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We're all going on a summer holiday

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MinnieMountain · 26/05/2020 17:50

Even if it means 2 weeks of quarantine Grin
The anti -dementors are here to be reasonable and sensible about everything.

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MrsArchchancellorRidcully · 29/05/2020 09:06

This is just dragging on so much now and I can't see a way out. How can kids continue to be off school (it's not home educating) past September?! It just feels like no one in authority gives a crap or is prepared to stand up and say, right. It's been months. Come September we have to get children in school. No social distancing as hand washing is more effective.

Especially in wales. We are behind everyone in loosing lockdown.

I met a friend in the park yesterday with her kids for a 2n walk. Soon joined by another friend who lived opposite and spotted us. After about 10mins we didn't give a crap and kids had a whale of a time playing and we 3 mums had a very good catch up.

We were all discussing how anyone can go back to work if they have school age kids. No holiday clubs, no after school clubs. I'm lucky. My employer has made it clear I can work from home all year if I need to. But there are so many who can't. It's a nightmare

ExpletiveDelighted · 29/05/2020 09:09

I've posted occasionally on the other threads but struggle to keep up. I'm starting to worry that I have become institutionalised as I feel anxious about easing lockdown and my teen DCs seem to be in no rush to get back out there either. Previously we all had lots of sports and hobbies outside the home. I too think the young have been seriously shafted, mine are not in priority years for return to school and another 4 months at home is not what they need. I agree about the playground closures being unreasonable too, we used to use them all the time when the DCs were younger and even now if they find a quiet one suitable for older kids they love them.

SirSamuelVimesBlackboardMonito · 29/05/2020 09:09

It's going to force an enormous number of women out of work.

bakingcupcakes · 29/05/2020 09:11

Yesterday I had an email from school advising the council have told them not to open. I already knew as I'd seen my council mentioned somewhere on here.

I had a particularly bad day yesterday with very poor parenting on my part. This morning I've just cried. I feel totally hopeless. Work are happy for me to remain at home until furlough ends or september depending on school and to alter my days/shifts to fit what care/education school can offer. It was a positive conversation in terms of job security but I feel so down. I just can't see myself doing this nothingness until september all by myself.

Drivingdownthe101 · 29/05/2020 09:13

I feel similar ExpletiveDelighted. I think it’s normal to feel cautious when you’ve been told for so long that by going out you’re killing people and risking your own life!

Bollss · 29/05/2020 09:15

It really is. I mean we would just about cope if before and after school clubs don't open come September. Only because I should be able to start new job after drop off and dp could start and finish 15 mins earlier to mark pick up. But it means dropping a shit tonne of overtime so obviously we will have a lot less money.

If we're doing this part time schooling thing I don't know what we'll do. We can't afford to take tonnes of unpaid leave! I guess I'd have to send DS to a childminder the other days? But then when do we teach him? The weekend? That doesn't seem fair!

I mean we are lucky we can afford to pay for childcare in sept (mainly because we budget for ft nursery now!) But many won't be able to. What will happen to those people?

And if everyone does what we would have to do or uses friends or grandparents or whoever the "bubble" becomes much bigger than it would if you had a full class in all week!

AnxiousElephant77 · 29/05/2020 09:19

@ExpletiveDelighted I'm not anxious at all about easing lockdown, but my dd (13) made a slightly worrying comment about preferring being at home to being at school because she doesn't miss the drama. And whilst I understand what she's saying, and I'm pleased she's happy at home, it's not real life. She needs to develop her resilience and deal with the drama and not get comfortable hiding at home. Doing 85 eye looks with her make up a day, making videos on her phone and FaceTiming her friends is no substitute for her actual life.

PickAChew · 29/05/2020 09:21

@justasking111 I think we will j have a drought. Our grass verges are turning brown. It usually takes extreme weather like last July's heatwave to do that, up here. Normally, at the end of May, they're still very wet from the winter.

The birds have been going mad for our bird bath, which is the only standing water around

Cattermole · 29/05/2020 09:24

Just taken DS for a murder shop. Poor little bugger he was so scared when he walked in - but what if people are cross with me for being in here?
Well, he was in there because I don't want him to forget what other human beings are like. I don't want him to assume that every other entity that breathes is going to give him the plague.
(He's fine now, having been bought a robot chameleon as a reward for his good school report.)

We're getting there. Big hugs and good coffee to all this morning, and have as good a day as possible. Even if as good as it gets is upright with knickers on....

SpnBaby1967 · 29/05/2020 09:24

In this kind of weather my 3 kids would be taking themselves off to the park behind our house, or the one behind the school by themselves. They'd be in & out the house all day, wearing themselves out, seeing friends, making new friends and generally being children.

