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Do you put your partner's clothes away?

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Pogopogopogo · 23/04/2020 09:38

I'm currently on maternity leave and our baby is almost 5 months old. I do 90% of things round the house and 100% of anything to do with the baby. He takes control of the garden and plants in the house. Very occasionally he will cook, clean the bathroom and vacuum but mainly I do it. I put away mine, our baby's and all towels and linen. Should I be doing his as well. I appreciate I may sound petty but as a grown man I think he should do it. So do you put your partner's clothes away?

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YouAndMeAndTheDevilMakesThree · 23/04/2020 10:01

Yes, but washing is one of my chores. We each have different chores and generally don't do each others unless illness etc - it really saves on arguments. He does the ironing though!

Bluebooby · 23/04/2020 10:02

I used to until I realised that if I didn't do it, it didn't get done. Now I put mine and dd's things away, I have to put his on our bed and then he puts them away. If I don't put his on the bed then he leaves them in the tumble dryer/on the floor next to it forever (well it was six months before I gave in and moved things to the bed).

HeddaGarbled · 23/04/2020 10:03

No, I leave the pile on his side of the bed and he does it himself. I wouldn’t want him to put mine away either - imagine if he put socks in the pyjama drawer 😱

Lucked · 23/04/2020 10:03

Yes but it is part of a division of labour, he probably does more. We both work full time.

pollysproggle · 23/04/2020 10:04

No, I don't wash them either and he doesn't do mine.
I do mine and the children's, bed sheets and we have separate towels from him too.

Honeybee85 · 23/04/2020 10:04

I do all the laundry but only put away my clothes, DS' clothes and towels and other household textiles. DH's clothes gets a neat staple of his washed and folded clothes and is very well capable of putting them away himself. I am his wife not his servant.

Her0utdoors · 23/04/2020 10:05

No, never. They go on a heap on this chair and it's over to him. I wash, dry, fold and put away for myself and both our dc. That is plenty. He has leisure time while I do this while caring for our dc.
I was in the process of divorcing him before lockdown kicked off.

Honeybee85 · 23/04/2020 10:05

*DH gets

cupcakehurricane101 · 23/04/2020 10:06

I put the clothes away, and do the washing. My husband always puts things in the wrong place it really irritates me. I usually yell "STEP AWAY FROM THE WASHING!!!" If he attempts to go near it!

Bertucci · 23/04/2020 10:08

If I’m putting laundry away, I just leave his in a pile on the bed. He does the same with mine. I rarely do laundry tbf, my dh tends to do it.

ravenmum · 23/04/2020 10:09

There is no point talking to him about it. He isn't one to listen.
Oh well, then.

PiggyPlumPie · 23/04/2020 10:09

No, I wash and iron it and put it in a pile on his side of the bed. Hang his shirts on the wardrobe door.

DC (all teens) don't iron their clothes but sort them out of the clean washing baskets and put them away.

Same for underwear - everyone takes theirs out of the basket and puts them away or not - eyes up full basket.

I don't mind getting the stuff washed and dried but draw the line there.

DelurkingAJ · 23/04/2020 10:10

It’s a job we both do at random (usually when upstairs supervising bath time). He would put away mine and vice versa. Seems odd not to do the whole job but I don’t think the laundry is the problem here...

AlphaIndigo · 23/04/2020 10:13

Think the laundry is the least of your problems if he doesn't help with the baby at all to be honest.

Pinkflipflop85 · 23/04/2020 10:13

Nope. DP puts his own clothes away. Ds aged 5 also puts his away.

Dd will put her own away once she is old enough.

Caramel78 · 23/04/2020 10:14

We do our own laundry so I never put his away and vice versa.
We share all the other chores but have always done laundry separately for some reason.

affor · 23/04/2020 10:17

I do 90% of things round the house and 100% of anything to do with the baby.

Why?

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Pogopogopogo · 23/04/2020 10:20

I would 100% expect the baby to put away his clothes once old enough and I would also expect him to help with chores with me. He watches me do them now and I explain what I'm doing. I appreciate he is v little but I believe this is how we learn by watching and then doing. Its interesting how people divide their household labour.

To the poster who said I'm childish for leaving his clothes out. I probably am - I did say it was petty but he is a grown man. Surely it is childish to leave the clothes for someone else to put away WinkGrin

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lazylinguist · 23/04/2020 10:23

I put dh's clothes away, because I do the laundry. Why would I leave them out, cluttering up the bedroom? He does plenty of other stuff.

There is no point talking to him about it. He isn't one to listen

This is a much much bigger problem than who puts the clothes away.

Fedhimtotigers · 23/04/2020 10:23

My 6 year old has been putting his own clothes away for almost a year.
He can put the tops on a hanger and fold trousers and hang them.
He didn't want to at first. I don't give a shit what he wants. It's his job. Sometimes he still moans.
He still has to do it.

kimlo · 23/04/2020 10:24

I do all the washing and puttimg away for everybody in the house. Thats my choice though, no one else does it right. I don't like anyone else touching the washing.

Dh does his own ironing though.

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Pogopogopogo · 23/04/2020 10:24

@Fedhimtotigers that's my kind of attitude Grin

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copycopypaste · 23/04/2020 10:25

Yes I do put his away, but he does all the ironing. Tbh I probably do less around the house than he does so it doesn't bother me

FinallyHere · 23/04/2020 10:26

We are two adults, who each do our own clothes laundry.

He sends his shirts to be ironed. None of my clothes require ironing but need to be washed quite carefully and hung up as soon as the machine is finished, or they look really terrible.

We share the stripping/washing/remaking the bed because I noticed that once we moved in together, it always seemed to be me that did it. Sheets are ironed by the same service that do his shirts.

It's good that you are training your DS properly. At what point did you give up on having your husband do his fair share? Will you be going back to work? At the FB latest, that's when you need a new arrangement. All the best.

WingingIt101 · 23/04/2020 10:27

Sounds like my dh - I attempted to get him to take his share and responsibility for putting his own laundry away by leaving it all out and eventually gave up when after a few weeks his wardrobe was empty and the floor down his side of the bed was a mass of washed and worn clothing.

I love him but he’s a messy arse who takes little to no responsibility around the house. I’ve accepted that as much as it irritates me.