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DH won’t tell me Amazon Prime password

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VashtaNerada · 11/03/2020 05:45

So we have Amazon Prime which means we get free next day delivery. I generally just ask DH to order stuff but he often gets the wrong thing so I asked for the login details and he has point blank refused! We have a shared bank account so pay for it together but he claims it’s ‘his’ account and sharing details isn’t appropriate. What could he be up to?
I’m in two minds over this. Part of me is imagining gifts for another woman. But he grew up with fairly dysfunctional parents (who later divorced) who did all kinds of odd things he seems to think is normal, secrecy being one of them. For example he hates taking money from my purse if I ask him because he sees that as my personal space, even though I 100% trust him to take the money and nothing else.
Anyone else’s DH act like this? Am I being hopelessly naive in thinking it’s just a peculiar quirk? Or does anyone else think he’s right not to share his login details?

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BertieBotts · 11/03/2020 06:46

I didn't know you could link up accounts to use the same Prime! That's useful as I've been using DH's account for ages but it periodically logs me out and I never know what his password is. I have my own account but thought it was silly using mine when we're paying for prime on his.

blackteaplease · 11/03/2020 06:49

Yes yes to adding you to the family account. You can also share Amazon music across devices.

IkeaSlave · 11/03/2020 06:52

Well you learn something new every day! This will be useful for my kids!

To posters who say they expect their partners to have their own accounts... you would really rather they paid £79 than share your pw? To me, I would immediately wonder wtf you are up to on amazon that you would rather see your partner out of pocket by £79.

I do get it. It makes me uncomfortable actually, it does feel private. But I wouldn't expect my partner to pay £79 as we are not loaded and frivolous.

Op, you could suggest you pay next years fee and have it for yourself for a year?

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ChewChewIsMySpiritAnimal · 11/03/2020 06:53

I wouldn't be keen to give dh my password either. He can set up his own account and link it to mine if he wants to use prime. Sharing accounts is odd to me.

RJnomore1 · 11/03/2020 06:56

Ah in fairness mines is different as it’s a student account and I can’t add people in that way.

Wtf do you think someone would be up to with an amazon account though??

rockingmass · 11/03/2020 06:59

He doesn't want you seeing what he spends his money on, maybe he buys the kind of crap you'd disapprove of??
He can share the Prime benefits with you, without you logging on as him. You can choose which card you use from order to order so maybe he's bought some personal stuff.
Personally, I wouldn't refuse if DW asked but I would set her up asap on her own, I wouldn't want here seeing everything I bought. No big secret but I by stuff for family, or her, or myself occasionally and don't necessarily want her seeing what it is or how much it cost everytime

rockingmass · 11/03/2020 07:00

'To posters who say they expect their partners to have their own accounts... you would really rather they paid £79 than share your pw? To me, I would immediately wonder wtf you are up to on amazon that you would rather see your partner out of pocket by £79'

Read the posts! You can share Prime benefits in one family...

mynameiscalypso · 11/03/2020 07:00

I love my DH and have nothing to hide (other than the large amounts of crap I buy on Amazon) but wouldn't dream of sharing my account with him. For a start, I've had it a lot longer than I've had him! We have a family prime account which is perfect for us - you can also share kindle books with it (if you want) which is helpful too.

mumsiedarlingrevolta · 11/03/2020 07:09

OP is it you using it that he objects to or your knowing his password??

Can he sign in to it on your computer and just stay signed in so you won't know password but can share benefits?

That would not sit well with me-just feels odd that he doesn't want to share and would make otherwise unsuspicious DH seem shady

midnightstar66 · 11/03/2020 07:10

I didn't know you could link accounts as I'm the only adult in my household, it's not been something I've looked in to

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 11/03/2020 07:12

Ha my dh drives me nuts going on my amazon and buying all sorts of random crap on my card! I'd never stop him having access though that's weird.

Standrewsschool · 11/03/2020 07:14

Must admit, I would wonder why he was keeping it secretive. With my suspicious mn head on, is it he doesn’t want you to know it because he uses the same password for other accounts he wants to keep secretive about?

We share logins quite openly.

Winterlife · 11/03/2020 07:15

This would be unusual in our family. My son, who lives on his own, has an Amazon prime account. He sends his packages to our home, as there is zero chance of anything being stolen. He has no problem sharing details of his account with his sister, brother, husband, or me.

Mumof1andacat · 11/03/2020 07:16

You can share the use of prime on multiple accounts for the same household. That's what we do.

IkeaSlave · 11/03/2020 07:17

Yeah cheers @rockingmass what about the ones who aren't offering to do that? They just want their partner to pay for their own or what?

thegreylady · 11/03/2020 07:18

I have Amazon Prime. It is just part of my Amazon account it doesn’t have a separate password.

Shoxfordian · 11/03/2020 07:20

How does he regularly buy the wrong thing?
Is he not too bright?

HeyAreYouOK · 11/03/2020 07:20

I'm a bit weird about privacy (also had parents who didn't respect mine) and i wouldn't like sharing an account with my partner. Luckily with prime you don't need to as you can add them to your household and keep separate accounts.

pointythings · 11/03/2020 07:20

I think the proof of the pudding will be in whether or not he says yes to sharing the Prime benefits with you. If he doesn't, that would be an issue for me.

NoMoreDickheads · 11/03/2020 07:21

Weird and annoying.

PhoneLock · 11/03/2020 07:22

Not unusual or "odd" to share accounts in our household. For some reason I seem to need to log in as my husband when I want to listen to Amazon Music. I don't think access can be shared around the household.

OrchidJewel · 11/03/2020 07:24

My DH would never give me a password to anything, then again he works in this area. Surely if he was up to no good he could just delete his history anyway. Would he 'log in' for you or is that a no go? Is it the password or the actual account he is refusing?

PerspicaciaTick · 11/03/2020 07:26

I have declined sharing my Prime account with DH. I also declined adding him to my Prime family as that still involved sharing payment details. I'm not up to anything, just feel in need of privacy in a few areas of my life.

Iggly · 11/03/2020 07:28

I wouldn’t give my DH my amazon password. Why? Because he’d make little comments here and there about what I may or may not buy etc if he spotted anything.

I like to buy without judgement.

Iggly · 11/03/2020 07:30

I also add - privacy was most certainly not respected as I grew up so that’s probably why.

DH doesn’t have automatic right to my passwords. They’re mine. (We share bank accounts and credit cards etc and he knows some of my usual passwords for other accounts)

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