Cemetery lovers, if you're in Scotland do notice how married women are designated. 'Here lies James Campbell and his wife Jeanie Robertson' etc. Scottish women have culturally held their own identity after marriage. See also birth, death and marriage certificates, which have detailed womens maiden names for over a hundred years.
I'm a genealogist and I'm fascinated by modern social history. How the absolute fuck has society changed so much in three generations?
When my gran had her tonsils out as a child, she shared her hospital bed top to toe with another child. The doctor making his rounds was terrifying, and her parents weren't allowed to visit.
In our grandparents lifetimes, it was typical to have large/very large families on an extremely low income, in a tiny house that didn't have indoor plumbing, without access to any state support and prior to the invention of anti biotics.
I have one child, a good income, all the support I could possibly want, and the NHS to help myself to. And I still find parenting hard.
Then I look at Agnes from the Gorbals, married at 19, having six children over 11 years in a two room house with a shipyard labourer husband. Her kids are out there now.