Dementors Begone!

[ThatLibraryMiss]

Take your shaming and your doom and gloom somewhere else.

Dementors are control freaks. I give you this from a shielding thread as exhibit A;

You can’t criticise people for needing something to look forward to. However I’ve already prepared my husband for the fact he won’t be going very far at the end of June

prepared my husband

What the fuck?! Is her husband... a child?! Surely he can make his own mind up around where he will be going and when?!

The schools thing is sooo frustrating because many people just don't get that their experience isn't everyone's. Yes its lovely that you're bonding with yours kids more & having fun in your (large, play equipment filled) garden & using all sorts of online resources & building the Taj Majal out of Lego for homeschool blah blah, but that just isn't the reality for millions of parents or children. The school my DCs attend is really diverse socio-economiclly and I know for a fact that their classmates' experiences are very polarised.

You can’t criticise people for needing something to look forward to. However I’ve already prepared my husband for the fact he won’t be going very far at the end of June

I'm getting visions of the film Misery with Kathy Bates.

"You dirty bird! you arent going anywhere!"- lets hope she doesnt hobble him!

Glad to find a thread like this - have a person on a local fb group insisting that we all stay locked down until a vaccine is found and it's perfectly possible that the country can do this.

Basically saying if we send anyone back before a vaccine they are all going to die in a second wave.

I'm going to have a little clapping moan if thats ok because I am not going to engage on facebook as these are my neighbours and I am not getting involved in real life
Last night as we curtain twitched to see who was doing "the clap" we noticed someone down the street run down to the end of their drive and run alongside a jogger who was running past banging his pan alongside her. Poor lass had her hands over her ears.
I was very excited to see that later on she had put a post on our local facebook to moan about the twat who had deafened her naming the street. Somehow it has been turned round to asking her why she wasn't 2 metres away (he was the one running down the edge of his drive to encroach on her minding her own business on the pavement) and maybe she should have taken a minute out of her schedule to give them a clap herself.

So be warned - as long as you have the backing of the "clap" you can approach anyone and bang a pan in their face as it's their own fault for being on a pavement.

janet I feel sorry for that lady but it’s good to know that someone actually forgot the madness. I make sure I’m in with windows shut at 8pm.

Good for her for naming the wanker.

I'm so glad this thread is still going. I'm feeling very depressed and not really coping with life as it is right now. I got dementored by a stupid hysterical woman yesterday. Today as I stood in a queue to get into Boots, I could hear the the two wealthy retired women behind me;
'Nothing will change until we get a vaccine.'
'At least we're prepared for the next one. And there will be more!'
'I have never done so much gardening!'
'It's so lovely for families to spend time together.'
'People are not following the RULES in Morrisons.'
I live in a town divided between wealthy retired people living in the more rural areas and extremely deprived, poor, unemployed and struggling people living wherever they can.
I have a third floor flat with no garden, and the cunts on the council keep taping up benches and locking the park.
I have lost my faith in human nature. I can't believe how many people are taking absolute delight in this situation and actually WANT other people to suffer with their mental health, be deprived of making their own choices.
My mental health was getting much better but now the two medications I take don't seem to help anymore. I feel so low. Yesterday I was angry, now I just feel like crying. Sorry to bring the thread down, I can't face posting anywhere else on Mumsnet right now, in fact I'm considering leaving altogether. People are fucking horrible.

sagittarius I’m so sorry.

I don’t believe in god or anything but it might make you feel better to make some voodoo dolls - blutac will do, yes I’ve done this - and wish them as much awful stuff as you can. It’s helping me get through this.

Hugs to you - I mean proper ones!

Thank the lord I’ve finally found this thread. This is where the sane people have been hiding. From now on I think this is the only thread I can read as I’m very close to being very offensive to all dementors on MN and probably being banned.

This, exactly.

And on FB. Even my supposedly-intelligent (and highly educated) brother seems to have lost the plot completely and is Dementoring madly.

I'm deeply tired of all the misery hyperbole everywhere

@thesuninsagittarius

I'm so so sorry you are struggling. Its shit isnt it?
Stay with us here, dont leave. Its an oasis of calm, sardonic wit and its dementor free.

