Posting here for traffic... Unconventional wedding

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After bagging my partner to get the ball rolling... We've agreed to have a fairly unconventional wedding. Our dog will play a major role and she'll even have guests. I'm.not wearing a dress and instead I'll be wearing ankle length smart trousers, converse, a t-shirt and my all saints leather jacket. He'll probably be wearing something similar. All t shirts will have tongue in cheek phrases in the vain of "I just got married and all I got was this lousy t-shirt". The guest one will say something like "just came for the open bar" etc...

Would people get it? Not that it matters but I don't what to end up with an "off" atmosphere if people don't get our extremely relaxed and jokey theme. Tia!

Badges is a great idea! No, no haystacks it's not a boho wedding. I do.like folk but the idea is more geared towards people who like Th Strokes, Radiohead, etc..

Badges is a thumbs up from me.

Can’t wait to see this on FB wedding shaming group, far too try hard, look aren’t we quirky & cool.

Sounds great! Although as a big fatso I'd have anxieties about t shirts fitting me so I'd prefer a general t shirt theme. That aside though it sounds fab. Just make sure everyone knows well in advance so naysayers can get the whingeing out of their system before the day!

A wedding where I can wear a T-shirt???
I'm IN!!

If you're going to provide t-shirts why not let the guests choose (from a set list) the colour & size Nd give them the option of wearing them on the day?

3/4 trousers/converse/t-shirt ...fab!!!

I think a lot of people would find it unconventional, but fun. Plus you d said they don't have to wear the T-shirt,so they can still get greased up if that's what they want

You do you. 🌷

Hahahaha, they can whinge all they like there will be an open bar! (It's a pet peeve of me that there's never one and with just 30 guests it's not impossible).

If it’s only 30 guests and 75% won’t get the theme you might want to invite either more people who will, or just do a really small wedding with the ones that do... it might flop a bit if you’re really unsure that what, 22 of the 30 don’t ‘get’ your taste in music. At the very least surely you want more than 8 ppl to dance!

Unconventional things should speak for themselves without needing explanatory notes. Sorry OP but you're coming across as the "I'm mad, me" brigade and it's really boring. Truly unconventional people never have to tell anyone they're unconventional - they just get on with it.

I'd be put off by the t-shirts for guests, but if you really must do it please make sure you know exactly what sizes you need. There's far too many "quirky" clothes that only go up to a size 14 and it's likely to be the people already alienated by the fashion industry who will be most upset. Also, as a petite woman I refuse to wear "one size" t-shirts which are usually made for men's height and end up looking like a knee-length dress on me.

For the t-shirt/favour idea I just thought that maybe we could set up a "merch" website where that can choose they're t-shirt size and colour/design.
I'm about to think of the guest list but a good chunk are 65+

Less is more. Especially for a small wedding. People absolutely do not want an ill fitting, cheap, t-shirt with your wedding date on. Signed shirts sound awful too. It sounds very last day of school, sign my shirt. And the concert style tickets seem a bit out of place for a small wedding. Will there be any sort of concert theme? Bands / decor etc? I’d think as it sounds a bit slapdash if I’m honest. You risk it being more kids party than wedding.

With weddings I think you have to start with your guests and not yourself. There are many choices we would have made differently if we hadn't been catering to a few elderly relatives, but we were and we wanted them to feel welcome.

I think it sounds amazing fun for a group of like-minded people, but incredibly awkward otherwise.

Could this be your engagement party?

65+ how old? I'm just thinking of my dad who is 70 but loves his music and would really like this. That generation were around at a good time for music, he was a mod. OK so not your Radiohead mob but not exactly Victorian either.

I think it will be fine. But think carefully about how you want to the venue to look? Concerts aren’t known for their style credentials- it’s usually just a stage and an indie rock band going for it.

Weddings are usually heavy focused on things that are pretty and elegant. How will you change that to fit with your theme so it looks cool and not too pretty pretty.

If I was told to wear a t shirt to a wedding I wouldn’t do it. So keep them as favours/decorating table stuff. It’s also very hard to write/draw on fabric without a stencil/board underneath so just think that through too.

You could go for band themed tables with album cover table names?

Yes, it's very similar to a kids party. We do want to have fun. It's our second wedding too, his was the usual.cookie cutter type, mine was the registrar's and then pub type. Neither of us were happy with what we had.

It turns out it's more like 54 people. Of those at least 10 wouldn't get it at all.

@Atalune that idea of albums for tables is brilliant! Ty!

I could see this with very young folk ie early 20s but pushing 40 plus lots of elderly guests, just naff and attention seeking, you can have a cool fun wedding without looking like a bunch of teenagers.

If 75% of your guests are older and don’t get it, why are re you even considering it? Can’t all that be for some kind of after-party with your mates?

It’s a bad idea but as you’re over 25, it’s pretty horrendous And cringe worthy. Sorry. But if your aim is to make people not want to go to the wedding, you might be in to something!

About six are in their 80s. I know my dad would love the concept he was really into his music (he's 72) so to the pp, you're absolutely right.

I struggle.to envision the decoration side of things. We have a frum.kit that we were going to throw away, but could.be reused as small tables or part of the decor

I don’t really get the point of the guest T shirts. You have said they will be favours and they won’t have to wear them at the wedding. Realistically will they ever wear them on any other occasion? I suspect not and then you’ve wasted your money and a load of T shirts that will just get binned.

If nobody wants to come it's their loss! I also completely overestimated the elderly. It's about 6-8 out of 54 guests.

@ChessieFL if do choose the t-shirts as favours, we'd set up a "merch" website so it's up to the guests if they want one or not.

I'd also have more traditional favours like Carbonell et Walker truffles.

Surprised nobody has mentioned Rock N Roll Bridal magazine.
We are also having an unconventional wedding at a military museum surrounded by Tanks & having afternoon tea served in mugs and proper sarnies with miniature ration packs for people as gifts....I've got pink hair and I don't give a monkeys what people think of a 50+ vintage wearing candyfloss coloured mum

Your wedding your way and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

There are a lot of alternative suppliers out here and the sky's the limit on what you want....depending on budget of course.

Check out Rock N Roll Bridal website and magazine they do some amazing shoots and cover alternative weddings of all sorts

Instead of T-shirts how about a selection of badges with the various phrases on. They could pick their own and no-one gets in without a badge.

There will also be 10 older children (8-16) and 6 babies/toddlers and potentially 5 dogs.