Sending your child to nursery when you're at home

[Roomarmoset]

Hello
I just wanted to get opinions on this situation.

I'm currently ill with S&D and have to stay away from work for 48 hours.

My DD is 13 months and normally goes to a nursery on Friday morning and I pick her up at 1.

I spoke to a friend earlier and she said she thought it was awful that I'd send my DD to nursery when I'm at home. I argued that I'm not well and want nothing more than to curl up on the sofa. I haven't had any time to myself since going back to work.

Now I feel awful and think maybe I should keep her home with me. What would you do?

I’m not working at the moment, and my daughter goes to nursery three days per week. She enjoys it and I like having some time to myself to go to the gym, run errands and not have my child asking me for a snack every 30 seconds.

Perhaps she meant awful to drop your child off at a nursery when you’re suffering from a bug and presumably contagious?

This annoys me no end when people do this! DS goes to nursery while I do actual work and course work! People are horrified I send him when I’m at home! I honestly don’t understand it, I would get no work at all done with a 2 year old at home.. which would result in me probably losing my place on my course and my job! You’re sick send her to nursery and get some rest

Hell yeah! I used to take days off and send the DC to nursery when I was perfectly well. We have no nearby family, and paid childcare was the only way I could ever have any time away from them.

Absolutely, who wouldn't?! You have to pay for it anyway!

I feel so much better that people book days off and send their child to nursery! My husband can drop her off on the way to work so I won't have to leave the house. My in-laws live on the same road as the nursery and they have offered to pick her up for me so tomorrow I will be resting!

Definitely send her in!

DD in nursery three full days per week. Sometimes, DH and I both take a day off work when she is in nursery to spend time together without her; it's bliss.

We have a theory that the world is divided into parents who would understand why you would do that, and parents who would not. It doesn't matter which category you fall into, as long as you are both the same type!

Also, non-parents tend not to get it at all! No judgement, but on an afternoon out with friends, we mentioned our plan for a day off together - the ones with a baby thought it was an amazing idea, and the ones without any children thought it was odd

god yes send in! i do with mine!

its routine, they love it, and we need it for our sanity. Tell your friend to shove off.

Your friend is being a tit

I pay for my DD to go to nursery on my day off so I have a day to myself when everyone is at school/nursery/work and I don't feel guilty at all neither should you!

My only query was whether you’d have to take her (and your germs) into nursery.

As you’ve said you won’t have to it’s an absolute no brainer. Use the time to rest and I hope you feel better soon x

Erm I don't work and we are considering sending DD to nursery or a child minder one day a week just so I get some time off 🥴

I sent my DC1 into nursery for 3 short days a week when on maternity leave with Dc2. Meant I could spend hours breastfeeding as I did with DC1 and know he was fully entertained from 10 til 4pm in a way I could never have done whilst looking after a new born. People get very martyr-ish about parenting, I ignore them. You should too 😊

When DC was young I used to work two days a week but one a month I worked over the weekend. DC still went to nursery so I got two days 'off' each month.

No shits given.

Sorry but your friend is a dick

What planet is your friend on?!

I cherish the few days a year my DC are in childcare but that I book off work. Also being able to actually go to bed when you're sick because your child is in childcare is one of the perks of being a working parent.

Your friend is odd, and judgey.

She will have more fun at nursery as you are unwell! I'd defo be sending mine in so I could rest and get better.

I don't work and I'm not ill. Ds still goes to preschool 5 days a week 🤷🏻‍♀️

Definitely send her to nursery! Why keep her home where you’ll be miserable, she’ll be missing her friends, and she might get ill?! Send her in, enjoy some decent rest, and don’t feel guilty!

Your friend sounds judgmental I was off sick this week, both days DS was in nursery and I actually got some rest! Also planning on having him on nursery a half day when I go part-time so I can exercise/clean/shop same as a pp mentioned. You have nothing to feel bad about!

Bloody hell do not feel bad!!

I have been off work ill for the past two days and my LG has gone to nursery! I wouldn't have been able to rest with her here and would have been better off going to work (get more rest there!!!)

Also you have more chance of passing your illness onto her if you have her.

No offence but she will have more fun at nursery with lots more attention than she would at home with a poorly mummy who isn't able to give her 100%. Please don't feel bad and tell your friend to butt out!!! Does she have children?!

Of course you send her in!

Get well soon

Of course send her.
I sometimes send mine when I'm not ill

Any chance you can send her for the afternoon too? That way you can recover more for the weekend?