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Teen parents - what are you doing today?

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Canshopwillshop · 17/02/2020 09:45

I’ve got DD 15 and DS 13 both of whom are still asleep at the moment. I’d really like to do something with them today but I just don’t know what. I am reminiscing about how much easier it was to please them both when they were younger - swimming/park/soft play etc. The only thing I can think of is the cinema. Any other ideas?

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BeyondMyWits · 17/02/2020 15:53

DD17 studying for A levels.

DD19 50 miles away living with her husband, independent, working for a living.

"teens" covers a wide variety...

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Canshopwillshop · 17/02/2020 16:08

Thanks everyone. We ended up going out for a pub lunch together which was lovely. Now DD has gone to see friends and DS is on his PlayStation.

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BlueEyedFloozy · 17/02/2020 16:10

I was working whilst he was at school.

Half term was last week here 😁

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Sofonisba · 17/02/2020 16:19

As a parent of two under 3, this thread is making me long for the year 2032!!

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Canshopwillshop · 17/02/2020 16:56

@Sofonisba - oh don’t! I so miss them being little and being the centre of their universe. I know how hard it can be at times though but don’t wish it away, it goes too quickly 🙁

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spiderlight · 17/02/2020 17:11

I prodded DS out of bed at the third attempt, just before midday. He reluctantly came out for a dog walk, which he ended up thoroughly enjoying because the paths were all flooded and he turned into a toddler running through puddles for a blissful hour or so. We then came home, emptied his wellies and he disappeared to his room to play on his flight sim for a couple of hours. Just had an early tea and he'll be off to air cadets shortly.

Itstheprinciple · 17/02/2020 17:15

We went shopping. DD bought herself a skateboard with her Christmas money so has been practising on that for a bit and is now on facetime to her boyfriend before getting ready for her am dram group rehearsal and a sleepover at her friend's tonight.

The problem I have is getting me motivated to do something while she is busy. I'm stuck in the mindset of being available for her in the holidays so when she's occupied I don't know what to do with myself! I need a kick up the backside!

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Canshopwillshop · 17/02/2020 17:21

@itstheprinciple - I’m the same. I’m so used to being around for them in hols so I put everything on hold! I haven’t booked any of my usual gym classes and if I’m not careful will just end up wasting my week waiting around for them.

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autumnboys · 17/02/2020 17:21

Mine are 16, 14, 10. We had a slow morning, then early lunch and walked up to the shop for ingredients for millionaires shortbread, which the 14yo will apparently be making tomorrow.

The 10yo is drawing and watching YouTube. We played some Wizards Unite together earlier.

I’ve just put the 14yo on the train to meet DH from work and they’re going trainer shopping in Stratford.

16yo has revision clinics at school tomorrow & Wednesday. Just tried to turn his laptop on to so some work and it’s not working. He doesn’t seem too disappointed.

PandaG · 17/02/2020 17:22

DC 1 at university, DC2 got up late, pootled about, now out with friend. She will.have another couple of days pottering, cleaning her room and baking - then she.is off to visit her brother for the weekend. Mocks were last week so giving herself a week off studying. Most of her baking will be taken to her brother. She will probably go for a run a couple of times, but no point me joining her - I would hold her up too much. We might watch some telly together. She did a craft workshop yesterday afternoon, part of her Christmas present - I think she may practise what she learnt. I'm completely extraneous, apart from paying for the train ticket to her brother, and buying the baking ingredients.

autumnboys · 17/02/2020 17:24

Cinema tomorrow and the older two are seeing friends. I’m working at the end of week, they’ll be DH’s problem then. Some talk of going climbing at the local wall and DH taking 16 & 10 to London to look at the guitars on Denmark street (they all play) while 14 is swimming with friends.

Howmanysleepsnow · 17/02/2020 19:15

Mine will do ice skating, shopping, lunch, skiing, surfing, indoor skydiving, walks and maybe cinema with me. Shopping, cinema, bowling, swimming, trampolining and gym with friends.

