How come Mrs Hinch can do it?

[babysnowman]

Not bashing her at all, I really quite like her page.

But this morning I saw her videos about wearing a dress and putting her nails on, baby has eaten a lovely homemade breakfast, house is clean and it's only the morning.

I'm usually dressed in baggy old clothes (even though I have a wardrobe full of nice things), I make nice things for the baby to eat but she just throws it on the floor, and if I do get a chance to tidy something it's messy again within an hour. DD hasn't slept well at night all week, and is resisting her daytime naps so I'm exhausted.

How does she do it? Are other people able to do it? I don't understand what I'm doing wrong .

When my first was born my husband took 2 weeks off work, the house was immaculate, the baby fed. I had time for a shower every morning and got dressed. When he went back to work my Nan moved in for a month. (We didn’t live close to family) anyway she got up at 5am, dis the washing, ironing and cleaning. She then came and got the baby while I caught up in sleep, showered, painted my nails, straightened my hair etc... to the outside world I looked like I was doing this all without help. It was a shock when number 2 came and we lived closer to family so s didn’t have anyone come and stay. Life was pretty much how you describe it. It does eventually get better. X

Is it really necessary to be so spiteful towards a person who makes a choice to live their life a certain way?

Influencers are essentially living adverts, everything they put out on the gram has to comply with their brand as that is how they sell themselves, you then buy a particular product because they use it but you're buying into a particular lifestyle.

Not knocking it, as long as they use the correct hashtags marking things as an #ad etc fair play to them. But comparing yourself to them is like comparing yourself to a TV advert.

I actually like Mrs Hinch and I follow her - but I know it's not very good for me.

I had a terrible time on Mat leave - PND, in a new home which needed shitloads of work doing to it, new area, husband working king hours, debt problems - and when I see her and others being all "I'm so blessed" I feel so bad that I didn't feel like that at all until I went back to work at 12 months.

But I do think she seems like a nice person and it is literally her job to post this sort of content. So really, I am the mug for following!

Plus her husband is on a career break so she has that help around the house - and no money worries.

You aren't doing anything wrong op. I'm sure you're doing a great job - being a parent is hard! You've seen a tiny snap shot of mrs hinch's life with no idea of what goes on behind the scenes / what help she has had etc. If it's making you feel as though you're doing something wrong then please step away and don't watch any more.

FWIW even if I could find the time and energy to glam myself up and have a spotless home each day I'd still actively choose not to do it. I don't find it desirable or something to aspire too. I keep a clean house but use minimal / natural products. It's not quite as clean as it was before ds but I've made peace with that. I think the amount of cleaning products mrs hinch uses and promotes is outrageous and it is a huge over-use of chemicals and waste of plastic.

Don't worry about mrs hinch and her standards.

She is a totally fake persona IMHO. Made up for the sole purpose of making money.

because it's her job. You'd do it if someone was paying you the same £££ she's paid to be immaculate on insta.

I remember some journo asking Liz Hurley how she managed to lose her baby weight so fast, and she replied along the lines that she basically ate nothing because being thin was her livelihood.

Is it really necessary to be so spiteful towards a person who makes a choice to live their life a certain way?

She's not just choosing it though, she's making it seem like her reality is achievable if you just but the right stuff. Ads have always done that, but you knew they were ads. Influencers, though, make it look real and a large number of generally young women at a vulnerable stage of their lives are pulled into it, and feel like crap.

She doesn't show all the horrible stuff when the baby is screaming the place down etc Plus as PPs have said her DH seems to be taking a really long paternity leave so she's not on her own.

I started following her a couple of years ago for cleaning tips but it's very different now. All #gifted and 'brand ambassador'. I am very sceptical of every post she makes.

It is not real OP.

I'd rather be living in my slightly chaotic mismatched home than in a grey velvet box.

Also - I was shocked when a younger colleague once made a throw away comment about how I showed how women really could have it all. She didn't see how I got up at 5am to work, cried on the train because I'd had to leave a sobbing baby with our (lovely-but-not-mum) nanny, lost my patience with DCs and DH, was mopping the floor at 10pm, realised at midnight that it was 'wear something purple' day at school in the morning and all the rest, because I come from a culture where you don't talk much about your private life, and where it's important to always be well presented. After that I've tried to be more open to others about how things go, especially with others who might not see beyond the outside - but I think some people go the other way, and produce a perfect hard shell that in no way represents a real way of living.

You only see the bits she wants to show. Just because she posts a picture of one tidy room, doesn’t mean the rest of the house is like that! Her house must stink with all that chemical crap being sprayed around everywhere.

As others have said - this is her persona, her character. She’s a very clever businesswoman. Her husband has taken time off work since their son was born and he’s at home - 2 adults and a baby is much easier than being alone with a baby for most of the day. It’s an illusion, a carefully crafted illusion.

She's a sales person who relies on selling so just treat it all like an advert.

And the elaborate meals for her baby are preparing her audience for a new book. She’s done the cleaning thing, now she’s priming to move into a lifestyle brand and I bet a baby weaning book is on the horizon.

I am a bit worried for when the baby is a toddler, those wax melts will need shifting.

OP every time you engage with her posts on social media you are making her money from advertising which is what pays for her lifestyle. She is posting a carefully curated image which bears no resemblance to her actual life because that is her job, and every time you scroll through her Instagram she is getting paid more, because that is how social media influencers make their money. By influencing you.

So stop paying her any attention. None of it is real and it just makes people feel bad about their own lives. She's making money by posting fake things and making people feel bad because they think it's real.

If you were being paid to keep your house tidy and take a few pictures you’d probably have more motivation to tidy up and do your hair...I know I definitely would.

She’s not a real person with a real life, her career is the persona of Mrs Hinch. If you notice she take social media breaks on the odd day, I imagine these days are so she can slob on the couch and give her baby the Ella’s kitchen pouches that she doesn’t use but keeps a cupboard full of just in case!!

It’s like how Leigh Francis is Keith Lemon - she’s just playing a part!

It's a bit like saying, "Oh isn't the Queen fantastic, managing all alone in lockdown" when apparently she has 24 live in servants who are doing everything for her. They have put her needs above their own families.

Hi everyone, thanks for the comments and perspective. I didn't know her husband was at home so that makes a lot of sense, I can't really compare myself to that when we are both still trying to work full time with no childcare! I think I do need to stop looking at Insta altogether, as to be fair it's not just her there are plenty of other mum blogs I look at that make me feel the same way.

I don't use insta anymore simply because I got sick of being sold too & imo it lost all its authenticity which is what I liked about it in the first place.

The answer is that it’s her job and it’s crafted to sell a lifestyle so she can pay the bills.

Dh has an instagram heavy business (he’s not an influencer, he has a normal successful business but a lot of followers on Instagram as it’s sort of a luxury lifestyle product).

Most of the posts aren’t even of our life that day. We pick an easy day when kids are cooperating or just generally not miserable. We can get a load of images that can be used over time to make it look like we do that sort of thing every day. We also have someone who helps us to take lots of images of products that look like we took them. We didn’t, but he has lots of free time and no kids and it’s easy for him. Sometimes we recycle images from a few years ago, but no one’s paying that much attention.

@Michaelbaubles I don't know why I don't just wear the nice stuff, I have a bad habit of wanting things 'just right' so if my hair isn't washed or I have big bags under my eyes then I think there's no point in wasting a nice dress that day. But then I feel crap because I look sloppy, vicious circle 😂

Probably because she gets off her arse ?

I mean I could probably do all that, but I don't get up until 10 most mornings