What would you do if you wanted a dog but your dh didn’t ?

[Lardlizard]

How can you make a compromise on that one

You get a dog

Life's too short

LTB
Get a dog.

It’s like when people have kids, how do you know in advance of having kids how your going to feel in regard to going back to work or staying at home to look after the baby ?

You don't get a dog. We have this in our household; DH would quite like a dog. I think dogs are smelly, slobbery, flea-ridden irritants.
If he bought a dog home (which he wouldn't, but hypothetically speaking) I would be furious, and I would arrange for it to be rehomed immediately.

Same with a baby. DH would like a third child, I wouldn't. Therefore, we are stopping at two.

My OH went on a lads holiday and came home to a 13 week pup. I knew 100% of the care would come down to me so I did lots of research to ensure I got the right dog for our family.

Two years later, OH came home with another, same breed but different litter. So he obviously softened to the idea! As a family we really wouldn't be without them, but I do agree with other posters that they are a massive commitment.

I'd ltb, but then I'm a dog lover 😁

DH didn't want a dog. I wanted a dog. After talking it through he relented and we got a dog. DH and dog are now inseparable.

You can't just get a dog. Ask yourself how you would feel if the roles were reversed. Think about something you really would not like to happen and your DH knows this but does it anyway - it's disrespectful.

Also, there is the dog to consider.. Ask yourself why you want one. What is missing in your life that you need a dog in it? The only reason I'm saying this is because I've sat and listened to so many of my friends justify why they want (and eventually get) a dog, then I have to sit and listen to them moan about how much hassle it is and how it has impacted on their life. It drives me nuts because they were warned about the impact and all the considerations but it's like some sickness takes over and people become blind to the facts and are determined to get one anyway. I also feel sorry for the poor dog because it's usually families whose lives are chaotic anyway and the dog only adds to that and doesn't get the care and attention it needs. The family doesn't have time to train it properly and the whole situation spirals out of control.

I like dogs but I don't have one at the moment because I do not have enough time in my life to be a responsible dog owner without it impacting on other areas in my life.

It’s not like that at all.
Some people love dogs.
Others would be aghast at the mud in my kitchen, the holes in my clothes from the bitey pup, the lack of sleep and how we can NEVER have a whole day out without the dogs.
If you want a dog you can have one. But if your DH doesn’t want one don’t expect him to stay.

You can’t.

You can make a business walking them though!

Ask him just to come and view some puppies with you.

Why does the person that wants a dog have to lose out ? It's not a compromise as one gets their way and one doesn't ( I wouldn't have a dog btw, I don't like them )

Because you shouldn’t get a dog if everyone is not
On board. Surely that’s not good for the dog either? Same way you shouldn’t have a child if only one wants one.

*Treacletoots

My exH was a cat man. He didn't like the effort or responsibility of a dog. Turns out it was a common theme in his life.*

I have a cat, I have always had cats. I don't want a dog. I do a lot of things in my life that require effort and responsibility. If your ex-h was a lazy twat it didn't have anything to do with him liking cats

@Lardlizard I would have thought the majority of people would have a good idea of whether they wanted to go back to work after having children or be a sahm.

Me and DH discussed at length whether to have children or not. One of the factors that made us decide not to have any was the fact that I definitely wanted to be a sahm but I was the main wage earner so we could not have afforded that.

I'd start looking at rehoming sites.

I'm sure I could find a lovely family to adopt my husband.

But seriously, no I wouldn't get one without DH's agreement - everyone in the house has to be on board with the dog. Fortunately he's a dog lover.

Depends on his reasoning. If needed LTB

I went on and in about it until he finally gave in. We now have two retired greyhounds that my husband now admits are no bother at all. Ido all the feeding, walking etc as they are my responsibility.

The wishes of the person who doesn’t want a pet (or indeed DC) trump those of the person who does. The latter can decide whether or not to continue in the relationship.

Being a SAHP isn’t really a comparable situation. Unlike pet ownership or having DC it can usually be changed. It’s only really a viable option if both partners are OK with the set up, and this could change at any time and the SAHP would seek a job.

You haven’t shared any info on your specific circumstances. Eg work patterns.

Didn’t get one.

He agreed to a cat.
The cat is already a lot of work

I know you can’t discuss/know everything about someone before marriage, but I couldn’t personally have married someone who didn’t like/want animals. (Easy for me as I already had a horse, so if my husband could cope with her I was laughing really!)

But I’d never get a dog if my oh didn’t want one. It wouldn’t be fair. I’d try and find out reasons (practicalities sometimes makes it wrong to get a pet) and if it was a simple lack of wanting one I’d accept it but it would be a nail in the coffin for the relationship for me.

Wanting animals or not IS relevant to discuss pre marriage, if having them or not important to either one of you. Unrealistic to hope that people who don’t want the responsibility will change their minds.

Chuck husband out and I’ll move in....so what breed are we getting? I like the many Scamp.