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DH won’t tell me Amazon Prime password

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VashtaNerada · 11/03/2020 05:45

So we have Amazon Prime which means we get free next day delivery. I generally just ask DH to order stuff but he often gets the wrong thing so I asked for the login details and he has point blank refused! We have a shared bank account so pay for it together but he claims it’s ‘his’ account and sharing details isn’t appropriate. What could he be up to?
I’m in two minds over this. Part of me is imagining gifts for another woman. But he grew up with fairly dysfunctional parents (who later divorced) who did all kinds of odd things he seems to think is normal, secrecy being one of them. For example he hates taking money from my purse if I ask him because he sees that as my personal space, even though I 100% trust him to take the money and nothing else.
Anyone else’s DH act like this? Am I being hopelessly naive in thinking it’s just a peculiar quirk? Or does anyone else think he’s right not to share his login details?

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TokyoSushi · 11/03/2020 05:47

Sounds weird to me...

MabelTheCow · 11/03/2020 05:48

I’d say it’s a weird quirk. Ask him to put you on his amazon friends and family. You share the prime benefits for the same price

midnightstar66 · 11/03/2020 05:50

It does sound like a weird quirk in this instance. It's still odd and annoying though. Ask him if he's happy for you to pay a second time so you can have your own (and I don't mean ask for permission obviously go ahead and do that if you want)

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GiveHerHellFromUs · 11/03/2020 06:06

He's obviously got a thing about privacy which is fine. Do you know his SM passwords?

I think you're worrying about nothing personally.

twoheaped · 11/03/2020 06:10

Are you a Mum? Maybe he has a Mother's Day present on order and her doesn't want you to see his orders.

Have you asked if he'll log you in so you can do what you want?

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VashtaNerada · 11/03/2020 06:10

This is reassuring so far! I just find it so weird. We don’t share SM passwords (although I often use the same password so he could probably guess mine). I’ve happily given him the login details for things like Tesco groceries so he can amend the shopping order, and I just saw Amazon as being similar to that.

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Sally2791 · 11/03/2020 06:11

Very weird. All shared in this house

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VashtaNerada · 11/03/2020 06:12

I really don’t think he’s got anything for me on there! He is terrible at present buying, if anything he’ll pick up something from the corner shop on the morning of Mothers’ Day Grin

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SpyApp · 11/03/2020 06:13

It's weird. If he wants to hide items in order or browsing history there's the option to do that so if he was buying you stuff he didn't want you to see he could do so.

RJnomore1 · 11/03/2020 06:14

No tesco is totally different to amazon.

Family food shopping is one thing, an account I might buy presents or personal items on and I’ve got wishlists set up for birthdays etc is personal spend and DH wouldn’t get a password. I’d order him something if he wanted though.

FluffyAragog · 11/03/2020 06:14

It would make me suspicious because it's just such a weird thing for him to refuse to do. Perhaps you should tell him that? His behaviour is odd. But, if he really doesn't want to for whatever reason then as said above, he can share the prime benefits with you on your own account so you can get the delivery etc but not actually have access to his orders.

zombieaccount · 11/03/2020 06:19

Your husband can add you to his prime account for free as you are in the same household. Amazon household will let you have your own amazon account in your name but you both same the same prime account.

This way you can't see what each other is buying but you also don't have to pay the prime fee twice.

Sharing benefits with Amazon Household requires both adults to link their accounts in an Amazon Household and agree to share payment methods. Each adult keeps his or her personal account while sharing benefits at no additional cost.

Mlou32 · 11/03/2020 06:21

Maybe he uses the same or very similar passwords for everything, therefore giving you this would be giving you the password to everything. I have absolutely nothing to hide but I wouldn't be giving my partner my passwords, it's just a privacy thing.

Zampa · 11/03/2020 06:21

Ask him to put you on his amazon friends and family. You share the prime benefits for the same price

This.

I wouldn't share Amazon passwords due to gift buying etc. (although would probably share if DH asked for a specific reason).

mathanxiety · 11/03/2020 06:23

It is very, very weird.

Change the password of your joint bank account and see how he likes the flavour of sauce for the gander.

caulkheaded · 11/03/2020 06:25

Surely it’s gift buying/lists/targeted advertising??

NamiSwan · 11/03/2020 06:29

I think it's weird. I have Amazon prime and my husband knows my password and orders things on it. When it comes to xmas/birthday I tell him not to look at the purchases (not that he does that anyway).

Fishcakey · 11/03/2020 06:32

I don't share passwords etc. My ex opened my post, wanted to see everything and now I have gone the other way. DH doesn't mind. Amazon Prime is a bit daft to hide though! Tell him just to change the password to something different to his usual.

YakkityYakYakYak · 11/03/2020 06:33

I consider my amazon account as personal to me. It’s linked to my cards and my details. If DH asked for the password I’d let him use it but would probably also prefer he gets his own.

Eckhart · 11/03/2020 06:35

Given that you know he's a bit odd regarding secrecy generally, why would you assume that a display of odd secrecy means he's having an affair? Has he given you any reason not to trust him, besides this?

That said, if you're both paying for it, it's not his account. Ask him why he thinks it is. If it was his to start with, it stopped being, as soon as it was linked to your joint account.

TakeMeToYourLiar · 11/03/2020 06:41

My husband doesn't have mine and vice versa. We use it to buy gifts.

We are however on the family thing so we only pay once for prime for the whole households separate accounts

saraclara · 11/03/2020 06:43

Maybe he uses the same or very similar passwords for everything, therefore giving you this would be giving you the password to everything.

That's what I was going to say. I have the same passwords for groups of things (not banking our super secure stuff, of course). So giving someone my Amazon password would give them the means to access some of my social media.

Frenchw1fe · 11/03/2020 06:44

He's just tight. I bet when he orders 'the wrong thing' it's cheaper.

BoomBoomsCousin · 11/03/2020 06:45

I would assume he’d bought himself something he didn’t want you to see before I’d think he’d bought stuff for another woman.

It does seem odd to point blank refuse, but I do think people are entitled to privacy over what they buy, even from their spouse, in the same way I think they’re entitled to email privacy and to not want to always be traceable on google maps or something.

Iwantedthat · 11/03/2020 06:45

Send him the link of what you want, I do this with my partner for ebay, nothing to do with bank accounts etc, if he picked what i said i wanted he might get it wrong and doesn't price compare like me---- also his eBay, his PayPal so I don't pay 😬 sending link guarantees it's done right