IHaveBrilloHair · 17/02/2020 20:06

Gosh, that sounds expensive!

JiltedJohnsJulie · 17/02/2020 20:09

Only had one today and he was happy going out for lunch with me. It was nice to get sone time alone with him.

YawnYawnYawnYawnzy · 17/02/2020 20:30

oh don’t! I so miss them being little and being the centre of their universe. I know how hard it can be at times though but don’t wish it away, it goes too quickly

This!

Ime food needs to be involved!

gameofmoans83 · 17/02/2020 21:11

I don't get it. I have 3 little ones and am absolutely overwhelmed with the level of demands- no sleep, demands to play, get them food and drinks, wipe their bottoms, sort out their arguments, prevent the toddler from killing himself on any number of hazards. I long for time to myself to read a book, watch what I want on TV, exercise, go for a walk, do some cooking that isn't the most basic possible while peeling little kids off my legs, take up a hobby etc etc. Why isn't it like that when they get on with their own things?

glenhaggis · 17/02/2020 21:22

We went to see 1917.

lakeswimmer · 17/02/2020 21:23

17 yr old went to town for cinema with friends, 15 yr old at part-time job in cafe, 13 yr old in PJs for most of the day and then dragged out for a dog walk. Tomorrow we've got a day trip to the Big City for shopping and then an exciting mix of visiting friends, grandparents, hair cuts and doctors appointments for the rest of the week.

C0tt0nReelz · 17/02/2020 21:24

Trying to keep sane alongside hair cuts and orthodontics.

Because it just isn’t Game I had 3 under 18 months who are now 3x teens. The pre school years were a doddle in comparison.

gameofmoans83 · 17/02/2020 21:26

@C0tt0nReelz I believe you, but what it is it that makes it so hard? At the moment the idea of them all occupying themselves (and wiping their own bums) while I get on with my own thing sounds so easy....(I know grass is greener and all that- just genuiely curious!)

Howmanysleepsnow · 17/02/2020 21:31

@IHaveBrilloHair we aren’t doing all that in one week! They’ll see friends a couple of times, one walk, one of the more expensive activities, possibly shopping (they’ve grown! But H&M type budget and clothes are a necessity..) and maybe a lunch/ breakfast out if they’re running errands with me.

Howmanysleepsnow · 17/02/2020 21:35

@gameofmoans83 I have 2 at infant school as well as the teens. They’re easier and cheaper to entertain. But all 4 have a tendency to follow me around chatting non stop for an hour or two at a time, several times a day (the teens break this up by intermittently becoming utterly absorbed by their phone (dd) or PS4 (ds) and neglecting homework/ tidying their rooms/ real life until pried away)

C0tt0nReelz · 17/02/2020 21:36

Because they’re moody, snappy, moany ,scathing about everything,need to be nagged re exam revision and anything they should do, prowl around like cats cooking and eating shit, need to be driven everywhere, hormonal, argumentative, expensive,rude and shouty, needy, naggy, aloof....

Not all the time or out in public but they take turns on a loop so it’s exhausting and you get no cuddles. They can be lovely but not enough to make up for all the stressful shit.You have no idea until you experience it for yourself.However gorgeous your kids are when younger, nothing prepared you for it. Most of the friends I know are longing to come out the other side. It’s FB like being in an emotional rollercoaster. Just when you catch your breath you’re off again.

PointOfTipping · 17/02/2020 21:36

I agree with @gameofmoans83 I don't see how it's harder than with little ones but I genuinely want to know!

TheHumansAreDefinitelyDead · 17/02/2020 21:42

My oldest is 17 and always with gf

My youngest is 15 and likes to game or be out with mates

Neither of them particularly want to go to the cinema or swimming with their mum they explained to me that it would be quite weird to do this. But occasionally they allow me to go for a Nando's of curry with them

They seem to have their own life now, and I just go to work (I work half days only) and gym/swim etc

Just remembered : Last week they came on a beach walk with me! A rare treat

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