Help- cleaner drank my gin!

[kayde12]

Hi all,
I’m new to mumsnet, but would really love some advice!

I’ve just signed up to a cleaning company and had my first clean, which I was thrilled about.
Then I noticed that half of my bottle of pink drink has gone!
I only got the bottle given to me as a gift last week from my sister in law.
My Dh doesn’t drink and I have my two ds in the house.
It was the cleaner definitely!
The company have been awful at getting back to me and sent me a poor email saying she said she didn’t drink it and was too early in the morning.

I feel really gutted and not sure how to move forward or get some sort of justice!!

I mean, who's to say the hubs isn't having someone over on the sly who is fond of the pink gin, if we're throwing mad accusations around with no evidence?

I stole my parents drink from age 11! Shocked by it now. I did fill it up with water though

I was always pinching my Dads Jamaican overproof rum from age 11.

I didn’t even bother adding water to it because I knew I’d nick some more later on

Dad tried hiding it a few times, but I always found it (his hiding places were so obvious to me), so he just gave up in the end and put it back in the drinks cabinet

Ohhh I really fancy a pink gin now!!.....but got none in the house....dammit

Hubby could be a secret drinker.

Wow... So many blaming a 13 year old.

I expect the cleaner has taken some in a container.

Take her on Judge Rinder.

This thread is hilarious!

"I was an alcoholic at age 10 and regularly drank entire bottles of my dads whisky. I still managed to cover it up and hold down a paper round aswell as getting straight As"

"I love my drunk cleaner. I encourage her to drink 8 cans of white lightening before I even let her near the sink with a brillo- she cleans much better when pissed"

"You have pink gin? ew how low class"

"My 13 year old would never drink anyone's alcohol. Theyre far too busy volunteering for the homeless shelter, carving furniture from recycled wood that they donate to local families in poverty and if I even offered them a wine gum, they'd hit me with their bible, scream in horror and run away"

"Couldn't possibly be the cleaner. All the cleaners I know are highly principled, and volunteer part time as community police officers"

"Install cameras in every room. Catch the bitch red handed!"

"I think you'll find recording people is actually illegal as outlined by the data protection law section 75 volume 7, part 3 paragraph 5.1 page 453"

"Who the fck would drink gin anyway?- mothers ruin!"

"OP, is this your way of admitting youre an alcoholic?- go to AA immediately before you end up homeless on the streets, living in a cardboard box with a dog on a string, drinking cheap strong cider out of a paper bag"

"It was your husband. LTB"

One of my cleaner’s other customers once accused her of having stolen his car keys from his flat, taken his BMW for a joy ride and incurred a speeding fine, and sacked her on the spot.

Her protests that she didn’t even have a driving licence fell on deaf ears.

Months later it transpired that it was the customer’s son, who had “borrowed” the car without telling his father. The customer rang up my cleaner and graciously said he would take her back. She told him where to stuff it.

So surprised people quick to assume it wasnt the cleaner. So heres my story. Our kitchen installer would help himself to our booze. He would decant it into a flask and take it home. He watered down every bottle he stole from. Eventually caught on to what was happening. I spoke to him, told him l knew what he was doing and suggested the travesty to me wasnt that he was stealing but that he was watering down a collection of top notch whiskeys and if he was that desperate just tell me and l would give him a bottle! He apologised, said hed never felt more ashamed, nothing else went missing.

Follow your gut, ask for different cleaner. Trust has been shattered, start afresh.

You can sack your cleaner, it’s no good if you don’t trust them.

And if it’s your sons, feel guilty later.

People steal, but a lot of people don’t and would never.

So a full unopened bottle of pink gin

Cleaner came

And now opened And half missing

Cleaner drank /stole and decantered it

Well, I would love to know where the pink gin has gone....cleaner, son, husband allergic to alcohol, or the invisible man. By the way; I am a cleaner who is far too busy cleaning than sniffing out alcohol, some days don't have time for a sip of water let alone pink gin!

I mean, who's to say the hubs isn't having someone over on the sly who is fond of the pink gin, if we're throwing mad accusations around with no evidence?

Oh @lynney88, please! Poetic justice is served ... anyone who can vindictively take action that could cost somebody else a job & certainly do reputational damage, on no more than a desire not to think their PFB dunnit surely deserves to find unfamiliar lipstick on a gin glass at some point ...

So surprised people quick to assume it wasnt the cleaner.

I'm not making any assumption at all @Eva2020.
Am very surprised, nay, gobsmacked, by OP's "assumption* that it was, & her moral-high-ground arrogant certitude that it's fine to sling accusations about someone at their employer with no proof whatsoever.

Your whisky story, however, is charming.

Yes @MimiLaRue when you put some of the funnier posts altogether like this then it is very LOL

I have tried to read most threads, but it is likely the Cleaner brought someone else with her such as children or a helper and they got bored and helped themself/ves? I had a cleaner for a while and she was bringing grandkids along until I put a stop to her and them.

I remember going to my box of wine I kept on top of the freezer many years ago for a glass of wine only to find it almost empty. The kids 13 & 15 denied any knowledge of it. I knew it wasn't my hubby as he hated the stuff. When my son was 22 he owned up to it & said he often had a mouthful after school as he found it refreshing. Good job it was only low alcohol! I was shocked as out of the two of them I would have blamed my daughter so you never know.

@bizawit eye roll back atcha. He's my youngest, I have two others. Maybe I just raise my kids better than you eh?

Maybe the cleaner thought it was cleaning fluid?

It being so common n that

@messolini9
You’re very noticeable on this thread for being extraordinarily insulting. Whatever point you are trying to make, is void.
Your negativity and insults is just a projection and speaks volumes about you.

OP I know this is a serious issue to and I do feel guilty .... but.... this is seriously one of funniest thread I've read in about 2 or 3 years!!

Your PFB mentality and your sweet naivety just has me chucking out loud!

I would say 99.99% of parents would automatically blame the teenager, including the PP who did blame their teenager when it was actually the cleaner.

The fact that you blamed your cleaner right away, says so much about you.

I mean maybe it was the cleaner who broke the seal of a new bottle and chugged half of it. But surely more likely to be teen who did not have the nounce to fill it up with water.

You remind me of my friend, whose son was found with cigarettes in his school bag, but it was ok as they weren't his, he was looking after them for a friend!!

I mean what planet are these parents on?!!

Although saying all that I do hope, for both your sakes, it wasn't your son.

Good luck OP with the mystery!

Was the house clean? Maybe they clean better with half a pint of gin inside them in which case keep it flowing!

@messolini9
You’re very noticeable on this thread for being extraordinarily insulting.

It's because I think you're a blame-laying bully with no social conscience who is happy to cause trouble & damage reputations so long as there are no personal consequences to you.

You have not paused to reflect on the personal consequences to your cleaner, who - if innocent - you have insulted terribly. Yet you have the temerity to feel insulted when somebody points that out to you?

My ds was usually really truthful and was/is a generally good egg. So much so that I 100% had his back when he denied something around the age of 13.
Years later when we were having a group confession time with a gang of friends he admitted he'd done this particular thing.

I would never have thought it...

I think mothers with sons are more naive to them than mothers with daughters, my mum would never believe anything bad about my brother yet she had zero qualms about believing my bad behaviour, even when I was innocent, my brother was a wee shit but hid it well, he must’ve learned from my mistakes as I’m elder