Despicable Anti Dementors

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Lots of good lockdown reading there to enjoy

i found especially the latter book surprisingly moving and uplifting. As is mentioned in the cover. Beautiful stories, the 'death wives' as she calls them and their stories and those they have supported in the ends of their lives.

@DominaShantotto GW makes the hairs on the back of my neck stand up! DH calls him "SpiderMan" because of the tarantula... He is a creep. (GW, not my husband.) All Chief Whips are creeps, it is in the job description!

My three (y3, y2 and reception) have no additional needs and actually have done okay under the circs, but I'm desperate for them to have some normality. I feel bad that me being unwell will be causing them trauma and upset (especially DD1, who is more aware) and that they don't have their "normal life" of school and play dates and activities to escape to. Really fear for the impact this might have on them down the line.

Jourdain11 - my best thoughts for you. I'm so glad your treatment is going ahead. I think there is a bit of scaremongering: those I know who do really need medical care are being told to carry on. Dh was intending to duck out of blood tests and injections but was given a stern talking to and ordered to turn up! I do think though that GPs are a bit relieved to have weeded out the people making an appointment for a finger ache and A&E getting rid of people with a (non-Covid) sore throat.

GW makes the hairs on the back of my neck stand up! DH calls him "SpiderMan" because of the tarantula

He's such a patronising twat as well. Dickhead.

I'll say this on this thread rather than the actual one - if my father or mother in law was on home oxygen and wanted to go to a garden centre, I'd fucking then either of them because life is too fucking short.

Whoops. Another nurse killed. This one with two children.

Note to self - only murder the childless cos we don't matter.

Just seen this charming post on a thread about social distancing. Oh and of course they 'work for the NHS' as well

You do not have a right to stop me from social distancing. And you don't have a right to fucking glare at me when I ask for 2 meters because YOU don't want to step to the oterh side of the path. And, standing on a bridge for ages and implying others are being pathetic for not passing you is just downright selfish and cnty*

Bah, my hope for a bit more normality has been scuppered. I'm a school governor and the HT has just told us that they can't accommodate the Y1s as there's not enough staff. So no school for DS until September I suppose.

Not caught up with new thread yet (been out murdering for, ooh, hours!) but just to say I'm glad there are non-dementor teachers out there, because the few I know are very anti going back to work.
One of them was ranting on about how it's "classist" to imagine all children from economically disadvantaged homes are not getting homeschooled, because poor people care about their kids too.
Well, duh. I'm probably economically disadvantaged, I am doing my best (although I can't help with maths at all) but I don't take "disadvantaged" to mean just poor?
I take it to mean kids in chaotic family situations, kids whose parents are drug addicts or violent, or who are in really big families with loads of other children, or whose parents don't speak much English (etc etc).
Disadvantaged can mean many things. And while children in those situations do often have statistically worse outcomes (like children of single parents do, however hard we try it's a fact that poverty is detrimental) and school doesn't make everything equal it does bloody help to level things out!
It also helps to keep an eye on those children who go under the radar, or who are being abused, or self harming and things like that.
I'm so fucking sick of people in a completely secure employment situation, who mainly live in nice houses and have good pensions spouting off about how it's patronising to label the children of poor families as disadvantaged and that actually we will all be just fine at home until schools are 100% safe for teachers..
What they are really saying is so convenient for them; all this time they have subscribed to the idea of helping to level the playing field for all children, putting in measures, SEN support, blah blah blah, but it's all waffle, they don't actually believe in any of it.
I swear to God, if I was allowed I would go into schools and volunteer if it would help get kids back in, and I'm MORE vulnerable to the virus than most teachers, having more risk factors than most of the 20 something young white woman who teach at my dc school FFS!

I didn't realise how cross i was..

Big announcement here in Scotland: My MP just posted on Facebook that local authority recycling centres will open from 1 June. BE STILL, MY BEATING HEART!

Jourdain my very best wishes to you. I'm relieved that your treatment wasn't adversely affected by the current situation. I do worry that this may not be the case for everyone else with cancer though.

