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DH won’t tell me Amazon Prime password

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VashtaNerada · 11/03/2020 05:45

So we have Amazon Prime which means we get free next day delivery. I generally just ask DH to order stuff but he often gets the wrong thing so I asked for the login details and he has point blank refused! We have a shared bank account so pay for it together but he claims it’s ‘his’ account and sharing details isn’t appropriate. What could he be up to?
I’m in two minds over this. Part of me is imagining gifts for another woman. But he grew up with fairly dysfunctional parents (who later divorced) who did all kinds of odd things he seems to think is normal, secrecy being one of them. For example he hates taking money from my purse if I ask him because he sees that as my personal space, even though I 100% trust him to take the money and nothing else.
Anyone else’s DH act like this? Am I being hopelessly naive in thinking it’s just a peculiar quirk? Or does anyone else think he’s right not to share his login details?

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dementedpixie · 11/03/2020 07:31

I have a separate Amazon account. Dh shares his Prime benefits with me. I have my own credit card set up as the payment method on my account so the payment details are not shared

SoupDragon · 11/03/2020 07:33

DS2 has his own account, linked to my Prime by the family thing. DS1 uses my account and his payment card as I couldn't see how to add another adult. I only ever see what DS1 orders, not DS2.

Mydogatemypurse · 11/03/2020 07:35

I would think he doesnt want you to see his purchase history.

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dementedpixie · 11/03/2020 07:36

You can have 2 adults and 4 children on Amazon household. Prime benefits are only shared between the 2 adults

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VashtaNerada · 11/03/2020 07:37

Well I’m not sure I’m feeling any less confused! I think it probably is just a weird quirk. I just wondered if it was a well-known thing that people did to hide something!
In terms of him -repeatedly - buying the wrong thing, yes he is an idiot. I send him the link for the exact item but instead of using it he looks it up from scratch and often gets the wrong thing (the wrong colour party bags, the wrong grade for DS’s music exam etc).

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VashtaNerada · 11/03/2020 07:37

And I will investigate Amazon household, thank you!

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rwalker · 11/03/2020 07:39

Nothing to hide hear but I wouldn't give my password, but I would NEVER ask DW for password for anything of hers just don't think it's right .
I respect her privacy and like mine.

Jenasaurus · 11/03/2020 07:39

Could it be that your DH has used his account to by you presents in the past and doesn't want you seeing the cost or maybe he has bought you something now and again wants it to be a surprise.

Jenasaurus · 11/03/2020 07:40

buy not by :)

RedskyAtnight · 11/03/2020 07:43

It's basic data security that you do not share passwords (even with family members). If his account was fraudulently used, you might not be able to claim the money back if he has shared the password with you. Plus, as others have pointed out, he can share the benefits without giving you his password anyway!

Millhouse7 · 11/03/2020 07:48

I personally think he's being weird. I wouldn't be happy

cologne4711 · 11/03/2020 07:55

My DH has Amazon Prime and I have my own account. If I want something quickly I ask him to order it.

I wouldn't want to combine the accounts because we buy each other presents and I couldn't see a way to avoid that when I looked at the Friends & Family thing.

I don't think it's strange for him not to give you the password.

rockingmass · 11/03/2020 08:03

Yeah cheers @rockingmass what about the ones who aren't offering to do that? They just want their partner to pay for their own or what?

If you have a DP right as that I’d suggest you have other issues in your relationship!
I’ve never heard of a DW or DH refusing to share Prime benefits

Friendsofmine · 11/03/2020 08:04

My instinct coloured by experience and lots of similar stories is that he is unaware you could link with a family account and still have separate passwords like most PP and therefore is not willing to give you his password because it is the log in for socasual.com or something similar.

I suspect it has very little to do with Prime.

If he is devious he will now change the password then offer it to you so as to dampen suspicion.

CodenameVillanelle · 11/03/2020 08:07

He's being fucking weird

But he can add you as part of his family sharing so you can use prime without needing the password and don't see what he's ordered if that's bothering him Hmm

CodenameVillanelle · 11/03/2020 08:07

@cologne4711 you still have separate accounts, you don't see what each other have ordered

AParallelUniverse · 11/03/2020 08:08

Well if he shares the bank account with you that pays for it then it is odd. Ask him to put you on friends and family. If he doesn't set up your own bank account and stop sharing one with him. And then consider where you want to go next.

HappyAsASandboy · 11/03/2020 08:11

Link your accounts rather than sharing one. I wouldn't like to have my husbands purchased all tangled up with mine.

ChickLitLover · 11/03/2020 08:11

I’d say he’s hiding something but I suppose it depends how much you share other things. We each know the others passwords for everything that we both use so for us it would be weird.

Why doesn’t he just use the links you send him to the things you want when you have sent him them, why does he ignore them?

Mamato2gorgeousboys · 11/03/2020 08:16

I would agree with pp and say he probably orders himself the odd bit of crap and presents from there so he doesn’t want you to have access. I once logged into my DH’s account (with permission) on his phone and saw one of my birthday presents. Ask your dh to add you to friends and family and then you’ll have access to the benefits too. If you have a joint account and otherwise he’s totally transparent, I wouldn’t worry about this at all.

Patchworkpatty · 11/03/2020 08:16

My husband and I are like this . We don't share passwords of any sort ever.

It's probably a bit weird but never really thought about it. It's just not something I would give much thought to.. just the way it is..

... the justification of phone snooping on this website makes my skin crawl. It's like privacy is sacrosanct until it doesn't suit the agenda anymore and GOD FORBID a member of a couple wants privacy for any reason .. a sure sign they are cheating. I'm surprised someone hasn't already suggested it on this thread. He won't give you the password because you will see his massive list of gifts to the OW 🙄..

VadenuRewetje · 11/03/2020 08:21

You don't need to know his password to use the Amazon prime account. He just needs to link to you as a family member in his account, and you will get access to all the prime services (both the delivery stuff and the Online media content). It will take him 25 seconds max.

WhatchaMaCalllit · 11/03/2020 08:22

Can't you use his username and do the "Forgot my Password" option? Does that work for Amazon Prime??

lmcneil003 · 11/03/2020 08:23

It sounds like he up to mischief.
Are there any other signs of infidelity?

johnstonfont · 11/03/2020 08:27

I wouldn't share my amazon password as I wouldn't want people to have access to my purchase history.

I have however set up amazon family.