So - the story. Maybe be outing but I think I owe it to all you great detectives!
My great grandfather John known as Jack was born in London in the late 1800s. He had five siblings, one of whom was Mary Ann, known as Maisie. In 1902 he married my great grandmother Ada and my grandfather ( also John known as Jack) was born. Shortly after this the family emigrated to Canada and then moved to the US, where Jack Snr worked as a ‘machinist’( possibly on the railroad). Two more boys were born and Ada was pregnant with a fourth child, a girl, when some sort of separation occurred and Ada and the children returned to England. They were destitute and entered the workhouse ( Ada having given birth just after their return). The three boys spent the rest of their childhood in a children’s home which was an extension of the workhouse with their sister in and out, staying with relatives etc. I have a folder of letters in which Ada, other members of the family and the Salvation Army try to contact Jack. There are a number from a friend and neighbour of Ada’s in the US which accuse Jack of being with another woman. There are also a number of letters from Jack refuting this. In the last one ( to his brother) he says he is going to ‘disappear’ and asks his brother not to tell Ada of his whereabouts.
The rest of Jack Snrs family try to contact him without success. One of these is his sister Maisie, who is living in Italy with her husband. When he is killed in 1918 in France, she remarries Harambulous ( known either as Harris or Harry) Kythreatis, the son of a Cypriot interpreter and they live in Alexandria. She is 47 and he is 27 at the time of the letter! Hence the comments about growing a beard, being called an uncle etc. The stepfather comment I think is because Maisie had a daughter by her first marriage, also Maisie, who would have been 14 when the letter was written.
My next step is to try to trace the movements of my errant gt grandfather in the States!
Thanks again for all your help - it’s been much more fun doing this with others!