Honestly can't believe I'm even asking this

[nahnonever]

My partner has skid marks in every fucking pair of pants he wears. How do I wash them without spreading germs everywhere?

@gingerbeerandlemonade if I bin every pair, he will go commando and leave them in his trousers 😩🤣

MASSIVE drip feed OP 🙄

Ruby I don’t know if your post was in response to mine, but I did specify that the only excuse I would (and did with my ex Dh) tolerate was ill health.

Use a little vanish stain remover in every wash.
Let me rephrase. HE should use a little vanish stain remover every time he washes his own clothes especially his shit stained pants.
On 60 degrees

@Grabbber but piles aren't ill health, quite a lot of women get them either during pregnancy or after childbirth.

@Contactlenses123 I wasn't looking for responses to if you would stay in your relationship, I was looking for advice on how to hygienicly clean his pants

@nahnoever that response to drip feeding made me chuckle.

Wait, do you have sex with this man? not envy

So I think he is cleaning ok, but maybe a bit is coming out

If this is the case, he needs to use an incontinence pad in his pants. Tena and other brands make pads for faecal incontinence. Tell him to get some and use them.

My exH did this. I would drop them into the outside bin.

When he ran out he bought more.

I refused to wash them. I wouldn't ever expect another person to wash soiled pants unless it for was a toilet training child. I'd expect the person that soiled them to give them a scrub and soak in laundry disinfectant.

I’d class them as a medical issue Ruby, and I’ve had them myself.

If he continues and wears trousers commando then they too go in the bin.

He will slowly begin to understand.

He should under no circumstances expect his wife to be laundering his soiled clothes.

You don't he does
HTH.

Revolting. He's just not wiping properly. I'd him then. To be honest, I'd bin him

*bin them not him them

Yes I can't believe how many threads there are today about deeply unattractive shitty men.

At least normally when we say this we don't mean it literally!

Even if it is a medical issue his handling thereof is lacking respect for you.

Soak them in a bucket of water, use incontinence protection if necessary, seek medical advise as to whether anything can be done around the issue.

*advice

Thanks everyone. Il teach him how to soak them and then I can throw them in with my normal wash I suppose.

Cannot imagine why else a grown woman would be washing a grown man's pants

I wash DH's pants. But he does all the cooking, the shopping and most of the cleaning.

@TOtallyFuckedUpFamily

Maybe they were are bit weird, but not necessarily because of the shitty pants! Actually their pants weren't that bad, which leads me to say I'm not defending the op's husband (obviously depends on just how bad his pants are, are they just a skid mark, or more?) but stains in your underwear happens, does it not - to women as well as men. To the OP - why not just put them in a wash with only his clothes. Don't look at them, don't do anything. That way you won't know and won't see it as a chore, messing about soaking etc.

@nahnonever with the kids' skiddy pants I just throw in a scoop of napisan.

Could he have constipation or, as a pp suggested, piles? DD1 suffered for years from encopresis and still has toilet trouble occasionally. She takes pro & pre biotics daily, which helps.

You don’t wash them. He washes them as he’s an adult.
I have never, ever washed my husbands pants.

Gosh I wish people would RTFT, OP dripfed yes but OP is looking for laundry-related advice...

Can you put them in on their own in a pre-wash, then add the other stuff to make up a load? I hate the idea of shitty water sitting in a bowl (even with dettol in in, or water with bits of shit in it). I think washing machines can handle it - am I alone?

@SignOnTheWindow I do use napisan in all the kids stuff so I could do this, thank you. I'm not sure if you read my previous comment but he does have Bowel issues but not sure what exactly.
@EngagedAgain biggest I've seen was no bigger than a £2 coin.

And also I do all the washing and cleaning etc as I am a SAHM with a baby and a child at nursery