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I can't stop getting tearful, why are people so cruel?

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Refreshed · 03/02/2020 14:35

Standing in the kiosk queue in Asda yesterday. There were no trolleys (usually always is), so I was caught off guard as DS had no shoes on. I had a few bits to get. Store was closing within the hour. I carried DS around and had a basket. It was a heavy nightmare.

Paid at self service then needed to grab a drink so paid for it at the kiosk. There was one woman in front of me and the man on the till had to add change as they'd obviously run low. This man serving very obviously had some sort of issue, such as OCD. He had this thing where he had to put two coins in, tap the side then add more. He kept on doing this, clearly looking extrenely stressed, for at least 3/4 minutes.

The blokes being me started saying '' Hurry the fuck up! '' and '' what's he doing?! Fuck sake'' along with other stuff.

I was so cross I said to them to bloody well go and pay for their papers elsewhere if they have no patience, the shop won't shuck us out even if it turns to 40pm.

They said' 'we just want to get out of here ffs'

Anyway I finally got served and he said to me, very tearfully, thank you for that.

I couldn't even answer properly other than a smile. I rushed to my car, strapped DS in and sobbed my heart out.

Everytime I think of what happened, my heart sinks. And I start getting emotional.

Why are people so so cruel?

OP posts:
Shadyshadow · 04/02/2020 18:03

I get the sense this is less 'this world is so cruel'

And more 'look how vitreous I am'

Refreshed · 04/02/2020 18:35

Worra He didn't. He looked pokerface. But doesn't react to situations much anyway, he's suspected ASD

OP posts:
WorraLiberty · 04/02/2020 18:49

Must've been unsettling though all the same. I know my kids would've been very upset to see me sobbing my heart out while they're sat in the back of the car.

ClappyFlappy · 04/02/2020 19:21

I just can't believe so many people are so so cruel

Oh come on. It’s arseholish behaviour but describing it as “so so cruel” is ridiculous.

ClappyFlappy · 04/02/2020 19:25

And as for “so many people” how many were there? 3 or 4? Hardly crowds baying for the guy’s blood 🙄

MyuMe · 04/02/2020 19:30

Why would you take your kid shopping with no shoes?

WhatsTheLatest · 04/02/2020 19:32

vitreous

like glass in appearance or physical properties.
"a coarse-grained rock with much grey vitreous quartz"
(of a substance) derived from or containing glass.
"vitreous china"

Why would she want to look like glass?

Lostkeyagain · 04/02/2020 19:37

They asked him to hurry up (albeit they were rude), they didn’t tar and feather him! Your reaction was very OTT.

fatisnotafeeling · 04/02/2020 19:37

@Refreshed, good on you OP for sticking up for him please ignore the posters getting at you for crying in front of you DS or him having no shoes, sometimes people really are twats for no reason.

I am a support worker and work with a Man who has limited motability, he is visibly disabled and walks with a frame. The most time we ever hold anyone up is a minute or 2 probably less then that. I often despair at the impatience and tutting and huffing at us/him.

I try to hold my tongue as much as I can however sometimes i have to say something because people will think their behaviouris acceptable unless it's challenged.

Shadyshadow · 04/02/2020 19:52

@WhatsTheLatest oh the fucking Irony!

I am dyslexic. On a thread about people being horrible to people with issues you take the piss out if someone with dyslexia.

Well done you!!!

UnaCorda · 05/02/2020 06:25

Ok, the man in the queue should have bitten his tongue, but otherwise it's all a bit bleeding heart...

TeachesOfPeaches · 05/02/2020 06:38

Asda one hour before closing is hell on earth.

Katharinblum · 05/02/2020 07:45

So it's acceptable to swear at people now ? Fair enough grumble under your breath but shouting stuff out designed to intimidate is out of order.

5zeds · 05/02/2020 09:39

Grumbling under your breath is JUST as unpleasant it just is less likely to be challenged.

Just try not to be dickheads and have some manners.

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