It wasn’t wind... it was a baby!

[Ohshitx]

So here’s part 2 (which is crazy to me)

There isn’t really an update as such I should hear today or tomorrow regarding a scan. I’ve got the MW again on Thursday and I suppose this week will be the week of grand reveals.

I’m sorry if I disappear for a day at a time I’m still trying to wrap my own head around this.

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It seems likely that your mum will only be bothered about whether or not this will be difficult for you. You are already a mum, so although a second child is a huge change in your life, it is unlikely to turn everything upside down.

Once she has got over the shock she will probably be chuffed to bits. If she adores the grandson she already has then she will think your baby is utterly wonderful too.

Telling your mum and friend is going to be hard as it will be make it real and you don't know how they will react, but once it is done you won't have it hanging over you any more. It is a shame that you haven't had a scan quickly. I am sure that that would help. Stay strong, we are all rooting for you.

How are you getting on today @Ohshitx? Have you managed to tell the dad yet?

Hope you’re okay OP, and that everything is going well for you.

How are you today, have you managed to tell anyone in RL yet?

I feel like this is everyone on mumsnet baby now too! We are all surrogate mothers to your baby! If you’re around west London I have some baby bits you’re welcome to.

Also, you’re some woman for keeping quiet so long, I can’t take a crap without telling my mum! My mouth runs away with me!

Wow good luck with everything

I can't tag the OP but wanted to say I've been thinking about you lots and hope you're getting your head round things and have some real life support for you and your DC too x

Luckily, on this page there’s an advert about being fashionably pregnant, which is surely your main concern. Everything else will just fall into place. Probably.

I hope you’re ok, and congratulations! How amazing and terrifying all at once.

Wow amazing. It's almost unbelievable really!

Good Luck @Ohshitx, hope everything goes well for you x

OP this is is amazing!! YOU are amazing! I am sure - once the shock subsides - your mum and FWB will be really happy x

Strange, shocking, amazing. I really hope you get support from your people when you tell them. If not, I guess this is what we're for!
Just as a point of interest I had a FWB for years. He later told me, when I was married with kids, he'd hoped I'd accidentally get pregnant so we'd get together properly! Maybe just say you want to be together?! I would have aswell! Good luck 💕

Oh god don't @Skyeshovercraft - you'll be getting me all excited like when the poster fell in love with her BF and told him & he felt the same and it was amazing ❤️

I hope you've had a chance to open up to someone OP. I cannot imagine how shocked you must be. Frankly, I'm sure there are moments where it makes you feel sick, as well as moments of feeling positive.

I can't help feeling that once you've told SOMEONE, it will take some of the pressure out of it. The secrecy of it will make it far worse.

Perhaps even talk to someone on a helpline? Keeping your own counsel this whole time must be so hard.

You could even script how you want to approach it, especially with your son. I understand all those who say their children were delighted, but given that it's just been the two of you, I can imagine it being tough for you both.

Thinking of you, and absolutely willing it all to be easier than you think.

Oh gosh what a shock. I hope you are able to tell your mum soon and share the secret xx

Oh you lucky thing!
Hope fwb and your son are ok

Just delurking after both threads to send you love, OP - this is a headfuck!

Hopefully a happy one, but while we're all rooting for you, you don't owe us updates or apologies 💚

Hope you're ok

Hope you're doing ok @Ohshitx x

Read this all last night. Oh my goodness 😵😵😵 hope you're managing OP. Its a lot to take in especially at the time.

Hope everything is OK @ohshitx

Hope you’re ok OP, you’ve gone awfully quiet. Thinking of you.

How are you doing Ohshitx?
Have you got RL support yet, either from your mum or the friend or even just a friend who's a little more detached from it.
You really do need support from somewhere.

Hope you are feeling ok & have managed to process your new situation a little. I’m sure DS will take the news well & be super excited, although there may be quite a few questions asked! Good luck, you sound lovely & a fab Mum 💐