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When you die how many people will go to your funeral?

88 replies

MelanieFrontage · 08/02/2020 23:43

My dad died a few years ago and the crematorium was packed, there must have been about 100 people there.
I don’t know that many people, when I die I expect (hope) that perhaps 20 people will see me off.
Is that below average, above or ‘about right’

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Dowser · 09/02/2020 13:18

Lovely story innui

PanamaPattie · 09/02/2020 13:24

I’m not having a funeral as I would prefer an early morning slot at the crematorium with no one in attendance, no service, no flowers or wake. My parents both opted for this. However, their non-funerals still cost £3.5k each. The cost of the fees and the cheapest coffin is staggering.

maggienolia · 09/02/2020 13:31

I'm having a direct cremation so none. Too much fuss for me.
I went to a funeral connected with work where the total attendance was 7. Including the deceased. Conversely at my dad's funeral we had well over 100.

AutumnRose1 · 09/02/2020 13:33

If I literally died today, lots - 150?

but I'd rather it was a direct cremation with nobody there tbh. Conveyor belt finished.

I have no idea what happens if I make it to my parents' age but I very much hope not to.

Juanbablo · 09/02/2020 13:36

I don't know, maybe 30. At my dad and grandad's funerals there were 150 people or so. I'm not that popular!

Juanbablo · 09/02/2020 13:37

Same with my mum's funeral actually, probably more than 150.

Drum2018 · 09/02/2020 13:38

Irish here. I'd expect it would be 100's. When our parents died hundreds came to pay their respects between attending the funeral home and the church. Over 100 sat for a meal after our parents burial. Here you would have friends/in-laws of your siblings who may never have met you, attending your funeral, so it's a wide net of people and that's before the locals who generally turn out in force.

ItFigures · 09/02/2020 13:38

I have a fair sized family and a decent amount of friends so doubt my numbers would be pitiful. My dad died recently and 1000 people came. I couldn’t believe it. It was comforting to the family to know how loved he was.

HaudMaDug · 09/02/2020 13:42

Probably no one other than scroungers looking for a free drink and grub. They will be disappointed as I'm making no provision for a wake in my arrangements. Fuckers couldn't make it to my Birthday party.

ReginaGeorgeous · 09/02/2020 13:56

Hundreds probably, I am half Irish.

vhs95 · 09/02/2020 14:12

None, I'm having a direct cremation.

NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace · 09/02/2020 18:52

None. I'm not having a funeral.

FrenchFancie · 09/02/2020 19:30

I think one or two might attend mine just to be sure I was actually dead!!

In all honesty I’m not sure. I woman my age in the next town over had a massive heart attack on Boxing Day and the church was packed out for her funeral - I happened to drive past at the time and it was a ‘people in the graveyard listening to speakers’ job. I was surprised

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