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Why get drunk when you have kids in the house?

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ItchyScratch · 08/05/2020 15:16

Some of you might tell me to keep my nose out.

But scrolling through Facebook today (I really don’t know why I bother seen as it angers me more than it pleases me)

And many couples I know posting their kitchen work tops full of alcohol and how they are going to get drunk today. Couples who have kids.
And obviously it’s lockdown so they are definitely in charge of kids.

It’s taking all my tongue biting not to say something to them. Probably why it makes me let some of the steam off by writing this post. Why would you get drunk when you have kids?

You might say, how do you know they are getting drunk?
Well a couple with a photo of a huge crate of Budweiser and 4 bottles of prosecco amongst spirits are not exactly having a small glass.

It’s neglect.

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Givenupno · 09/05/2020 07:12

I wonder what the reaction of the parents in this thread would be - and their rationale for it - if a babysitter/nanny got as drunk as they consider it acceptable when left in sole charge of their children.

When kids were young enough to need baby sitting we always left a few beers or a bottle of wine for the neighbours who came to watch them.

People need to seriously chill out.

EdwinaMay · 09/05/2020 07:14

People will justify this but it's not really justifiable.
People are only 'skwiffy' or 'funny' when drunk to other drunks, to anyone sober they are pretty unlikeable and unimpressive to be honest about it.

Givenupno · 09/05/2020 07:24

to anyone sober they are pretty unlikeable and unimpressive to be honest about it.

What you mean is YOU don’t like people who have had a drink. It’s quite a leap from there to saying “anyone sober”

If you met me and I had had a bottle of wine over the course of an afternoon and evening you wouldn’t even notice.

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fishonabicycle · 09/05/2020 07:34

Oh for fuxake. Most people can manage to have a few drinks and not be stumbling though windows or swinging an axe around!

DateandTime · 09/05/2020 08:21

The current batch of teenagers, whose parents were the original binge drinkers seem to drink less than ever before so maybe being a drunken parent is good for the kids? Parents who abstain aren't teaching their DC how to do it right

My two are 17 & 19. We only drink with dinner at weekends normally but I'll admit it's starting earlier and is more frequent during lockdown. DS2 will have a very occasional cider if it's offered but he doesn't really want it. DS1 enjoys a beer but never has more than one.

TigerQueenie · 09/05/2020 10:56

Drinking at home when the kids are there is fine.

Drinking to the point of ignoring them in favour of a sesh is not fine. Getting wasted is not fine.

Majority do the former rather than the latter, but there are plenty still in the second bracket.

iklboo · 09/05/2020 12:18

Drunk in front of a vicar? That's the most ridiculous argument ever. You know they shit out of the same kind of hole as us, right? Besides, I'm not a Christian so..meh.

mrssoapy · 09/05/2020 12:50

Maybe they aren't drinking it all at once? I don't agree with getting drunk with kids in the house, there should always be at least one responsible adult, but that might be the case?

superstressy · 09/05/2020 12:54

Meh, as long as they're not too drunk. It could be worse. They could be high on coke like my neighbour, who is a teacher btw. They have 2 primary aged kids.

OhLook · 09/05/2020 13:17

A vicar?! Is that a thing? Not drinking in front of vicars?! I could probably count on one hand the number of times I've ever met a vicar. From now on I'll keep my eyes peeled after having a couple of drinks. I wouldn't want to accidentally bump into a vicar and exist in front of them.

Drivingdownthe101 · 09/05/2020 13:19

I’ve seen our vicar tipsy on more than one occasion. He drinks in my local.

Drivingdownthe101 · 09/05/2020 13:20

As an atheist, I’m not sure why I should be bothered what the vicar thinks of me though.

borntohula · 09/05/2020 13:22

Oh my days, why are people so interested in every single thing that other people do? I know lockdown can be dull but jesus christ. 😂

BadLad · 09/05/2020 13:27

or even a vicar, !!

If you and a friend had some bet about who could write the stupidest post, you've won hands down with this one.

I can't think of any other explanation for why someone would post such rubbish.

turnandfacethenamechange · 09/05/2020 13:30

I've got drunk with a vicar.

Coronabored · 09/05/2020 13:32

It's total neglect and we all know the type of people that do it. There used to be a chat show about them I'm sure.

Greggers2017 · 09/05/2020 13:35

@Coronabored no it is not seen as neglect! Stop being so ridiculous. If social care got involved everytime a parent got a bit tipsy it'd be impossible.
Even some people who are alcohol dependent are able to care for their children in a substantial way!

NaviSprite · 09/05/2020 13:56

I got a bit tipsy yesterday afternoon, I’m not much of a drinker but had half a bottle of wine left in the fridge and some bottles of beer. Still managed to play with my twin toddlers, get them fed, sang and read to them, bathed them and then into bed for their usual time! Really it’s not that big of a deal, if they’re getting paralytic every day that’s another issue, but having a day here and there where you enjoy a bit of a drink and get merry is not neglect by default, it seems to me that people are getting more and more absolutist about things like this.

FWIW I was raised by alcoholic Grandparents who were neglectful, I know that my tipsy day yesterday is nothing compared to how my Grandparents would get when I was a child.

iklboo · 09/05/2020 14:07

It's total neglect and we all know the type of people that do it. There used to be a chat show about them I'm sure.

Today's hyperbole winner.

Stompythedinosaur · 09/05/2020 14:27

Christ, what rubbish. Being unconscious drunk on the floor might be neglect, but most of us are perfectly adequate parents after a few glasses of wine.

VirginWestCoast · 09/05/2020 14:28

I am one of eight children, all of whom my parents managed to raise pretty successfully. They drunk quite regularly, with each other, with friends, with family, with neighbors. When we were older we had a drink as well.
My mother was a social worker. We were practically the Waltons compared to the families she worked with. The posters equating drinking in front of children to child neglect sound ridiculous.

MoonBaby1 · 09/05/2020 14:31

I’ve got drunk with my family priest whilst we were both loudly praising the Pope for encouraging breastfeeding during mass! Good times

VirginWestCoast · 09/05/2020 14:34

That's the sort of religion I can get behind.

Prontoe · 09/05/2020 16:48

I once got so blotto drunk that I danced with the local vicar who was also blotto (and I'm a Catholic). Pre kids though. No children or vicars were harmed during said dance.

BigSandyBalls2015 · 09/05/2020 16:52

The priest was pissed when he married us .... thought booze was compulsory in the catholic Irish community 😂

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