Have to admit I wonder why the govt arent helping schools with emergency infrastructure like they did with the NHS to accommodate all the extra spaces needed for smaller classes.
But then I also wonder if its because they expect children social distancing to not be a "thing" when they go back September. So like break them in now, then just back to "normal" after school holidays.

@IrmaFayLear some people are, or at least have been, sent home or not admitted. I just lost a close relative who almost certainly died sooner than she would have if the NHS was working normally. Not to cancer though, and she had complex physical and mental illnesses, but basically she got left with no care and then wasnt admitted to hospital when she fell, then died a few days later. Normally she'd have been kept in but they wouldn't take her because of covid.

Oh very much of the I'm not sending my children back to school comes from a place of absolute privilege. This was a topic of discussion with my team on Friday. It's fine to balance risk in the most cautious way possible, when that is an option for you. It's not for many.

I'm so fucking sick of people in a completely secure employment situation, who mainly live in nice houses and have good pensions spouting off about how it's patronising to label the children of poor families as disadvantaged and that actually we will all be just fine at home until schools are 100% safe for teachers..

Fuck yeah!

Oh dear god I saw the oxygen garden centre thread. These idiots will conjure up any random fantasy situation to justify locking everyone up forever, and the vulnerable for longer after that.

Next door barbecuing again - at least 5 of them next door in the garden.

livin I'm aware one of the schools near us is looking at marquees for social distancing. Again, privilege, it's a private prep. Nothing against them, my children are at (a different) one, but they have that luxury of funding and space.

Our problem is not enough staff available- the school is primary only. Which begs the question of when will Y1 and Y2 be allowed back if they have that many teachers shielding now.

I agree @IfNotNowThenWhenever. We've been to friends houses where the parents clearly care but there are no children's books and the parents don't know where the local library is.

Beginning to think I should sign up to do agency work in the kids school, not sure how to fit it in on my days off from being an HCP but at least a few more children might get to go to school!

Local news outraged the motorbikes came out to Matlock Bath, sat ate chips and went home.

We've just come back from driving 30 minutes into the countryside for a 4 mile walk. It was gorgeous - just what the doctor ordered. Five year old DS didn't complain once - I think he was just happy to be released!

@rosettesforjill Same here - a little drive around the lanes followed by a short walk around some new (to us) footpaths. DS was a little star, marching along in his new shoes which I no doubt murder-killed someone by ordering online.

Tomorrow I intend to make a phone call to a local garden centre to see if they have a particular set of children’s welly boots in stock - I promised DS a pair once his feet had grown enough to need new ones, right back in January. And I always keep my promises. So I hope they’ve still got them!

Today felt almost like a normal day though, and it is what we needed more than anything.

I've just seen one of my teacher pals, who is relatively young, fit, white, and lives in a remote town posting a doom mongering meme about how teachers shouldn't have to sacrifice their lives ffs. And schools here aren't going back until August. I wonder how the supermarket workers feel reading this pish.

I just don't understand what they think will be different come September? Or are we going to get to September and they're going to say no sorry January before we'll go back? And then Easter? And then oh well it's nearly summer holidays now..

I wonder how the supermarket workers feel reading this pish.

This is exactly what DH (Y6 teacher) says!

Theres currently a thread about the R that's blaming the R being at 1 on VE day conga celebrations.
Completely ignoring that the r quoted is 3 weeks old and the rate of infection is still falling (wouldn't we be seeing that ve day spike start to happen now as people can have symptoms from 5 days).

I hope to fuck that if I ever end up with a dementia diagnosis that by then we will be able to have living wills and the equivalent of Dignitas in this country.

No Dignitas (yet) but Living Wills aka Advance Directives are legally binding in England and Wales. In Scotland, "when making a decision about a medical treatment, the healthcare professional must take into account the past and present wishes of the person. Because an Advance Directive is evidence of a person’s wishes it should therefore be taken into account when a decision is made on the person’s behalf." They're not legally binding in NI but should be taken into account when any decision is made on your behalf. IMO Advance Directives help people close to you who are being asked to make decisions in a horribly stressful situation, because they make your wishes very clear.

I posted this link a couple of threads ago but we have new people since then: Compassion In Dying has an on-line Advance Directive and walks you through it. They have a new section about CV-19, screenshotted in this post.