. My baby is now 30 very tall and strong with no after affects at all. Hope all goes well Inc letting family and fwb know 😊

OMGafourth · 04/06/2020 14:20

OP I hope you're ok. I know you need to process this in your own terms, but I hope when you do tell your mum/son/fwb they step up to support you the way you will need.
If your anywhere in the south east, I have some baby bits you'd be welcome to

Littlegoth · 04/06/2020 14:43

Thinking of you, what a shock x

Patterson9 · 04/06/2020 18:44

Good luck OP.

BingeOnChocolate · 04/06/2020 18:50

Good luck Op and congratulations x

fluffiny31 · 04/06/2020 19:08

Not read the full thread but I've read op updates. Just want to wish you well and send you some hope all is well at your scan and hope the talks go well.

CoquettishIngenue · 04/06/2020 19:28

Congratulations and good luck. I'm dying to know just how far along you are.

I sometimes wish this would happen to me, as there's never been a "right time" for a second child for us.

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