Anti Dementors Party with Patronii

[LilacTree1]

Are you out there, my lovelies?

a compulsion to control

Shodan you amateur! I will be doing take away coffee and food all shift today so will be culling a small nation all by myself🤣🤣

My town (next to my tiny town but of which we are a part of) has over 200,000 residents. I worked out out infection rate is 0.18% overall our residents have pretty much stuck to the ROOLZ, a few of our parks have gotten busier but tbf they're usually rammed whenever the nice weather appears so to have them just "busier" and not rammed shows it's not business as usual despite the dementors.

I was feeling quite positive until last nights briefing, with all the deathly virus mentions and the whole pandering to the unions about schools only going back if deemed "safe". Now I'm scared schools will never get back to normal as it will never be safe.

I'm losing hope in a vaccine, in effective treatments and ever getting life back. I miss my sport as it's hard to do at a 2 metre distance, my DHs and my 9 year olds sport is impossible to do at any distance other than smooshed together so I'm gutted for them.

Honestly, I just feel sad today. I'm on leave from work this week and I needed it. Had a case of a child being sexually assaulted by a family member who moved in with them during lockdown to help her single parent mother. The child is the same age as one of mine, and honestly it's made me sick. I've not been able to turn off, wondering how many other children are going through the same whilst the unions scream "BUT SAFETY OF TEACHERS"

I'm so fed up with my job being nothing but lockdown related doom and gloom. It's not a job where you see the best of society anyway but now I'm seeing things that are much worse than I've ever dealt with before.

the whole 'what ifs' is what leads to OCD - compulsions to counter the 'what ifs' can see that spiralling perhaps

Agree. I used to suffer with anxiety and had a tendency to catastrophise alot. I read a really great book about it and it recommended that every time you would think of a possible scenario you used the phrase "lets pretend" because thats what it really is. "Lets pretend that everyone is dying of corona" "lets pretend i lose my house due to unemployment" etc
Just using that phrase instead of "what if" helped me realise that making up mythical scenarios in my head (that were not likely to happen anyway) was absolutely pointless and was only increasing my anxiety. Instead, I now try to focus on what is actually happening rather than making up "pretend" scenarios and reacting to those.

No @LilacTree1 don't go! Ignore that batshit woman.

Oh @Jourdain11 hope you feel better soon

The briefing last might was not great and not helped by Priti Patel leading it. Also BBC did this awful 'while you are waiting for it to start why not watch this (catastophising) clip about second waves (all about the black death and spanish flu in the past even though they re quite different). Thanks BBC

I am going to try and avoid-

BBC
Daily Mail
MN dementors
Nextdoor dementors
The Guardian

Is anybody else going back to work in an office next month? Everybody I know IRL will be going back at some point but on Mumsnet, everyone is WFH FOREVER!!!

And come back LilacTree1!

I will be if nursery ever re opens. I can't wfh. I have my own office though to be fair so I can as anti social as I want anyway. Unless I get this new job where im guessing I'll share an office. I wouldn't mind the odd day wfh but I would hate to do it long term.

@Willow2017 I know, I'm not Doing My Bit today. Can I claim some of your death toll?

I just sneaked a peek at my dementor brother's (snoozed for 30 days) FB. It's still as bad as it was so I closed the door quietly and crept away.

I have what is possibly an incredibly thick question: If we now know that this virus was around in Europe in December, and obviously going solely on anecdotal data- is it not possible that what people thought was a bad and unusual cold in December/January was actually Covid 19, and the first wave of such? Making this the dreaded second wave?

there is a piece in the paper today by Melanie Reid who I usually quite like but today it just seems quite bitter.

She is in a wheelchair after a horse riding accident many of you might have read things by her. Her husband cares for her full time.

IT kins of confirmed what we have talked about, that some people don;t want others to have freedom as they feel trapped by illness etc

"..here I sit, trying to be happy for the lucky ones, but inside I’m a green-eyed toad, twisted and sardonic" she writes

Yes, it’s over: those few weird weeks when the whole world was shut in their houses unable to go anywhere or do anything; and when everyone got the briefest, tiniest taste of what millions of people like me have to put up with the whole damn time"

But what she fails to pick up on is that some people are not with a living husband bit are completely alone and unable to see others at all.

"..Quite honestly, I’ve read more about the “horrors” of isolation and frustration in the past two months than I’m able to stomach. I’ve tried, really, to respect the moans of perfectly healthy people who’ve been cooped up for as long as it takes to, ooh, bake a few jolly cakes and read several good books. But I’m fed up with the British public wallowing in suffering"

And to be honest it's not 'over' is it

www.thetimes.co.uk/edition/magazine/spinal-column-melanie-reid-3bqkft8fp

‘While your lives are starting again, I have a nasty strain of Fomo – fury of missing out’

I can understand why she feels like that and it must be incredibly hard to live with that condition. But... Without sounding awful... I don't see how it is the same?

