When you die how many people will go to your funeral?

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My dad died a few years ago and the crematorium was packed, there must have been about 100 people there.
I don’t know that many people, when I die I expect (hope) that perhaps 20 people will see me off.
Is that below average, above or ‘about right’

This is one of the reasons I want direct cremation. The turnout would be pitiful.

My mum, dad, husband, sister, children. That’s all. 8 people.

I work for a funeral Directors and I’d say the average attendance is around 60.

I care not a jot about my own funeral and would be happy for an unattended Cremation to take place and for the kids and hubby (if I go before him) to have a party At home to remember me and try not to grieve for too long.

My husband and daughter know I want direct cremation when I die. I have nobody, other than the two of them, in my life for many, many reasons.

It’s actually reassuring to them to know exactly what I want and they’ve already discussed how they would mark my death, just the two of them, if it happened.

My husband wants exactly the same, should he die before me.

I could think of nothing worse than ex-family and friends pretending they cared by pitching up to a service. I’d be watching from my cloud and spitting feathers at the hypocrisy!

About five. Meh.

If I was to die tomorrow I would guess about 30-50, depending on whether extended family (aunts, uncles, cousins etc) who I haven’t seen for years felt obliged to go and depending on how many work colleagues felt obliged to go. I don’t think everybody who attended would necessarily be feeling my loss deeply but I think it’s likely some people would feel like they ought to show their faces.

I live in Ireland, so the whole bloody village probably.

I'd much prefer a small private English style funeral attended by my nearest & dearest but that's not what I'll get if I'm still living here when the time comes, but I'll be dead so I won't care anyway.

I'm in Ireland too. 100s I'd say.

A member of my family died recently, suddenly and far too young. We had in excess of 400 at the funeral with in excess of half of that number standing outside. He never knew how much he was loved and would have been stunned.

Probably not my dad.
Possibly my mum, for a short period.
10 cousins.
Maybe one aunt. Two uncles.
Both my beautiful kids if they’re allowed (babies still).
DH and his siblings.
Five friends or so.
Two of my siblings if I’m lucky.

So maybe 27. If half of them didn’t make an excuse.

In Ireland. Hundreds.

My parents and siblings, probably BIL. Assuming I live to be old, I want direct cremation. I dread dying before my parents because they'd plan a funeral and nobody would show up to it.

This as been on my mind recently, I’m not a sociable person quite a recluse nothing like my 4 sister’s. I’m the youngest at 62, so just say they go before me or just 1 or 2 left.
I don’t see there kids, so it will be dp and my son and any sister that out lives me

I want straight to crematorium, they make there own way there few words no hymns
And they do what they want to after.

I'm in Ireland so a lot. It depends on how old I am when I die. My grandmother who was 93 had a church full (Protestant church so not huge) whereas my Dad who was only early 70s had the same church full plus the church hall with a sound system rigged up, plus people standing in the open bit between the church and the hall.

I have a large family, depends how many of them go before me😀
At my mum's 2yrs ago about 100 people were there.

When my dd died the chapel was mobbed. The police were there to direct the traffic. When we arrived at the cemetery the cars were all the way back onto the main road. Several hundred people must have been there.
I hated it. If I could go back I would've had her funeral a private one.

That will depend on how old I am at the time.

If I were to die tomorrow, I would probably have quite a lot of people. I'm still working, so I expect at least some work colleagues would turn up. I belong to a few clubs/groups and I would expect some of them to turn up as well. All of my family of my generation and below are still alive, so they would all come.

But if I'm very old when it happens, it will probably be just my immediate family that attends. Chances are that I will no longer belong to any groups and most of my friends will be either already dead or too frail to attend.

Interesting.

When my ILs passed, in country Australia, 20 odd years ago, there was a big turn out. And the attendance register condolence book was closely scrutinised.. 🙂

It was remarked upon how many attendees hadn't been 'in their lives' in any real sense, for years. But appearances were important. So they turned up.

Probably like rural Ireland, tbh.

Lord knows how many would attend mine!

It depends on how long I live. Both of my grandmothers out-lived their friends, so for them it was family only, plus a representative from their respective care homes.

On the other hand, if a youngish person dies, it tends to be standing room only in our town.

My husband died last year. I couldn’t tell you how many people came but probably 300-400. I’ve never seen anything like it. Still can’t quite process it

Two. I doubt more people than that would even know that I'd died.

I honestly don't think that many people would come to mine. But you know, whatever. It's not like it really matters.

If I died now, my family would come and a few friends. Assuming I outlive the older generations of my family, and my older partner, you're literally looking at just my brother, and his family if he has one by then. Depressing.

I reckon 4. And maybe the cat.

I'm not having a funeral, my body is going tot he local medical school to be dissected.

Another Irish so again the whole village and the next village over too...sure why not!!

Not having a funeral either - direct cremation.