Is 40 (me) and 46 (him) too old to have another baby?

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We have a DC already and I wonder if we’re too old now for another...

Anyone done this with mother in 40s and father in mid-to-late 40s?

I’m mostly thinking of health risks. We’re both really “young” for our ages.

I was 37 when our surprise 5th baby arrived on his 50th birthday, she'll be 10 soon and he'll be 60! No issue with age here

go for it.

I was 40 when I had my DD, DH was 42, I'm 48 now. I had IVF but other than that had a normal pregnancy with no complications. I had an emergency C Section and delivered a very healthy DD.

I'm on my own with her now, its hard going sometimes but I don't think that's down to my age more to the fact that I am a total lone parent with very limited help!

I would say go for it!!

If it’s right for you, it’s right for you.

I’m 38 this year and I wouldn’t have another baby now. I like my evenings to myself and not having to get up in the night, I couldn’t go back to that again.

As you go in to your forties you'll be out of sync with your tribe if you have a baby now, you'll still be the mother of a primary school child at 50.
Surely that depends on her tribe?? I'm 38 with newborn twins, fellow school Mom's are 44 and 40 with a 2 and a 1 yo respectively. My childhood friends are my age with a 2 and 3 yo as youngest. My uni friends are my age with a 2 and 3 yo as youngest. If op was in our "tribe" she'd fit in.

OP if I hadn't had twins last I'd have considered one more go at 40 whe. DH would be 47 (but we have 3 now and that's plenty 😂)

I think it's borderline, so you need to get a wiggle on but right now it's fine.

I've had friends who have had babies in their early to mid forties and it's worked out well, they often have more patience, time and money than younger parents.
The only flip side is you will be much older when you have teenagers, coping with a baby in your forties is fine, a teenager in your sixties more challenging. Also need to be aware of added health risks both for baby and yourself. Also generally there is more risk of major health problems as we get older. I think if you want to then do it but get on with it!

No, jeez you're only 40. The kid will be an adult before you retire, despite what people are saying. Maybe just try. If it happens, it happens and it was meant to be.