It wasn’t wind... it was a baby!

[Ohshitx]

So here’s part 2 (which is crazy to me)

There isn’t really an update as such I should hear today or tomorrow regarding a scan. I’ve got the MW again on Thursday and I suppose this week will be the week of grand reveals.

I’m sorry if I disappear for a day at a time I’m still trying to wrap my own head around this.

and . Take everything at your own pace x

Oh my goodness. What a lockdown for you!

I can't imagine how you're feeling! Good luck x

Can someone tell me what FWB stands for? Thank you.

Friend with benefits (or you could always use the shorthand fuckbuddy)

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Good luck OP! Don't think that you need to do anything today, or tomorrow for that matter. Much better to think about what you're going to say and choose your moment wisely than rushing into it just because some people you don't know on the internet want an update!

@Sparklfairy no it's Cos he's the dad and he's gone become a father very soon and he has equal rights to get his head round the idea

I had an appointment at a local firm, the receptionist hadn't arrived for work as she'd unexpectedly had a baby the previous evening. She'd been on a diet as was planning her wedding, but wasn't losing as much as she had hoped. She'd been feeling unwell so went upstairs and in the bathroom went into labour. The new gm phoned her dh and told him they needed to crack on with the work on their dd's new home as the first addition had just arrived. The df told the new dad he had to shower and change before going to the hospital where the new mum and baby had been for a check up.

no it's Cos he's the dad and he's gone become a father very soon and he has equal rights to get his head round the idea

A matter of days or even a few weeks will make no difference to that. Whatever way you look at it, OP's life is going to change far more dramatically than his is. And she has to birth a human. I think her needs come first here.

Ah OP, ignore people pushing you to do things because they want to use you as a soap opera. Take your time and doing things at a pace you're comfortable with. Most of us are here just for you and to offer support. I hope you managed to
Find a private scan appointment.

Woman I worked with became a Granny via a concealed pregnancy - her DIL was a fitness instructor, on the pill, monthly bleeds throughout. Called ambulance with suspected appendicitis they waited until they got her to the hospital to tell her they thought she was in prematurely labour.

7lb full term baby turned up. My colleague was shocked as had seen her in gym kit a couple of weeks before she gave birth.

My current colleague didn't find out with #2 until she was 6 months and had gone to Drs, said her bump appeared overnight.

Omg congratulations baby's only being joy 😁in fact I'm slightly jealous I didn't find out late then only have a couple of weeks to worry

What a shock for you, and the father. Granny advice here, take a deep breath, and do what YOU want to do. Tell who YOU want to tell, and enjoy coming to terms with this in your own time. But remember you do have choices.

Hope the chats go well for you.

I agree with others we're just here for support if you need it.

Thinking of you, OP. But no pressure to update

Good luck Echoing everyone else. Of course we're all waiting to hear updates but this is your life not a soap opera, you don't owe us anything, do what you need to do when you need to do it. We're here if you need us.

Hoping the reveals go smoothly for you. And congratulations!!

I can’t keep burying my head in the sand though. Realistically in 9 weeks, maybe less there will be a baby. But I just keep not thinking about it. Doing anything to not think about it. Although tonight it feels like there’s a pair of feet hooked into my ribs 😫 so it’s not as easy to ignore.

One thing you can't do hun is ignore it. Do you have a close friend you could call

Just take a deep breath op, and tell your mum. Over the phone if need be. It will be fine. She may be shocked but you will likely feel much better getting it out there. Or tell fwb first. It will shock them even more if you just pop a baby out in 8 weeks 😂

I'm sending you all the best wishes in the world. You seem very level headed and brave.

Hope your doing ok OP, this must be scary for you. At the end of this you'll have a gorgeous squishy baby, you've done this before, you'll be great, with help from your son this time

OP, do you know about the Mumsnet antenatal threads?

When you feel ready, have a look at the one for your due date. I found the antenatal threads a great support when I was pregnant and beyond. We formed a Facebook group off the back of the Mumsnet thread for my youngest's due date, and we had a mother join us who found out really late too. Years later loads of us are still in contact and some have met up and made real life friendships. I found it a great support.

Find your month here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/birth_clubs

I just wanted to say congratulations, and don't put pressure on yourself it's a big shock!

Is there a close friend you trust who you can talk too? It might help to make it more real, and you can talk things through and have some support?

I think you are coping incredibly well, understandably it's hard to talk to FWB, and I bet you've gone through all the different outcomes in your head, I hope he is at least supportive. You almost don't want to tell him as then you can imagine a positive outcome (which may happen anyway)

Good luck and do what is right for you at your own pace 😊

Oh op, I'm sure I'd bury my head in the sand too. Book a private scan, seeing the baby will surely make it all feel more real!
Best of luck when you decide to tell fwb, maybe write a little script for yourself just to help get it all out clearly.