Of course she will need help all of the time and won't be able to do anything on her own (and again I appreciate that must be incredibly hard) I am assuming (perhaps wrongly) that in normal times she is not trapped in her house? She seems to have a loving husband so I wouldn't imagine she is alone all day every day in 4 walls?

I feel for her I really do but I'm not sure it's all that comparable.

The thing is if this was like she says it is (baking cakes and reading books) then I'd probably be enjoying it. But it's not. It's not like that if you're working from home or you've got kids or you're working out of the home and trying to juggle childcare. It's not like that if you live alone. It's not like that if you struggle with mental health or you're in an abusive relationship. There are many reasons why it's not like that and she's dismissed them all.

OMG thank you! Thank you all for being the wonderful voices of reason in the wilderness of Mumsnet . I want to hug you all. Literally. I'm going to do millions of travelling to places with no public toilets open and snog all your faces off.

Yes and I see that attitude from others with chronic illness too (sometimes on here) as well

"Know you know what it's like for me"

But we are all different. And it is the enforced lack of human contact which makes this different. And the fear / shame / mental impact.

Shodan
I will write your name on some cups so you can share the killing spree😄

Domina
My lovely husband is a mackem 😁

ShoDan..Interesting point about second spike. My daughter was really poorly in December. Not like her at all. We’d just got to Tenerife and she’d taken to her bed. Terrible headache and cough. I was like that in November for about 3-5 days but my daughter kept rallying a bit then back to bed. One day she could barely speak. She’s a homeopath so kept dosing herself up. She mentioned a new remedy for flu but as she hadn’t the energy to order it, I ordered it for her from the homeopathic pharmacy and Had it sent to her house and it seemed to mark a turning point. We all gather at her house on Christmas Day and while she was much better wasn’t quite herself still till mid January.

Then beginning of feb her husband got sick. Very high temps, burning up, dry heat, headache. We’d all mixed households again but no one else got sick.

So yes, maybe this is the second spike ..will there be a third? Quite possibly.

I’m trialling colloidal silver. I’ve been researching it for over two years.
I’ve taken it every day since end of feb. When we got to our apartment in March , my friend who manages them had a bottle on her desk. She said she sprayed it in her mouth and up her nose.. so I started doing that as well. I thought it was a good sign
I think for it to be really effective you need to take a decent amount. So I sent for the equipment and started to brew my own.
I’ll let you know how I get on.

Jourdain..so sorry to hear how you’ve felt so poorly. Sickness is just awful, on top of everything else.
What are we going to do today..it’s blowing another hoolie and not as sunny.
Oh I know, we’ll go to the cinema. Drat!

How about a home cinema with darkened room, popcorn etc?

In March , we were back to Tenerife btw and as much as I wish we owned an apartment over there, it’s not ours and in this climate I’m rather pleased.
It’s hard enough to not be able to go to our caravan.

Shodan I think that's a really interesting question actually.
There was definately a dry, thickly cough type thing going around at that time.
I travel all over the country for work and numerous people were coughing away, didn't feel particularly ill, but couldn't shift it.
A reliable antibody test would be so useful, to start to identify if people who had "the cough" test positive, or if there are a large number reporting no symptoms testing positive.

I'm going to do millions of travelling to places with no public toilets open and snog all your faces off.

Mmmmmmwaaaaaaahhhhhh (with tongues)

Welcome

I am done with lockdown. I want to be able to visit family indoors and I will if they will.

It may come to that orange blossom
We are on with killing eve at the moment.

Yesterday my daughter called. So lovely.
Love her to bits, she’s such a voice of reason. She came With my FavourIte grandDaughter ( I only have one lol) on Wednesday and we sat in the garden with my grandson from my son. Was lovely. My granddaughter is such a beautiful soul, love and joy emanating out of every pore. . They’ve been totally home educated , her and her brothers, so while not missing school at times they will have missed some of their activities, but they are really resourceful. Her eldest brother has taught himself to play guitar, goodness knows what the middle one does, learns a bit of Japanese, , practices his violin, computer games , they chat to their friends over head sets .He’s quite a home bod, so doesn’t understand the fuss.

I really feel for all the children cooped up in small spaces. So difficult. Where do you even start to unravel the mess and parents trying to hold it all together. You are the heroes.

Argh, no sunshine today....and breathe.

I do hope dear Lilac Tree is ok.
I fear she’s gone into a tailspin as she’s not been back here to check in.
Hoping and praying she’s keeping her spirit level. 🙏

@BirdieFriendReturns that thread scared the shit out of me. I long to be back in my office

@Orangeblossom78 I have a friend who lost the use of both legs after a cycling accident and now uses a wheelchair. She wasn’t expected to be able to move from the neck down again but God she fought tooth and nail and got back to work (she’s a colleague of mine) because she so hated being stuck at home alone (single, no DCs). I’m really worried about her with this fucking lockdown.

@Dowser your daughter sounds incredible. What a brilliant job you’ve done raising her