We stand with you

So glad I found this thread. As a fat person my death is imminent any day now so I need a bit of light relief in my last days/weeks.

They really would sign up to a facist movement quite quickly wouldn't they

It's terrifying how some people in this country have embraced and welcomed the removal of our freedoms. My parents lived in a communist country and my father says that this country at the moment reminds him of that experience - and his earlier one as a very young German Jew in the late 1930's.

So he's decided to do what he did jn the 60's and break all the rules!

This just appeared on my Facebook...

@NothingIsWrong

hahahahaha! I LOVE that

I did a proper snort laugh :-)

@thesuninsagittarius

I'm sorry you're having such a rough time. It's shit. Mental health, which even in the normal run of things is seen as a second-class problem, has now been shunted to the bottom of the pile because COVID and MURDER and THE WAR YOU KNOW and I DESPAIR and all the other fucking moronic tripe that the Dementors love spouting.

People are not following the RULES in Morrisons.
This is exactly why I am only shopping at Morrison's right now. No stupid arrows, no one way systems, just sensible precautions and a bunch of people doing their thing considerately. You know, like grown ups.

I'm very angry with everything today. The insomnia I believed I had beaten, after suffering with it for years, has resurfaced and I'm back on prescription pills for it. My 12 year old son is now having trouble sleeping and is getting lower and lower in his mood. I'm ding my best to keep his spirits up but it's so hard when I'm so tired and angry.

Gah.

That’s so funny @NothingIsWrong, thank you for sharing it.

I've been on MN for 11 years. Today I was thinking about how it was the first time I don't feel very enthusiastic about posting and having a discussion and how I needed to come up with a way to respond to the aggressive and attempts to shame replies without getting embroiled in a draining spat. A bit like when you're dealing with a bully and you rehearse how and what you'll say around them so as not to draw negative interactions. I confess I am quite surprised at just how low some posters go on here and just how attacking they think it is acceptable to be and I genuinely do not remember it always being like this. It feels quite recent.

My new rule is to ignore aggression, questioning of intelligence, hyperbolic accusations and attempts to shame entirely. I think there's several ways to use MN. You can storm on to threads rolling up your sleeves ready to lay into someone and vent your frustrations or you can come on, air your views and refuse to take part in the shaming dynamic that certain posters are so fond of creating while only engaging with posters who don't do that. I'm not talking about #bekind bollocks or not being challenged. I'm talking about not just ripping into someone aggressively because they said something you don't agree with, and ignoring entirely those who do it.

That's my plan anyway

@Leighhalfpennysthigh yeah I often think of fascism spreading across a country lately !

@Mikki2019 it is slightly disturbing isn't it. And ironic considering this is VE Day and supposed to be a celebration of winning a war against fascism.

That's my plan anyway

Thats a good plan. I admit sometimes I get riled up and lash out but not usually for no reason- its usually only when pushed to the limit by stupidity or meanness. From now on, I'm just going to stop engaging and just hide threads the minute they become depressing or nasty or personally attacking.

I posted on the beauty thread about a skin product a while ago and got told I should "get a life and get out more". I mean, what specifically indicates i "dont have a life" merely by asking if anyone had tried a certain skin product?! on a BEAUTY thread lol.
It was particularly stupid since she told me to get out more.....during lockdown. I really dont understand the level of nastiness or vitriol needing to be expressed there- it was completely over the top. There must be an awful lot of people with rage and anger boiling away under the surface just waiting for any excuse to explode. Its so clearly about them and not others.

On another post, people reckon they will never go back to work and be WFH FOREVER!

TheSuninSagittarius

Nothing useful to say really, just sending a hug. I'm struggling too TBH. I must admit its made me look at some people I know IRL differently. Its not even that I'm a "Yay! End lockdown now!" type - more that I hate the way the collateral damage isn't acknowledged

We watched the classic “Quarantine” episode of Red Dwarf the other night, and now I’m imagining all dementors as looking like this.

“Mr Fibble is very cross with you!”