Sending your child to nursery when you're at home

[Roomarmoset]

Hello
I just wanted to get opinions on this situation.

I'm currently ill with S&D and have to stay away from work for 48 hours.

My DD is 13 months and normally goes to a nursery on Friday morning and I pick her up at 1.

I spoke to a friend earlier and she said she thought it was awful that I'd send my DD to nursery when I'm at home. I argued that I'm not well and want nothing more than to curl up on the sofa. I haven't had any time to myself since going back to work.

Now I feel awful and think maybe I should keep her home with me. What would you do?

Sounds fine to me. I always thought one of the perks of working was being able to send the dc to nursery when I was ill. Also why I recommend a nursery close to home not mum’s work.

Definitely send her to nursery. Infact see if they can keep her a full day if there isn’t anyone else to help you in the afternoon.

Nothing wrong with that at all. My DS does a day at nursery when I'm not at work as he loves it and I need that day to sort the house/ retain my sanity and do some work. Tell your friend to jog on.

Do it!

I'm a teacher and mine went to nursery during the summer holidays (I did reduce the days though).

It will be an absolute godsend for you to get time to yourself.

Although as I'm typing this- could she have the bug? Did it come from nursery? You also don't want to spread it around.

What a truly unhelpful answer

Of course she should still go to nursery. If you are too sick to work then you are too ill to look after dc. As above - see if they can take her all day.

Why would you keep your dd home so that she catches your germs too? Of course your should send her in. Your friend is trying to make you feel bad for whatever reason.

Your friend is an utter fool. A mummy martyr.

She'll have more fun in there than stuck inside with a sick Mum who cant do anything.

I was a SAHM and DD went to nursery five mornings a week for two years.

Your friend is being ridiculous.
I bloody love it when I have a day off that coincides with nursery/school.

I do nothing. It's fabulous.

Thanks you've all made me feel better! I hadn't thought anything of it until she said it but yes she'll have more fun there than she will being stuck at home with me.

My Dd has continued to go to nursery 3 days a week even though I'm on maternity leave. Hernursery is only term time and is the same hours as a school day, but it's given us the best of both worlds. Dd gets some days at home with me and her little sister. Then she goes to nursery and sees her friends and does fun activities. In the early days of having a newborn I got to catch up on sleep and now I get some time with the baby to do things or just some time at home to get jobs done I don't want to do when dd1 is here.

Surely it's paid for anyway, just send her and ignore your mate. A bit of rest will do you good!

I'm home on sick leave to become maternity leave soon, I feel guilty about ds being in creche all day when I'm at home but I kept him out today and we've bith ended the day in tears of exhaustion.
I need to stop with the guilt and use the resource I'm paying for, for both our sakes

Is your nursery like something out of Oliver Twist or something?

Yanbu, you were home sick nothing worse than feeling rough and having a lively baby to entertain!

Your friend’s an idiot, of course DD should still go. Means you can actually rest and recuperate, you wouldn’t be doubt much with DD as you’re feeling crap so she’ll have much more fun at nursery, plus it’s already been paid for anyway.

I send my daughter to nursery on one of my days off so I can shop, clean, exercise! Your friend is a slug

I send DD to nursery and book days off work.. sometimes I need to get stuff done or want to go to the cinema, shopping etc. Never felt guilty and I definitely wouldn't if I was ill.

Some women as such martyrs.

I work 5 days a week so this is all new to me! General consensus is send her in so I will. I will have to pay for the session either way.

I live for the one day every other week that I get a day at home to myself!! As long as she’s fine in herself send her in and enjoy a day of peace.

Me and DH sometimes book a days annual leave on a nursery day to either go into town shopping and get something to eat, or just chill at home. Absolutely no guilt here. Why would you keep her home when it's already paid for x

Off to nursery! She'll have way more fun there than stuck at home.
Hope you feel better soon.

I am home with two aged 3 and under during the day. Three mornings a week I send one of them to preschool. I don't feel guilty. You should send her in and rest up

I had to book an extra day at nursery for DD when I was poorly recently - it wouldn't have been safe for me to look after her on my own, but I would have done it if I was less ill. Like others on here, I also book days off work when she's in nursery so I can have a day to myself. No guilt at all!

Yes definitely send her in, especially as your paying for it! Would be silly not too I think. Your DD will have a lovely day being entertained and it wouldn't be much fun for her at home if you aren’t feeling 100%. Put your feet up and rest and don’t feel guilty about it at all.

My kids went to nursery even after I gave up work. Second child went two full days a week and my first three days until he started reception. Needed it for my sanity plus they socialised and had alot of fun. It also meant an easy transition to full day reception year.
If you're sick even better reason - you can't rest taking care of a baby.