Around 18m ago I met someone. I wasn't looking for a relationship but we became friends and over time our feelings for each other became more stronger. I wasn't ready to have a relationship and he backed off. Over time things organically progressed and we eventually are where we are today which is in a relationship but still taking things slow eg we haven't moved in together, he doesn't sleep over etc. We've been together around 4m so not long.
Around a month ago - just before the lockdown he told me that he wasn't who he claimed to be. He apparently lives in London and owns his own business. The house that he lives in is a rental which he has been living in since he met me. His job is obviously not what he told me. Even his fucking name isn't real. He's changed it slightly as to not be identifiable. Eg Alex Rider has been changed to Al Rishton.
At first I thought he was joking but it became clear he wasn't. My first reaction was disbelief and utter anger. Why would he do this. Apparently he was fed up of gold diggers and women just after a fun time and his money. He was looking for someone who took him for who he was and decided on a whim to live / commute from a random Northern town! So all these fucking months he's been pretending to be someone else! This has really messed with my head and I was very upset and told him to leave and Ive not spoken to him since.
The worst thing was I actually thought we could have a long term future as we get on so well and he is very kind and sweet. But now I don't fucking know if he really is!?!
He was extremely sorry for what he'd done and explained that one lie led to another and before he knew it he'd woven a massive web of lies. He completely regrets it all and wish he never did this and it was really stupid if not fucking weird!
I don't know what to do. Do I give him a chance? We get on so so well. He was lovely. I'm heart broken.