It wasn’t wind... it was a baby!

[Ohshitx]

So here’s part 2 (which is crazy to me)

There isn’t really an update as such I should hear today or tomorrow regarding a scan. I’ve got the MW again on Thursday and I suppose this week will be the week of grand reveals.

I’m sorry if I disappear for a day at a time I’m still trying to wrap my own head around this.

I just wanted to add my congratulations to you op. I've been reading since the start, but not been on for a few days. 31 weeks! Wow! My yd was born at 31 weeks!
I hope the scan goes well when you have it, and the talks with your mum, ds and fwb go well

OP I read your last thread, I completely understand being worried to tell anyone. We had a surprise 4th pregnancy, I thought everyone would be disappointed and judgemental and I admit I left it a good few weeks as I was trying to get my head around it all myself let alone having everyone else's opinions, but as soon as I did tell people I felt like a weight had been lifted, people actually didn't react as badly as I had thought in the end they were all more excited then me which was strange. It took me the whole pregnancy to come to terms with it if I'm being honest so whatever you are feeling is completely valid, I just wanted to say take care of yourself, things will work out in the end I promise! I don't think anyone will judge you, you sound like a lovely person! TC xxx

Thinking of you. What would you like from the father? Are you at all interested in a relationship with him? Do you want him to co parent? Probably good to think out what you would like from him before you talk to him, even if you just keep those things in the back of your mind.

31 weeks, wow!!! I was 27 weeks with my 3 year old when I felt her kick, no symptoms before. The same happened, no bump, next day, well hello massive belly.

Wishing you well OP,
You got this :)

I definitely think you should go for a private scan. It's appalling that you're being made to wait until next week.

I hope your conversation with the FWB goes well. I'm sure he'll be shocked, but then so were you (understandably). Hopefully then you'll feel confident to start to tell your close family. It's a time when support is very welcome, and it'll help you put plans into place.

Oh OP, I love this thread and these updates but that's just because I'm so hoping that all will go well. I guess most of us are wishing you the best and craving good news. Please don't feel pressured to do or say anything before you want to.

Hope the conversation goes well - all will be fine in the long run!

Just read the first thread and this one.

I can’t believe what’s happened and really feel for you OP. Not surprised your in shock. But you’ve got this. Sounds like your a lovely mum to DS and between you and DS your baby will be very loved.

It will be a shock for your mum and FWB too - but just remind them it’s just as hard for you and you need them to step up and support you. Your the one going through this pregnancy.

Thinking of you

Ohshitx another thought for you, clearly you don't look pregnant or you'd have sussed before now. So that might also be a good reason for family to believe that you aren't lying.

I've no doubt you are going to be met with shock. But the sooner you tell them the sooner, they get over the shock and you get real life support.

I'm fingers crossed that you get support from somewhere.

A workmate was moaning about her 16 year old sister. Her sister had been complaining of feeling unwell, with a sore tummy and being sick. She said the problem with her was because she was always eating too much and was getting fat!

She came to work one Monday morning and told us her sister had had a baby. Apparently she didn’t know she was pregnant, until she started having contractions! Friend had went upstairs, to find her sister curled up in pain. Sister told her to go and get their mum! She told them both she thought she was pregnant. Mum asked if she was sure and if so how far gone she was. Reply was that she needed an ambulance as she thought she was in labour. 6lb 7oz baby arrived a few hours later!

Her sister still swears that she had no idea she could be pregnant as she was taking precautions and hadn’t missed a period!

Congratulations op, hope everything works out well for you

I just want to say congratulations and good luck OP 🍀

I used to think that "not knowing" until a fairly stage was mostly people who didn't want to be pregnant turning a blind eye in the hope that the problem would somehow go away (a family member fell pregnant in the 60's before she was married and only really acknowledged it when someone else suspected she might be). But three things happened that have made me realize that some people genuinely don't know. Firstly I had a more or less symptoms free pregnancy which if I wasn't on the look out for I could see me not knowing for several months, secondly an otherwise sensible, intelligent college with no reason to not face up to pregnancy (she was married and was planning to start TTC in the next year or so) found out she was pregnant when she when her watees broke in the middle of a meeting and thirdly I read an article by a woman who had two child (so she knew what pregnancy felt like) and was actively TTC with her new partner (so would have been delighted to know she was expecting) again only found out she was expecting when she delivered a baby in her bathroom so sometimes it's not obvious. People that that have had classic pregnancies with morning sickness and a host of other symptoms might think how can someone not know but I was sick twice during my pregnancy - in the middle of a glucose tolerance test and in the delivery room on trying gas and air!
Good luck and don't beat yourself up - you didn't expect to be pregnant so you weren't on alert to any little symptoms that someone who knew they were expecting might pick up on.

OP if it helps, FWB isn’t just FWB, he’s clearly a good friend. Yes he may take time to process it, but he’s your friend and it will be fine in the end even though scary now.

U really need to tell fwb today. If baby is coming soon like u say then he deserves to know ASAP

U really need to tell fwb today.

No, she jolly well doesn't. One day or one week won't make a jot of difference and she's perfectly entitled to come to terms with it herself first.

Take your time, do things at your pace. Good luck.

OP I read your last thread and congratulations! Dont feel the need to apologise or update the thread, you are going through a lot. On my 3rd pregnancy I just couldn't get my head around it so I told no one except my husband and i couldn't even speak to him about it. It wasn't that I didn't want the baby but I felt that if I spoke of it I would "jinx" the pregnancy or that until the baby arrived healthy something would go wrong. The thoughts of speaking to anyone made me sick. Obviously it was all in my head, and I was all in my head! Everyone was really supportive and it wasn't like I had catastrophized in my head. Get your own head on straight and dont feel you need to tell anyone or take anyone to the scan. Once you feel ready then tell someone, I bet your mum will be thrilled, and I find once mums know then everyone else does too. Best of luck x

U really need to tell fwb today

I get the feeling you're only saying this to speed up the 'update'. This is OP's life. Not a soap opera.

U really need to tell fwb today

No op can tell him when she feels it’s right to do so not when some random on the internet says.

Just wanted to say, I'm still thinking of you
And I'm so impressed how you're holing it together I'm sure you'll cope with what's to come

Wow, what a crazy week. You are so much more calmer than I would be. Also, pp who are urging her to tell FWB now, this is not an episode of EastEnders. This is her real life which she can do at her own pace. She also needs to process this too.

Good luck Op and only update if you wish to. And, congratulations!

@Ohshitx just sending you some ❤ and courage 💪You've got this 💐 xx

I’m very excited for you OP! Sending lots of love and luck 💙