Too fat to lose weight?

[Be1atrix]

Please don’t jump on me, I really need help :(

I am 5 foot and 21 stone. I cannot cope with being this big anymore. My weight ballooned after a trauma and now I just seem stuck. I have no fitness or stamina and my efforts so far have me feeling worse than ever.

I went swimming and could only manage ten mins before I thought I was going to be sick and had to get out.

I went for a walk today and made it 7 mins before I had to sit on a bench with a spinny head. Walking back I had pains in my calves that brought tears to my eyes.

Please help. What should I do? I can’t go to a gym like this and wouldn’t know where to start. I know I need to build up my stamina but I just don’t know how. I’ve tried slimming world a few times but lack willpower.

I think I’m going to die if I don’t change. I want to see my kids grow up.

My fitness pal really works. Be honest about what you eat and stick to the calories they recommend.

And walking is great for your mental health. If you feel really hungry sometimes going for a walk will take your mind off it. Just go for it and good luck

I really sympathise. It can get to the point for me where I'm so heavy that I think "what's the point"

But. The point is I don't want to die young. And once you're into the groove of eating well then it's not so hard. The first week is the tricky part.

Why not try calorie counting. Get the app MyFitnessPal and put in all your information and it'll tell you how many calories to eat per day to lose weight.

Then it's just a numbers game. And you can eat what you want.

If you want to eat more you can "earn" more calories by exercising. So that's nice motivation too.

But like others have said, it's 90% diet to lose weight.

Why would you listen to all this nonsense... your stomachs has expanded and your grehlin (hunger hormone is out of control) go to your GP and ask for Bariatric surgery AS RECOMMENDED BY THE NHS !!!

NHS not known for spending money without SCIENTIFIC AND MEDICAL PROOF.

Maybe because its major surgery with associated risks...?

You can do this without surgery, join slimming world and religiously stick to it. I lost 3st fairly quickly with no exercise at all.
You also need to look at WHY you overeat.. I eat when I’m bored and depressed. I’ve tried to replace these binges with drinking lots of diet fizzy drinks (works for me as it satisfies by sugar cravings), painting my nails and reading books!
Good luck.. you WILL see your kids grow up

It's a myth that stomachs expand/shrink.

Of course surgery is an option. But it's a lot better to start with a change in eating habits.

As no one ever got to be obese by eating healthily.

There is some alarming research coming out about weight loss surgery

The top and bottom of it is that the body absorbs nutrients into the blood in the intestine, and if you remove part of the intestine you seriously compromise the ability of your body to absorb nutrients, which can lead to a whole world of hell

The top and bottom of it is that the body absorbs nutrients into the blood in the intestine, and if you remove part of the intestine you seriously compromise the ability of your body to absorb nutrients, which can lead to a whole world of hell

This is not alarming new research

The whole point of it is to reduce the amount of calories absorbed, surgeons know this results in less nutrients being absorbed and so advise vitamins and the dieticians.

Longitudinal studies are only really starting to appear as to how harmful these surgeries are over the long term...so yes, we may have known that people who have the surgery ‘may absorb fewer calories’ but the long term impact of that is only starting to become clear

but the long term impact of that is only starting to become clear

Praise be that we can conduct a long term study on those patients, without the surgery most would be dead.

And in the shorter term there are the risks of undergoing general anaesthetic, the risks of the surgery itself, risks during recovery, the chance of needing further surgery. It's all time off work, making sure you have adequate care at home during your recovery, robust childcare during the surgery and recovery, contingency plans in place for anything unexpected.

It's all personal choice of course but there is a reason why more people don't opt for it.

You can’t outrun a bad diet.

Start by reducing your portion sizes and trying to make healthier choices. I.e choose a jacket potato rather than burger and chips when eating out, or instead of beans with dinner have broccoli.

There’s no rush. The weight will come off if you take it steady. Consistency is key.

Try a food and activity diary, as it will quickly show you daily patterns.

Here are a couple of things that incorporate more activity into my day without over-exertion. A step-counter can encourage you to aim for a daily minimum that does not leave you exhausted. Park a few yards further away each day. Put things on a slightly higher shelf to encourage stretching. Keep socks, pants, etc in the bottom drawer so that you have to bend a little each morning. My paperwork is on an awkward shelf, meaning that I must stand and reach for certain items.

Eat a green salad before lunch and dinner. Lettuce, cucumber, etc.

Vitamin D soft gel capsules help my mood a lot.

Can you knit? This is very soothing in front of tv if that’s when you snack.

All the best.