Now they sit at home all day, on their phones/tablets/computers/tv. How is this beneficial to children? They dont want to "go for a walk" they're 7, 9 & 11. They want to play, they want to climb, they want to run and laugh with friends!

The children being forgotten is the worst part about this whole pandemic, well, that is forgotten until it fits the agenda of unions or certain teachers who scream Kawasaki at the mere mention of sending kids back into the world (anyone else notice that's gone quiet lately too?) But they're not fooling anyone if they think we believe they are saying it to protect children. It's to stop them needing to go back to work.

FFS we are regulating who our children can see, forbidding them from hugging their grandparents, forbidding them from going down a fucking slide Ffs! Even war time children were allowed to play.

KateTheShrew · 29/05/2020 09:25

I've really hit a wall the last couple of days. Feel completely spaced out and detached. We have no family local enough to meet up with and I'm just desperate to find someone who will let DS have a run around with their child but I'm afraid to ask in case they disapprove and I cut him off from his friends. School not going back here either.

rookiemere · 29/05/2020 09:25

I feel lucky DS is 14, although that has provided its own challenges with trying to encourage him to do schoolwork whilst working and watching him turn from stocky but well maintained with rugby, gym and football to podgy,pale and hopelessly addicted to computer games

Janaih · 29/05/2020 09:33

I have an anxious teen who thinks I'm recklessly irresponsible, and all her twitter friends agree.
I'm glad I'm not the only one but my heart goes out to them and their families who have to deal with it.

DominaShantotto · 29/05/2020 09:35

The 8 year old has NO imaginative play ability at all (never has done - we suspect autism to be honest) - is doing my fucking head in now being unable to play at all without annoying the shit out of her sister to be the playmate and do exactly what she says.

Orangeblossom78 · 29/05/2020 09:43

I think 'class divide' is just (bad) wordplay because it's about schools?

Yes I see. There has been some stuff about prep schools going back and the poorer children less likely so I wasn't sure.

Orangeblossom78 · 29/05/2020 09:45

It's going to force an enormous number of women out of work

Yes it will but on MN this will be oddly, denied by dementors Confused

Orangeblossom78 · 29/05/2020 09:49

SpnBaby yes it is like we are back to wrapping them in cotton wool and not slowly giving them independence, I agree.

My 11 yr old returns to school himself I am hoping to at least let him walk to school after maybe the first day (to work out where to go as it seems some of us have to go through the car park- previously this was not allowed due to car safety)

and they can start to play out again without people dementoring at them.

Bollss · 29/05/2020 09:51

Yes it will but on MN this will be oddly, denied by dementors

Yes or blamed entirely on those women for making "bad choices" Angry

Some women just hate women don't they. Awful.

KnobChops · 29/05/2020 09:58

@TrustTheGeneGenie

Yes it will but on MN this will be oddly, denied by dementors

Yes or blamed entirely on those women for making "bad choices" Angry

Some women just hate women don't they. Awful.

Yes. And a lot of the time it’s supporters of teachers on here making vile comments about school not being childcare and that good parents should be able to do a teaching job. It’s shameful really. I’m not sure if it’s coming from a place of fear or laziness to be honest.
Orangeblossom78 · 29/05/2020 10:03

I feel fortunate in a way to have to experienced any of that school dementoring personally, and that the school messages have been pretty positive and clear.

Orangeblossom78 · 29/05/2020 10:05

Dowser I think cleaners are allowed now

Orangeblossom78 · 29/05/2020 10:05

Dentists to open from next week which is good

BarkandCheese · 29/05/2020 10:05

I can’t see how anyone can deny that this will have a huge impact on women beings able to work.

I’d like to say I’m off on a murderous spree today, but I’m going to the crematorium with my mum to put flowers on the memorials of my grandparents and her husband (something we normally traditionally do over Easter) and I’m not sure you can be murderous in a crem. The murdering will have to wait until Sunday when we’re going to my dad’s for a bbq and there will be a whole against the rules eight people in his garden. Not to mention I’m going on Sunday when it’s still considered deadly to meet up with more than one person, when on Monday it would be less deadly.

DominaShantotto · 29/05/2020 10:07

@Orangeblossom78

It's going to force an enormous number of women out of work

Yes it will but on MN this will be oddly, denied by dementors Confused

Nope - it's all women's individual choices of course! Fuckwits.

I CAN do a really competent teaching job... to a class of 30 kids. Give me my own two and they're the class from hell - and I think every teacher or ex-teacher in the land would say exactly the same thing! (Apart from one of DD2's teachers who has teenagers and admits it's just "throw food at them when they appear and let them sleep")

rosettesforjill · 29/05/2020 10:09

Bracing myself for dementor central as South Korea have closed schools again... hoping I've muted enough of them to be spared the brunt of it!