Why get drunk when you have kids in the house?

[ItchyScratch]

Some of you might tell me to keep my nose out.

But scrolling through Facebook today (I really don’t know why I bother seen as it angers me more than it pleases me)

And many couples I know posting their kitchen work tops full of alcohol and how they are going to get drunk today. Couples who have kids.
And obviously it’s lockdown so they are definitely in charge of kids.

It’s taking all my tongue biting not to say something to them. Probably why it makes me let some of the steam off by writing this post. Why would you get drunk when you have kids?

You might say, how do you know they are getting drunk?
Well a couple with a photo of a huge crate of Budweiser and 4 bottles of prosecco amongst spirits are not exactly having a small glass.

It’s neglect.

It is utterly irresponsible and neglect to get 'drunk' in charge of DC but not to 'have a drink'. Some on this thread have great difficulty appreciating the difference between the 2.

I feel like I’m combining children and beer expertly!

Why people want to take their children to pubs is beyond me, I wouldn’t consider myself a helicopter parent but it’s hard to relax and take care of children. Sounds like a stress to me.

We don’t currently drink in the home and this is what is best for us, I don’t have opinions on what others do though.

There's a difference being 'drunk' and having a few 'drinks'.

I have a few drinks at least once a week with DS in the house, be it a glass of wine or two with dinner in the evening or a gin and tonic etc.

If anything, it chills me out far more than being stone cold sober! I think if I asked DS he would say he prefers it!

Neglect is a very strong word to bandy about that decent parents do not deserve.

The children of abusive parents will tell you how it felt to be neglected and the presence of a few alcoholic drinks on a weekend, unless there was a dependency/alcohol abuse, certainly will not factor in. Neglectful parents are neglectful regardless.

Some of you might tell me to keep my nose out.

Spot on.

Lots of people here confusing getting drunk and having a drink.

Can't get too judgy, I'm sat here with a glass of wine as we speak (just poured one out and then saw this post lol)
Just because they're posting pics of their booze, I hardly think they mean they're going to get paralytic and passing out!
FFS

There should always be someone sober to drive in an emergency

I don't drive.

'What if someone needs to drive?'

Thousands of parents cannot drive. They manage.

When my nephew ran out into a road I had to run after him because my SIL is too fat to leg it after a child. She's posting all over FB today with mountains of unhealthy food for the street party. She'll be fat for weeks even if she ditches the carbs tomorrow. If I get tipsy today I'll be fine tomorrow.

I bet you can find loads of people like her on Facebook today. Start a thread about those irresponsible twats. Especially seeing as the virus is worse on the fat. Go on. No? Not your favourite people to bash?

I don’t get it either OP. It’s not just about being able to drive, it’s reaction times etc in an emergency.

We don’t tend to have alcohol in the house unless buying for guests. I never wanted it seen as part of daily life by our children. Plenty of ways to have fun and relax without alcohol.

Plenty of ways to have fun and relax without alcohol.

There are, and having alcohol is also a legitimate way to have fun and relax.

I bet you are a right laugh at parties.

While we had a baby in the house, it was unspoken between us that one of us would stay sober. Once the dc get older, all bets were off. I don't drink very much, but occasionally i enjoy getting pissed. I am a person as well as a parent.

@DateandTime, haha, hadn't even thought of that! Will just pour all my wine away down the sink.

It's the hangover in front of the kids that restrains my behaviour

I don't see the harm in having a few drinks round kids as long as it's not very drunk. Personally I wait till they're in bed before I have alcohol. I don't get very drunk because I like to enjoy it and it's at the back of my mind that they might wake and need me, but a few drinks is fine.

I agree with you OP.

It's not a good look, having a drink or two is no big deal, but then broadcasting how many drinks you've had isn't really something to boast about especially with kids around you.

But then I don't drink because I'm a lightweight so probably why I "judge"

Lol at the idiot proclaiming that 'a few spliffs isn't neglect'

I can conjure up in my mind what sort of a parent you are

felicityflockhart

One that’s been outside gardening and playing with my children all afternoon. Shockers!

Having our son coincided with getting older and liking the after-effects of alcohol less and less ... So for the first couple of years I didn't drink at all, I felt that one of us should remain capable of driving in an emergency (disabled child) (SAHD bearing brunt of daytime care). SInce then, whilst I'll drink a little, I don't get drunk any more. It's a horrible feeling. It's horrible the next day too.

Yawn

You're getting wound up about something posted on FB. My view is social media is about as representative of real live as Disney.

My advice is stay off FB.

Do people really smoke drugs around kids? Apart from one friend (the one I have distanced from, referenced above) I genuinely don't know anyone who does. It just isn't the done thing.

Depends on the age of the kids. Small kids it's irresponsible but once they are old enough to poor cereal, help themselves to drinks etc then letting your hair down occasionally is ok. If I was at home with my DD's there would be lots of prosecco but they can legally drink!