Someone told me it's took you x years to get bigger so it will take a while to loose it.
I can recommend slimming world. Lost 1.5 stone since autum last year even taking into account Christmas.
Stop being hard on yourself. And swimming is good for you as no pressure on joints. Walk for 10 min a few days a week is an improvement.
I couldn't run a half marathon now but I have previously and started coach to 5k recently to build back up. Just takes a little while, slow n steady wins the race!
Good luck

I say well done to you for starting exercise. Like others have said, it's not as important as diet right now but I think you should carry on with small amounts of gentle walking as it'll really help and you'll improve weekly quite fast!

You can do it. I found that using a habits app was helpful to me when getting started. What I wanted to do to start was cut out eating anything between breakfast, lunch and tea, except a small piece of fruit and not drinking anything calorific so only water and ordinary tea or coffee. I set the app so I could tick off that I had succeded every morning, afternoon and evening. If your willpower is highly challenged you could make it hourly. I then got my reward by ticking that I had survived that. After a few weeks it did build the habit.

I then just ate healthy ordinary meals. Again that became habit. If my motivation waned I would read up about weight loss and read about healthy stuff.

I then moved on to calorie counting using a phone app. That taught me a lot about calories. I added to my habit app to log it.

I then exercised in a basic way. That helped as eating opportunities reduced.

You’ve made a good start. If distance is a problem to start with try something at simple as parking a bit further away from the shop. Check out nhs one you, there’s a couple of apps that may help. Good luck!

Hoik associated risks ??? How about Diabetes type 2 , severe hypertension, massive arthritis issues , and heart disease if not treated . That will do for me 'risk wise'

I had Bariatric surgery and have NO diabetes anymore.
No hypertension, no more arthritis and commensurate knee injections for 4 years...

Please tell me why this NHS RECOMMENDED advice is not being OFFERED rather than waiting for people to find out about it ?

I would join Sw. it's fantastic

@Ericveis I get it, you had the surgery and I'm glad its changed your life, it was obviously the right choice for you however other people may not think it is the best choice for them.

It is a major surgery and the risks are not insignificant which is why it is not suitable for everyone, personally I would not choose surgery like this without first trying dietary and lifestyle changes as I feel surgery is an extreme step to take.

www.nhs.uk/conditions/weight-loss-surgery/risks/

This is the NHS recommended weight loss plan, it's a twelve week plan geared towards making healthy choices which are sustainable long term:

www.nhs.uk/live-well/healthy-weight/start-losing-weight/

Join your local Slimming World group there’ll be others in the same position as you. You’ll get lots of support while your on your weight loss journey.

@Hoik you wouldn't have surgery without trying a diet and lifestyle change? Do you think that's what people do? Just have surgery? Don't be so stupid.

Hoik we can at least agree on one thing. That it was definitely the right thing for me and allowed me to get off the bloody awful diet merry go round , where only diet companies achieve their desired outcome' of making money..

I mention my weight loss surgery in here because it is NEVER suggested in threads like this because it's seen as 'cheating' and people are discouraged from even discussing it with their GPs or dietitian through barely disguised guilt-tripping (you got fat now you have to go through years of hell to atone for it ).
The 'it's major surgery' line is another undisguised guilt trip. Morbid Obesity is LIFE THREATENING (not just a bit inconvenient) . Heart disease is a common comorbidity of Obesity. Would a Heart bypass not be equally 'life threatening' ? A heart by-pass on a person with morbid obesity even more so ?
It really hacks me off that WLS is dismissed with such a load of uninformed information. If it were ANY of the things alluded to on these threads - why would the NHS provide it ? They are not known for spending their ever reducing budgets in pointless, dangerous surgery with no evidence base of beneficial outcomes.

My point is that WLS is scientifically proven to have hugely successful (over 83% still maintaining 5yrs post surgery) and that the NHS is the pathway to follow due to the excellent pre and post op follow up. It should at least be discussed with logic not dramatic scaremongering.

Whatever exercise you manage, at you current weight you are doing it while effectively carrying the weight of an extra person. Look around and ask yourself how many people could walk for 7 minutes while carrying another person. I know I couldn't.

Please be proud of yourself, you're tackling it now. a 7 minute walk will be as hard again as it was the first time.

Changing your diet will have more impact on your weight than exercise.

Lots of people have come on with strong views on the best way to lose weight, just find what works for you i.e. you can stick to it and you're losing weight. Personally Slimming World works for me, and despite knowing very well how to lose weight, I couldn't have done it without going to Slimming World, it has kept me on track.

@Ericveis I'm so with you