Awkward Facebook Situation

[Noducks]

I am FB friends with my friend's husband, but not with her as she is not on FB.
I rarely comment on his threads but I do read them. And the comments.

He is currently on holiday without my friend. She is used to this and I don't think it bothers her too much. Various reasons as to why not but not relevant to this post.

FB husband never mentions anything personal. It's all general stuff and he never refers to my friend at all. She is a very private person, so I think that makes sense.

My problem is that another FB friend of his - whom I dont know- has made a couple of personal comments in threads that didn't warrant that kind of response.

1. She has dropped in that my friend is not with him. I know he keeps it quiet when he holidays alone and most people think she is with him. So, she has let the cat out of bag there. He subsequently deleted the whole thread.

1. She made a very strange comment, totally out the blue and wasnt connected to anything he had said that he should 'enjoy his surroundings whilst it lasts!!!xxxx'.

I couldn't help but think that was a very loaded comment, but I'm not sure if Im reading too much into it. It sounded like- enjoy your time away until you return to your unhappy marriage.
I thought maybe I was reading too much into it, but then noticed it had been deleted a few hours later.

The comments have made me feel suspicious about what is going on. I've never noticed any inappropriate comments in the past, but these comments have stood out as being very personal and detrimental to my friend.

Do I tell my friend about them? I'm torn between thinking she should be aware, but not wanting to stir things up needlessly.

Am I reading too much into it? The deletions have made me even more concerned.

Anyone got any advice?

I would if you’re close friends who chat about most things. Just say it in a light way and don’t make a huge deal out of it because it’s probably nothing. She could have been referring to climate change and the state of the world for all you know

I think you should wind your neck in. this is none of your business ( whatever 'this' is).

I think it is something and nothing and honestly you reading the comments on the threads are weird.

Leave it.

wind your neck in

^This.

Don't most people read the comments as well as the original post?

The second comment had nothing to do with his post and seemed very oddly phrased.

If all innocent, why the deletions?

The only thing that sounds odd is trying to keep quiet the fact that he's on holiday without his wife.

I think you are reading far too much into it!

I think you've been drinking the social media cool aid and are far too absorbed, step back, you're reading too much into it. It's all irrelevant petty shit and not worth upsetting people due to your face book obsession.

I think enjoy while it lasts is totally innocent.

Also weird that he is keeping quiet that his wife is not there. His friend obviously did not know that.

There is nothing to tell your friend.

Don't get involved. Neither party will thank you for it!

Reverse??

Im sure some people know he's on his own , but its not something that has ever been publicized on FB, either by him or anyone else.

Something just seems 'off' about it.

She has dropped in that my friend is not with him. I know he keeps it quiet when he holidays alone and most people think she is with him. So, she has let the cat out of bag there. He subsequently deleted the whole thread.

^Why is he ashamed to holiday on his own?

I think ignore it. Whoever posted the comments is trying to make trouble

I would have assumed the 'while it lasts' comment was regarding climate change. I think you're grasping at straws here OP :) One awkward comment, and one that might have significance to their friendship but not to you. I'd leave it alone.

I'm not FB obsessed, thank you.
I rarely post myself and simply use it to keep up to date with people here and there.
Like I said, I thought I was reading too much into it simply because she is my friend. But the deletions have made me think...hmm.

Maybe she's a work colleague and means enjoy it before he has to go back to work?

@Noducks

Mind your own business.

Honestly op, so she doesn't know he hides the fact his wife is not with him, so? And enjoy it whilst it lasts is quite a normal thing to say about a holiday, you're really imagining stuff.

I think you're reading too much into this.

Your friend's DH keeps it private that they don't holiday together - fair enough, and could well be her preference as well as his not to make a big deal of it. Hence deleting the thread when someone let the cat out of the bag.

And surely 'enjoy your surroundings whilst it lasts' is a totally normal comment to make when someone is on holiday? I.e. enjoy your time away before you have to return to the cold and wet / job / normality?

Rarely post but use it to keep up to date with people here and there, to me reads nosey bastard that looks for gossip!
You have no idea whats going on in their marriage based on your interpretation of comments on fb!

It may be a work colleague alluding to getting back to the grind and he's deleted as it refers to work?

Maybe he feels his wife is safer if people don't know she's on her own for some reason. I never advertise on FB when we are away, not sure if DH was away for the night I'd advertise that either TBH, just to be on the safe side. No major reason just seems sensible not to.

i would have assumed it was a comment about enjoying not being at work or not being in the UK with the rain or something. You are reading things that aren't there. Maybe he deleted the thread because people like you are reading things that are not there and it pisses him off. fair enough i say.

I really really hate Facebook.

OP it looks suspicious when you word it like that, but her DH could have removed it BECAUSE it looks suspicious and it's completely innocent. Could be this women is trying to cause trouble.

So you could be the one causing trouble if you mention it.

Are you real life friends with this man? It's a bit strange you have your friends husband on your FB otherwise.