Teens staying up all night?

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Anyone else teens (15) year 10. Staying up all night and doing fuck all work? I literally am at breaking point

Naturally larks I mean

It is completely normal for teenagers to stay up all night and sleep in all day, anywhere other than Mumsnet! In my experience, it's abnormal for them to get up before 11 when they don't have to!
I did it myself along with every teenager I grew up with in the '90s, long before wifi and social media. My brother took it even further and used to stay in bed until 8 pm at weekends and holidays from as young as 12.

For everyone judging, these are not normal times and we all have to do whatever it takes to get through it, as long as we stick to the social distancing rules.

I really needed this thread to see that it's about picking battles! Thanks guys

It depends what you mind about as a parent. I can remember regularly reading until the small hours as a teenager in the holidays and sleeping in until lunchtime ( nothing to do with electronics). I don’t feel damaged for it in any way. Sleeping in seems a fairly harmless way of getting through this strange time.

I think there needs to be some middle ground. I'm letting DS (nearly 15) up til 11pm. We take away all Wi-Fi and phones at 9pm. He sometimes is awake later. Then get him up at 9am. 11am at the weekends. I have had years of insomnia and he often struggles to sleep and the very worst thing foe insomnia is lots of lie ins.

Nostaples - mmm I'm wondering how your eldest will be when she goes to uni and has to make these decisions herself, having been used to a mum that still insists on set bedtimes and structure at 17.

Dd 16 is still asleep 🤦‍♀️ I honestly don't care atm what time she goes to bed, she doesn't disturb anybody. Not like she's got to get up for school...😫

Some people are night owls anyway. I had constant battles with my mum about it as she is a morning person. It drove her mad when I moved out and started staying up late and getting up late and she couldn't do anything about it. MIL is the same as husband is also a night owl.

I personally don't see the issue providing they aren't disturbing anyone. School work could be done at night instead. Not all jobs are 9 to 5 now either. Teens are naturally wired that way which is why there has been so much discussion around changing school hours to line up with it.

The school work is a separate issue though of course.

Mine too. Year 11 so no school work to do. I don’t love it, I’m a real morning person not a night owl, but I haven’t got any reason to crack down on it. They get showered, eat at meal times, do a bit of exercise every day, do chores when I ask.

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No not normal. Stop making excuses for them. Make them get up at a decent time and do some productive things during the day and go to bed at a decent time. Take some responsibility as a parent. What do you think their teachers have been doing all this time. Yes, I speak as a teacher and parent of two teenagers"

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WiFi off, she is getting all school work done but has literally reversed cycle. Currently drawing and listening to music.

My oldest is like this - she gets all her work done, but she tends to work late then go to bed late.

At university she is in a band that rehearses till 11.30pm, then she usually goes to the library till 2-3am.

Her grades have not suffered in the slightest - straight As, Deans List, etc.

The last few weeks she's been on college break and in that time she's taught herself some computer languages, chatted to friends around the world at various times of day and night, and relaxed.

It's going to be interesting now that they're doing online classes for college. The students are from all over the world, so many of them are having to log in at weird times. She's only a 1-hour time difference so her earliest lecture will be 10am.

Hold my lobster. Yes I imagine my two will be like this at uni.

My dd 16 still mumbling to bf at 1am gets up between 11-12.
Does anything shes asked so far as exams are cancelled goes off to bedroom around 7pm to watch a movie and chats to bf they watch the same movie in separate houses so keeping apart but doing something together which is quite cute.
She does cooking cleaning driving theory training and goes for a walk.
She has a part time job so puts credit in her phone so can't turn that off.
I really don't mind the late night late morning as long as she does something during the day. And not 24/7 screen.

If schoolwork is getting done I really don't see what the issue is.
Teenagers need more sleep

My 16 year old has become quite nocturnal. I'm letting him wake late and go to bed late while it's the school holidays. When he's back at online school he'll be at his desk at 8.30 each day so I see no harm in him enjoying anti social hours during a holiday. He's very motivated with schoolwork, exercise, reading etc, so I see no harm in him having a couple of weeks living as a night owl.

My 13 year old has reset a bit too. going to sleep and waking later than before, but not to the extent of the 16 year old.

My father tried to parent me like Nostaples. I resented it massively, couldn't wait to go away to University (and not come back) and it irrevocably damaged our relationship

My two teens (year 11 & year 13 so both affected by the cancelled exams) have also become mostly nocturnal. Given the difficult situation currently with our normal way of life turned upside down, my priority is that they are generally happy (or as happy as you can be right now)

Thanks Mumsnet. I feel loads better

I do too. Thank you

Yes and I shouted at him at 2.45am this morning to go to sleep and I was so annoyed I couldn’t go back to sleep. Feeling tired and ratty now.

Cut some slack! Give them a time limit.

And i don’t see how switching off the wifi helps 🤔

Yes same here. House party all night on phone so clearly not the only one.

I am drawing it back gradually. Aiming for out of by 10 and into it by 12

It's very strange times but sleep is a key part of good mental health

Looking at the state of my kitchen when I came downstairs this morning my teens had lots of fun after I went to bed last night. I leave the internet on because my 21yo wants it, and gaming late at night seems to be the only thing that makes my 16yo laugh at the moment. This leaves my 14yo able to watch Disney+ late into the night. We seem to have lapsed into summer holiday mode quite quickly. But I'm really enjoying it. It's not forever.

DH did have to ask out 16yo to turn down his music at 1:30am last week though. The LED lights make it seem like a bad nightclub in his bedroom- I'm quite impressed with his ability to party on his own.

I should probably go and wake my teens up, but I'm enjoying the silence.