Would you work if you didn't have to?

[JorisBonson]

If you won the lottery or came into a life changing sum of money some other way.

I like my job fine but they wouldn't see me for dust if I won the lottery. And I would spend my days fostering kittens in my mansion.

I love my job and would still work if I didn't need to. However, I would be tempted to give that up and work with a cat rescue charity. I was a SAHM for 6 years and, after dd2 went to school I was bored out of my brain. I like being part of something.

No way! I'd offer free workshops in my subject to schools with financial issues (my subject is a nice to have arts subject so quick to go with budget cuts).
I'd then spend more time with my kids and enjoy having time to exercise. I'd do some voluntary work.

I'd like to think I'd still work. I'd probably go part time. But realistically i would quit go travelling for a year or so and figure out what I actually want to do

I’d carry on doing my current job right now, because I happen to enjoy it. But as soon as that changed I’d pack it in and become a property developer. I’d pay other people to do the tedious bits and just ponce about picking kitchen designs and paint colours, but I’d be able to call myself a company director rather than a self-indulgent non-working ponce.

I technically don't have to work as DH earns more than enough to support us.
I work part time in a job I enjoy though as I don't want a huge gap on my cv should I need to look for more serious work in the future for any reason.

I technically don't have to work as DH earns more than enough to support us.

I find that a deeply odd comment. DH earns more than enough to support us, too. Flip that, and I earn more than enough to support us, too, but I don't think it's ever occurred to him that he 'technically' doesn't have to work. And to be honest, it has never occurred to me either.

“DH earns more than enough to support us”

For as long as he’s well, willing and able to retain a highly paid job, and the relationship survives.

I have a list of all the people at work I would tell to fuck off in person. Then I'd be gone like a shot.

I'd like to work, but not in the job I have!

DH used to earn literally 15 times my salary. Then he had a nervous breakdown and has not worked meaningfully for 13 years. (he does bits and pieces).

I confess I resented it at first... the future I understood it to be had gone.

Now I am glad that I kept my employment record going. Things are laods easier now but it was hard at first!

No

You should have done this in aibu OP and had voting.

@Samhradh then the comment isn't applicable to you is it?
It's applicable to us as I don't earn (or have the capacity to earn) enough to support us.

@Dozer yes which is why I still work. Did you read the rest of my comment?

You're missing my point, @lengthenmylutealphase. Which is that either partner in a relationship, male or female, thinking they 'technically don't have to work' because the other earns enough to keep the household, is pretty odd.

Wouldn't you find it fairly entitled if your husband went about thinking of his job as something optional that he didn't really need to do because you earned enough to keep him?

Absolutely not! But I would (after having taken some time out) find some sort of charity project to get involved in. It would be nice to be able to have the time/energy to give something to the community which I can’t currently because I work full time, have one DC and trying for another.

@Samhradh I was made redundant whilst on maternity leave then stayed at home with ds until he was 2 whilst looking for a job that fitted in with available childcare. DH would have been fine with me staying at home if I'd wanted to just like if the positions were reversed I'd have been fine with him staying at home with DS.
It's not unusual for a family to have a sahp- you're acting like you've never heard of one before

I would give up work in a heartbeat. My children go to morning club and after school club. I find it difficult to fit in homework/clubs/friends over etc during the week and end up doing household jobs at the weekend so I think our family life would be significantly enhanced if I gave up work.

I'm not talking about SAHPs at all, I'm talking about the idea that one spouse/partner thinks they 'technically don't have to work' because the other earns enough.