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My rapist just sent me a message

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Hopingforabetter2020 · 31/12/2019 21:17

The man who raped me 10 years ago has just send me a Facebook msg, a GIF wishing me a happy 2020!!

I’ve now blocked him, he was previously blocked but I made a new account 3 years ago and didn’t even think about it.
I didn’t report it and have done all I can to put it to the back of my mind.
What an arsehole!
Know one In real life knows this so I’m really only posting cos it’s pissed me off and I need others to join in my indignantion!!

I hope he has shittty 2020 and dies

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AppleKatie · 31/12/2019 21:20

I’m sorry OP that’s a shit thing to happen. Does he know where you live now? Is there physical distance between you?

Blocking him gives him no reaction which is the perfect response.

Louise91417 · 31/12/2019 21:22

What a wanker! Hope your ok, dont let this knock you back, the bastard would love to no he had that power. Dont let the fucker get into your head.Angry

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Hopingforabetter2020 · 31/12/2019 21:27

I moved 500 miles away so yeah I’m far away although he’s seen my profile which means he knows where I am. Don’t think he’ll do anything with this info though.
changed all my settings to private though! Can’t believe I was so lax when I set up my new one!
Believe me it won’t set me back I’m a lot stronger than that these days and I have all the power in what I allow to affect me! And this arsehole doesn’t, at all!!

Thankyou for responding I feel better having Been able to release the anger that I allowed to flair up upon seeing it!

I do hope you al have a lovely 2020
Xx

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MrsTerryPratchett · 31/12/2019 21:29

I hope he has shittty 2020 and dies

Me too.

And I hope your 2020 is shiny and wonderful. Seek help if you need it.

AppleKatie · 31/12/2019 21:29

Glad you’re a long way away from him and it sounds like you have built a happy and strong life for yourself. He is a flea, flick him away onto the block pile and if anything pity his attempt.

rritchie44 · 31/12/2019 21:30

Oh my god the arsehole. Blocking him was the perfect reaction. Please say other than social media, he doesn’t have a way to contact you!

PestyMachtubernahme · 31/12/2019 21:33

Hoping a toast to your indignation.

It is fine to be pissed off, just remember to keep living your life.

rritchie44 · 31/12/2019 21:34

Good to read your last response. Dickhead is a little prick. He walks in your shadow.

Sh0na · 31/12/2019 21:38

Hope you're ok. What a shock to get that message.

I think he is trying to rewrite history.

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Hopingforabetter2020 · 31/12/2019 21:38

Rritchie- he has no way of contacting me, I’ve gone through all my social media and locked it all down.
I hope you’re all having a great NYE
X

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cstaff · 31/12/2019 21:44

Bloody hell OP. What a fucking arsehole. I hope you are as strong as you say. I would love to know what he was trying to achieve with this. You do sound like you have moved on and away from this fucker based on what you have said. I hope you are right.

Look after yourself pet. If you can forget about this waste of space FlowersWine these might help.

Imfoaming · 31/12/2019 21:51

his cheek is unbelievable, but then again very believable, I am indignant, he's a cheeky fucker

sounds like you've done great xx

Imfoaming · 31/12/2019 21:53

ive just remembered, I know someone who was badly assaulted (her teeth ended up in the back of her throat) and the piece of shit who did it requested her as a friend on FB years later..dont think he was trying to intimidate her, he genuinely thought it was ok and she would accept!!

GertrudeCB · 31/12/2019 21:54

He is a fucking cuntweasel.
I am fuming on your behalf Angry

8MinutesToSunrise · 31/12/2019 21:54

What a fucking twat he is. Here's to you, may your new year be fabulous Wine

feelinglost02 · 31/12/2019 21:56

How gut wrenchingly disgusting. Stay strong op

UniversallyUnchallenged · 31/12/2019 21:58

You sound amazing - resilient

Bastard

ohwheniknow · 31/12/2019 22:01

Urgh. Mine did similar to me at one point. Years later still looking for a power high, still trying to exert ownership. You are handling it much better than me! Best wishes Flowers

ipodtherforipoor · 31/12/2019 22:05

He knows what he did. He is reflecting and trying to make himself feel better.

thesunhasgothishatontoday · 31/12/2019 22:12

OP I'm so sorry. What a bastard.
Was he convicted? Because if he was then I think you should report this.
I hope you manage to put this to the back of your mind and have a good new year. Sending love and hugs xx

betternamechangeforthisone · 31/12/2019 22:14

Someone I only spoke to once about something very obscure sent me a HNY gif.

I know it probably doesn’t help but it was probably a send to all type thing. Still absolutely crap for you to receive and you’ve done the right thing blocking.

Knowhowufeel · 31/12/2019 22:16

Mine told me he'd really enjoyed himself and fancied doing it again sometime (when I got over myself, and chilled out a bit!)

Knowhowufeel · 31/12/2019 22:17

Posted too soon. I'm sorry, and hope he's not blighted your NYE too much. Flowers

Cherrysoup · 31/12/2019 22:24

He’s obviously incredibly stupid. Fuckwit.

Hope you have a fabulous 2020, OP. 🎉

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Hopingforabetter2020 · 31/12/2019 22:37

I know it probably doesn’t help but it was probably a send to all type thing. Still absolutely crap for you to receive and you’ve done the right thing blocking
QIt can’t have been a send to all because I’m not in his contacts either on Facebook or phone etc.

Thankyou all, I’m ok honestly. Your all to kind, I’m good And I’m now strong and I decide what I allow to affect me, so this hasn’t . truly.

I hope you all have had a good year and will have a better new year that is coming soon
Xx

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