How come Mrs Hinch can do it?

[babysnowman]

Not bashing her at all, I really quite like her page.

But this morning I saw her videos about wearing a dress and putting her nails on, baby has eaten a lovely homemade breakfast, house is clean and it's only the morning.

I'm usually dressed in baggy old clothes (even though I have a wardrobe full of nice things), I make nice things for the baby to eat but she just throws it on the floor, and if I do get a chance to tidy something it's messy again within an hour. DD hasn't slept well at night all week, and is resisting her daytime naps so I'm exhausted.

How does she do it? Are other people able to do it? I don't understand what I'm doing wrong .

Is it really necessary to be so spiteful towards a person who makes a choice to live their life a certain way?

The way this person has chosen to live her life is to actively attempt to prey on other women's insecurities to flog them shit, with a dollop of encouraging potentially dangerous behaviour in there too. Spite is a perfectly appropriate response.

OP do try not to pay attention or measure yourself against this. It's merely an attempt to part you from your money, that's all. There's always been a strain of advertising that tries to make people feel they're not good enough and they need to buy a particular product to improve themselves, fill the hole. This is just a new and insidious version. The version of life the instamummies present isn't any more genuine than the adverts that would've been used to hawk products a few decades ago.

I'm reasonably sure she has another house she actually lives in. That's what I tell myself anyway.

@RuffleCrow yes I agree totally with you. The children are almost accessories added into the story.

Oh gosh op. Please please don't compare yourself to these Instagram influencers.

I have 2 kids under the age of 2.5. My husband works shifts in a key role. I'm exhausted at the moment as baby isn't sleeping and 2 year old is super clingy and needs constant attention. I can't remember the last time I put make up on. I've been wearing the same bra for over a week and I've not showered today. I screamed at my toddler earlier an d than burst into tears myself and that happens most days currently.
Motherhood is fucking hard, and it's even harder in lockdown. Everyone deals/copes with it differently. If everyone is alive and fed at the end of the day you just call it a win and move on.

I don't follow Mrs hinch (who spends baby/child free time cleaning for fucks sake?!) but even before I'd looked at her insta just now I could tell you her child was a baby and not a toddler. Wait till hes a bit older, refuses perfectly good food that he ate fine yesterday, asks 10000000 times a day for a biscuit and picks up everything in the house to ask what it is or play with.

I am looking forward to 'Mrs Hinch the Teenage Years' when Ronnie brings all his mates back.

It’s her job - that’s why.
She doesn’t get up and work a full 9 hr day of Lawyering like I do.
That’s what she does.

@platform9andthreequarters that sounds bloody tough. Hope you can get some time to recharge soon x

I don't know how you or anyone can place any stock in a woman who has a fully kitted out human style bedroom for her dog.

@bernadetterostankowskiwolowitz yep totally agree

Yeah she mainly shows the perfected images on Instagram..most people do. If I was given the opportunities she has, I would do exactly the same.

As for being fake, maybe she is sometimes but she also openly admits she suffers with anxiety and has ‘down’ days. So she’s not always putting out the ‘life is perfect’ vibes. That makes me feel and probably a lot of others better about themselves or their days.

Can you imagine how exhausting it must be to wake up & have to tidy up, make yourself, house & baby look immaculate-even for 5 minutes?! I know it’s her job, but even so.

It's her job. That's how she makes a living. If I was getting paid hundreds of grand to share recipes, paint my nails and put on a dress I sure as hell would be doing it. But I'm not so I'm not

The way this person has chosen to live her life is to actively attempt to prey on other women's insecurities to flog them shit, with a dollop of encouraging potentially dangerous behaviour in there too

WTF.
For all those saying OMG she's preying on other women's vulnerabilities to flog them shit, there's others out there she's actively helping
As someone who suffers from anxiety, her IG stories get me motivated.
Nothing else much does but they do.

Bit off topic but how much has this woman actually made? Her house is decorated nicely (if you like that kind of thing) but its clearly a bog standard semi and isn't massive so she can't be bringing in millions surely?

No idea but a lot more than some people probably realise. However she needs to be relatable so she can't be doing swipes up for Harrods.

@babysnowman It is hard. My first one was the sickeningly good kind and my second wasn't a bad baby, but I was numb with birth trauma and life didn't feel so great. It does get better.

Remember OP these influencers do have a very staged profile, they only show what they want. I love mrs hinch she's given some great tips for the house however its all very high maintenance. And unnecessary in alot of ways, there is only so many times you can disinfect the house.
I also follow stacey Solomon. Now she's a goddess in my eyes, very down to earth, funny, realistic, and imperfectly perfect. If you enjoy influencers then look around theres skmeone for everyone

I am also looking forward to Ronnie getting older as they have said this week that all they want is for Ronnie to be their "best friend"...awaah how sweet!...NOT
Parenting 101- YOUR CHILDREN ARE NOT YOUR BEST FRIENDS!! they are your children...you are the parent!! Not their bloody friend...

She also says a lot that she would die if Ronnie was ever bullied...I wonder how she would feel if Ronnie was the bully??

I often look at first time mums and parents who coo over their child's perfectness (as I did myself) and wonder do they have ANY idea that they are soon going to get let down when they realise that their child is after all...only human and will make them feel a whole host of feelings other than pride!! All totally normal of course but it happens...and it's mind boggling!!

Your account of how Mrs Hinch helps you with your anxiety doesn't negate a single thing I've said lemonadeanddaisychains. The wtf is that you'd imagine it does. She is a hawker of products, that's all.

who spends baby/child free time cleaning for fucks sake?

Well I did when my two were babies. I love having a clean and tidy house and it gets to me when I know I need to hoover or the bathroom needs cleaning. If I did these jobs when the baby was asleep then I know I could spend time with them when they were awake.

Like a PP, I had to shower/dress/make up before the baby woke up so if that meant setting the alarm and getting up early then so be it. We were out every day at groups, etc. so I didn't want to go out looking a state just because I was now a parent.

I also used to clean when the baby was sleeping. If you don't then the house becomes pretty disgusting, surely?

I'm surprised at all the Mrs Hinch hate, seems a bit over the top to me.

who spends baby/child free time cleaning for fucks sake?

I agree, that's why I have a cleaner

The problem I'm having at the moment is that baby wakes regularly through the night, and is up for the day at around 5am. If I wanted to do my makeup etc before she woke up I'd have to get up around 4.30 after having very little/ broken sleep. How your baby sleeps overall has a huge impact on this.

That sounds brutal OP.

As everyone else has said, it's not real life. It's a snapshot. I wouldn't be surprised if you're only seeing the tidy parts of the house and that the rest of it is a bombsite.

Because of lockdown I don't get dressed properly, I wear loungewear. And my house is only tidy after we've put dcs to bed 😂