Is there a ghost in my house?

[memblemumble]

Hi, I'm quite freaked out to be honest and, whilst I don't mind skeptics, I don't need to be told I'm being ridiculous. I'm really scared.

Bit of background:
As a teenager, I did stupid things at sleepovers with my group of friends (we did a seance o and we tried to 'communicate' with spirits). It sometimes 'worked' and sometimes there was nothing. My best friend literally horizontally floated in front our eyes when we were around her in a circle (no alcohol or drugs had been taken). We never broke it so I wonder if this is the effect.

Anyway, fast forward. There was a spot sometime after that in my room that I always 'felt' something watching me at a certain time (roughly between 2-4am). Not particularly nice but never harmed me. Now, four years later, I live with DH, 2 kids and his grandmother temporarily and three dogs. There's always been a 'spot' (next to the bottom of the stairs) that I've had that same feeling of energy at night (once in the living room too). Again, never been touched. Since the beginning of this year, I've felt it in my room. Pretty much continuously on and off, more prominent at night (this room is a lot smaller and the spot is next to the door). Anyway, up until this point, it's all 'feelings'. However, last few weeks DD (3) has been waving out of the living room door into the hallway. I asked who she was waving to and she said 'the man' (DH was in the room too). I asked where he went, she said upstairs. DH went but obviously no-one was there. I keep seeing 'it' out of the corner of my eye but definitely there (one year old keeps smiling and waving at thin air and the dogs bark at the same time he does that). Then, last night, DH was downstairs as he couldn't sleep (this is about 4am now) and came up (I was awake giving one year old milk) and he asked if I was calling his name. I said no and he was really freaked out, said it was clear as day. He even woke his nan up and she said it wasn't her. I'm really scared, I don't know what to do or what it is. Has anyone had anything similar or got any advice? I promise I'm not making it up but if you're sceptical then please just leave it, I'm scared. TIA.

I'm all for magic and ghosts love it all but your friend floating in front of you is utter nonsense.

If you have ghosts all you need to do is firmly tell them to go away and they will. I've been involved in the occult for years and even I never use our jazz boards or mess around with games that attract spirits. Occultism should always be about self improvement nor messing about with dark things that have no business being here.

I believe you OP.

I posted a while ago about an experience that I’d had when younger and again recently, I had some good advice.

Although I’m not Christian in my beliefs my Father is and these things happened to me in his house.

I honestly thought that the advice that I received by a poster regarding contacting the local vicar would be pointless and end up with me being flagged as insane but after a frank discussion it was made clear to me that we needed to be visited by a C of E ‘representative’ once lockdown is over.

I’m hoping that this will put this ‘evil thing’ to rest and I and others will feel comfortable visiting DF’s house.

This was something that happened only to me but other things have also been witnessed by others in the house who until then were total sceptics.

Perhaps in any house there are sort of “echoes” of those who have been there before? I think I may have experienced this. If so, it’s nothing to worry about. You could be picking up on something that has been there in the past, but it isn’t there now. It can’t harm you.
It does sound as if you and your DP are tired and sleep deprived though, which does all sort of things to your perceptions.

When I moved into my then fiance's home 12 years ago I always felt scared when stood outside of his bedroom door. If I needed the toilet in night obviously I had to walk through the door to go to bathroom and it scared me every time. The front door would open and close, lights went on or off, hairdryer turned on by itself, puppy kept snarling at wall in livingroom, TVs would turn on or off, Xmas tree decorations would start swinging, radio in kitchen would turn on loud at 2 in morning and many more stories! My stepchildren one day wouldn't go in house cause the garage door bolt moved by itself and locked the door!!!! And one day when we went out we came home to every single light on in the house. My partner refused to sleep alone but one time he went on holiday with his kids and I stayed home (had to work and look after dog) in the middle of night woke up to terrible loud banging and every bottle in bathroom was thrown into the bath!! We moved 😂

There's no such thing as ghosts. I can't bear this ridiculous attention seeking. Underlying stress/problems are making you whip yourself into a frenzy. Your problems are inside of you, not the house.

@Patsypie, I do have anxiety but I'm not making this up, you're free to disagree of course.

OP just because you have anxiety doesn’t mean you made up your child speaking to someone you couldnt see. It’s more likely the nae sayers just haven’t experienced anything unexplained. Yet.

Oh I agree @Elieza , I'm saying that she's not completely wrong, I know what my experiences are though. Weirdly, no-one has ever died here and it's only 80ish years old.

So you are an insomniac with high levels of anxiety and you commonly feel the 'ghost' between 2 and 4 in the morning (the time of the night when our senses are at their lowest and dream activity is commonly known to intrude into our conscious thoughts)?

Im not suggesting you are consciously making anything up but come on, can you see why this is preposterous?

What was on the land prior? Farm land? A farm cottage perhaps or a shack near a railway that was being built where worries sheltered and drank their tea or something else random!?

They could have come to look after dc. DC has seen and waved at them. You could try speaking to them. See if you can get any answers out of them. ‘Make a noise if you are here to help my family’. type things. Knock twice if you died in this street or somesuch.

@Homestayer I never said high levels and it's more social but I understand your point.

I had a period when I thought I had heard things and was seeing things out of the corner of my eye. I now realise I was at the time suffering from Post Natal depression, exhaustion and stress after having an unplanned baby. The brain really does try to make sense of our illness in strange ways.

Again, more recently after a bereavement which was a sudden death, I have had periods of depression and anxiety and again experienced feeling out of body and like life wasn't real. Its not ghosts it could be mental illness. I mean you no disrespect.

I will find out later @Elieza. I wonder if it's me or the house, I think maybe then I'd be able to figure out how to get rid of it?

