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Do you put your partner's clothes away?

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Pogopogopogo · 23/04/2020 09:38

I'm currently on maternity leave and our baby is almost 5 months old. I do 90% of things round the house and 100% of anything to do with the baby. He takes control of the garden and plants in the house. Very occasionally he will cook, clean the bathroom and vacuum but mainly I do it. I put away mine, our baby's and all towels and linen. Should I be doing his as well. I appreciate I may sound petty but as a grown man I think he should do it. So do you put your partner's clothes away?

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TwistyHair · 23/04/2020 09:39

I put away his clothes but he also puts away mine.

Aria20 · 23/04/2020 09:40

Well if I'm ironing I'll hang them up for him yes and same if he's ironing he'll hang mine up. It seems petty and pointless not to if I'm doing everyone else's anyway!

Ughmaybenot · 23/04/2020 09:40

Yea, if I’m putting washing away, I put all the washing away. If he is putting washing away, he puts all the washing away. I wouldn’t be inclined to wait on him hand and foot if there wasn’t some sort of sense of equality.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 23/04/2020 09:42

DH puts his clothes away because he has his own system. I have my own system. I’d never find anything if he put it away for me.

RedskyAtnight · 23/04/2020 09:42

I fold them and put them in a pile and he then puts them in his drawers/wardrobe.

Sounds like your actual issue is that you feel you do too much - maybe worth a chat with your partner?

lubeybooby · 23/04/2020 09:43

No he does mine, but that's our arrangement - we play to our strengths. I'm good at getting the laundry done but shit at putting it away so we split up the job

I'm good at cooking and enjoy that so I do all that, he does the dishwasher

Chillipeanuts · 23/04/2020 09:43

Depends who’s busiest at any given time.

ReadilyAvailable · 23/04/2020 09:44

Like @TwistyHair, we both do it. It depends on who is taking the laundry upstairs.

Feelingpoorlysick · 23/04/2020 09:45

Yes. It's a bit petty to leave it out. Whoever puts the washing away in our house puts all of it away. 99% of the time it's me but I don't even give it a second thought. Putting my husbands washing away probably takes me an extra minute, that's all.

PerkyPomPoms · 23/04/2020 09:45

Nope he’s a big boy and tbh I am sick of being in charge of laundry while he just expects stuff to be washed. Damned if I’ll fold and put it away too.

SallyLovesCheese · 23/04/2020 09:46

DH and I do our own washing generally, so we put away our own clothes. Although if his are dry but still on the airer/washing line I'll pile them neatly on the bed for him.

PlanDeRaccordement · 23/04/2020 09:46

I put his away because I do all the laundry and in return he cleans all the bathrooms. We both think we got the better deal.

I agree with PP that the issue really seems to be that the division of house labour is not equal to your mind. As children are born, it’s normal to have to reshuffle tasks about. Don’t feel bad about having a talk with him about this.

PippaPegg · 23/04/2020 09:47

Put him in charge of some of the domestic load now if you want things to change. Otherwise he gets used to you doing it all and when you go back to work will continue to expect it. You will burn out and hate his guts. So sort it now..

YouJustDoYou · 23/04/2020 09:51

I put his stuff away but will not pick his dirty shit up off the floor.

Historyofeverything1 · 23/04/2020 09:54

I am a single parent and so it always falls on me to do the washing/ ironing. However from being very young my children have helped (mainly because they wanted to at first) and from being about 8 they independently do it without being asked. It's a life skill. You shouldn't have to do everything for him. What happens if/when you go back to work / have more dc will you have to continue doing everything?

MrsT1405 · 23/04/2020 09:56

I put the washing on, he pegs it out. He brings it in and sorts it. We both iron. We both leave each other clothes on the bed and put our own away . We both have our own systems.

WatchingFromTheWings · 23/04/2020 09:56

Nope. He does his own ironing too.

Squeekybummum · 23/04/2020 09:56

No I leave his in a pile on his side of the bed, (folded nicely) I also leave our 3 children's in a pile for them to put away, they are 11, 7 and 4.
I do nearly all of the housework, husband cooks about 2 or 3 times a week.

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Pogopogopogo · 23/04/2020 09:57

There is no point talking to him about it. He isn't one to listen. If he does the washing he never puts mine or the baby's clothes away. He barely folds them nicely. I put away his work clothes, as they live separately. I fold them in a nice pile and leave for him. Invariably I pick his clothes off the floor and fold and put on the bed in the spare room where our laundry is sorted.

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Whathappenedtothelego · 23/04/2020 09:57

I have older children. I give them and DH a pile of washed/ironed clothes to put away. I usually leave DH's on the side of the bed.
Obviously you put the baby's away now - but presumably in the future you might expect them to put their own away too.

ravenmum · 23/04/2020 09:58

Reading this is giving me flashbacks to my exh pursing his lips because I folded his clothes the wrong way and didn't put his socks in his sock drawer. Listen to PippaPegg and make sure he doesn't treat you like a poorly performing cleaner.

Pipandmum · 23/04/2020 09:58

After laundry I would have, though the cleaning lady ironed his shirts. Seems silly to do mine and kids and just leave his. On a day to day basis he was much tidier than me and always hung his own stuff up whereas my clothes would be hanging off chairs etc. When he cooked he cleaned as he went along. We had a cleaner who did most stuff but I was a sahm and he worked very long hours so childcare was all me (he did take kids swimming every Saturday morning).

Snowdown24 · 23/04/2020 10:00

Yes, he put my clothes away. My DH does all the washing- I haven’t done it for months. But if I’m doing a job, I don’t do it then stop and leave his stuff out-that’s what children do. If I’m cleaning the bedrooms, I’ll clean them all, not just mine and the kids and leave his lying around....otherwise I wouldn’t be cleaning the bedroom if it was only half done.

Does your DH work? Do you work?

Fedhimtotigers · 23/04/2020 10:01

I do. But only because I don't like how he does it. It gives me an itch seeing it all wrong.

However. He does absolutely pull his weight in the house and especially now we're both furloughed.

So I have no issues doing this 'for him' as he is doing things 'for me'

mylittleavalon · 23/04/2020 10:01

I put all clean washing away but he puts his own dirty washing in the laundry and hangs suits up as I hate doing it! He does do most of the cooking and when I've had a bad night some cleaning so Im more than happy to put his clean washing away, and I'll iron if I have time if not he irons as he needs...