We are all vibrational. We attract via our vibrations. When everything is good then we attract more good, when we are down we attract things on a similar level.

When Jesus said 'Ask and it will be given', he was right but we don't have the faith.

There is a thread on here somewhere about the Law of Attraction and I've managed it 4 times, once most regrettably, as I've already posted.
OP I'm not suggesting you have attracted this and I'm not suggesting it's a negative thing but hopefully you'll stop feeling afraid.

I mentioned to my daughter that it was her (deceased) grandads birthday. At that moment, my iron, stored in my under stairs cupboard, not only fell off the shelf but it shot a good four foot into my kitchen. Make of that what you will. These things happen. They don't worry me.

Also, for various reasons I don't think that those who love us leave us and the fact that your children are happy and waving is a good sign IMO.

Hi @Fosler , thanks for posting. I think I'm more afraid of the fact that DH feels that it's friendly, and as you said dc smile and wave but I personally feel that it's not a good presence when I feel it?

I don't think you are consciously making it up @memblemumble. But I still don't believe any of it is real. It's no different to a child that imagines they see a monster, they might genuinely believe it, but as soon as the parent puts the lights on they can see it's only the shadow from a tree. The fact you haven't figured out the cause doesn't mean something that doesn't exist is real. Although I'd argue believing in ghosts to start with, anxiety and feeling tired are the full explanation.

Fwiw I do have experience, plenty of experience of people telling me my home and various other places are spooky. Some given to hysteria anyway, others that I trust and are usually entirely rational. But strangely enough whenever any of the latter have been with me I've always been able to switch the light on as it were and show them what it actually is. Ghosts are no more than someone's brain filling in the blanks and coming to the incorrect conclusion.

As to you all seeing this shit, again it means nothing. Humans for the most part might forget that body language exists, and generally speaking be crap at it, but even so it's not exactly a stretch to communicate fear to your dh or dc.

@BrandyandBabycham the Bloody Mary thing was a long time ago, but it involved saying it into a mirror several times at night. Different versions existed, the time varied from midnight to the witching hour before dawn, as did the correct number of times to repeat it and the exact supernatural repercussions. Iirc there might also have been other rubbish to spout into the mirror and perhaps turn round in between saying it.

OP, we live in a detached , incredibly solid early Victorian cottage. You may well be haunted. We certainly are. Have you had " the chat" with whatever or whoever you think it could be.

I used to be terrified of Ghosts OP because my Grandparents insisted they were real, they even went as far as to involve stories of bad spirits that take away naughty children. I spent most of my early childhood extremely anxious because of this, I was terrified of the dark, then I started getting nosebleeds when I would let my imagination run so wild to the idea of evil spirits that I reacted physically.

Then came nightmares, childhood insomnia that persists to this day, then sleep paralysis (which meant I’d be fighting to wake up, feeling like my body wouldn’t move, being conscious but stuck in the bit between deep sleep and awake). A lot of these things would have been explained as spiritual experiences by those who believe in Ghosts, those who don’t (like me as an adult) would explain that our very complex brains are capable of a great many things that will convince you of almost anything given the right (or wrong) conditioning.

If you believe, I won’t say you’re wrong, I have no evidence either way as to whether Ghosts exist or not, but I will say it’s likely exacerbated by anxiety and sleep deprivation. Also, please please do not let your DC pick up on your fears.

FWIW my DD often giggles and points at the corner of her bedroom and says “Dadi” (pronounced Dad-eye). This was the name we used for my Grandfather as children and I’ve never said it to her as he died when I was a teenager. I got a chill the first time, but with time to ponder it, I think she likes the way passing lights of cars outside move across that section of the room in the night (if she is awake to see it) and that Dadi is an attempt at Daddy.

Did your friend really float and did you all in that circle witness it. If so then thats pretty hard to explain away

Funny how ghosts never show up in the supermarket, or crossing the road, or in front of hundreds of people.

But how do you know? We could have all seen loads of ghosts going about their daily business with no idea that they’re dead.

I’m so sceptical. I’m more inclined to believe in vibrations, brain chemicals and looking for patterns of noise and images. The only reason people have believed in ghosts for thousands of years is because they didn’t have the science around to explain it.

Hello. I will ask you (only if you want) to go onto YouTube when. You think you can put it on when the kids won't wake up or put it on your phone and leave. It upstairs and type in Surah Rahman. This is a Islamic prayer and it can be used to caste away any spirits that reside in your property. Sometimes they do disturb you but God willing put this on and let's hope for 'the best. If you need to ask me anything please send me a. Message

Hi @TrainspottingWelsh, I understand that you don't believe that it's real but I appreciate the way you responded. I know not everyone will believe me and that's okay.

@ALovelyBitOfSquirrel I've been too frightened to. Love your username btw.

@moanyhole I don't think I explained it properly. We did a seance and we sat in a circle around her, chanted (I can't remember what now as this was a long time ago). We lifted her up with two fingers each, she floated about 30-50cm in the air before slowly floating back down. I know lots of posters won't believe this and that is fine but I thought I'd explain since you asked.

I believe you, unless the whole group was hallucinating the same experience then thats inexplicable . Have you any holy water or can get some from a church? Id try that, sprinkle it around, and maybe get a priest in whenever lockdown lifts.

Ive only had one encounter with a ghost. He was friendly and warned me to slow down my car. I did and seconds later hit black ice and landed in a ditch. Had I not slowed down the iutcome could have been very different. So spirts/ghosts are not necessarily bad presences.

It's mass hysteria
www.telegraph.co.uk/news/science/science-news/3311509/Volunteers-at-fake-seance-remembered-seeing-table-levitate.html