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This new decade I will... a thread for big but attainable goals

126 replies

mumdom · 29/12/2019 15:10

Run the London marathon. Currently a big fat couch potato who gets out of breath running for the bus, but I’ve lived near the route for two decades and it’s caught my imagination.

Write a book. Have never written anything longer than an essay, but have read a lot of books and thought, “I can do better.” Let’s see if I can.

Get new letters before or after my name (not including Mrs, although staying married is definitely at the top of my unwritten list).

What are your big goals for the new decade? (Let’s limit them to three year to encourage prioritisation and actually achieving them).

OP posts:
Gingernaut · 31/12/2019 15:15

I've rejoined PureGym.

I have an Induction tomorrow.

I've even gone as far as look up yoga classes in my local area.....

Remember in your prayers.......Xmas Shock

MsAwesomeDragon · 31/12/2019 15:22

I want to take control of my health, so get my blood sugar under control, start exercising, etc.

Since I've got a whole decade I'd like to support dd1 through uni and into adulthood, and help dd2 through secondary school and into uni (or whatever else she wants to do)

Jumblebee · 31/12/2019 15:37

Lose 3 stone!

Last year I set myself the target of losing 8 stone. I've managed 6 stone this year, so would like to lose the last 2 stone and an extra 1 to get me to a healthy BMI.

mumdom · 31/12/2019 18:23

Amazing weight loss, @Jumblebee. May I ask how you did it? Please don’t say low carbing!

I’m setting myself up with a star chart like the ones I used to potty train the DC. Every single step in the right direction towards my three goals earns me a star, and every so many stars I’ll treat myself to something.

I’ve already earned a star because I’m not drinking alcohol tonight and will be greeting the new decade with a clear head and a clear desk.

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JacquettaW · 31/12/2019 18:25

Get to goal weight (and stay there this time!)

Commit properly to learning to speak Russian (started this year but let it fall by the wayside)

CormoranStrike · 31/12/2019 18:28

Master my relationship with food
Do more exercise
And if so not do the above, love myself as I am x

Sleephead1 · 31/12/2019 18:42

1)Finish my degree I'm in my first year with the open university so have a long way to go. Also have no confidence that I can do it. 2) learn to drive.3) deal with a traumatic event that has caused me anxiety I have self referred to talking therapy and also downloaded headspace to practise meditation.

Callmesausage · 31/12/2019 18:54

But a house after 12 years of renting
Lose weight and feel healthy
Stop wasting time on the internet

TravellingSpoon · 31/12/2019 19:20

Retrain as an ODP. Been flirting with the idea for a while but I am going to do it. I owe it to myself, my future self and my children to be the best version of myself that I can be career wise.

dreamingofmushrooms · 31/12/2019 19:26

Exhibit at the Chelsea Flower Show.
I hope.

UtterlyUnimaginativeUsername · 31/12/2019 19:49

Move to a tiny smallholding. Our house is on the market at the moment so hopefully by the end of next year, we'll have moved and be prepping the place for us to become self-sufficient in fruit, veg, nuts, eggs, chickens and pig products. I'd sort of like to rent an extra bit of land as well, for a couple of cows, but that may prove to be too much work. We'll see.

Lose 9 stone.

Get back to weight lifting. We let our gym membership lapse recently to help cover some of the expenses of moving house, and I miss it.

dreamingofmushrooms · 31/12/2019 19:52

I could do with losing a few stone too.

KnowBetterDoBetter · 31/12/2019 19:55

The next decade? I hope to:

Finish my masters.
Do my professional doctorate and become Dr DoBetter BlushGrin
Start my own business, earn a few quid & do some good in the world.
Lose another two stone.
Become debt free.
Buy my first house.
Meet somebody decent, get married, have another baby or two.

So not at all hopeful or optimistic then Grin

But this time last decade, I was sixteen, had just left a school rated the third worst in the country with a handful of rubbish GCSEs, was living in a homeless hostel doing drugs every night and generally living a scummy existence with some awful people, and had just dropped out of college due to the aforementioned.

Since then, I gave up all the drugs, went back to college and got A*s, had a variety of jobs, got pregnant, escaped from an abusive relationship, became homeless again, rented my first little flat, had my beautiful DD, went to uni and got a degree, got diagnosed with ADHD, finally got a role which has enabled me to envision an actual career, andddd started a masters.

I bet if somebody told 2009 me that this is where I'd be after ten years - certainly not living most 26yo's 'dream life', but absolutely smashing any expectations I, or anybody else, had - I'd have laughed in their faces. So who knows - maybe I'll manage to achieve them all.

Jumblebee · 31/12/2019 19:57

Thank you @mumdom, I have to disappoint and say it was low carbing! Its the only thing that I find I can stick to because I don't get hungry.

But god do I miss sugar, its been very difficult over Christmas so I'm looking forward to the New Year and getting back in the gym and shifting all the Christmas food so the temptation isn't always around me!

Good luck with your goals, whichever way you chose to do it I think with weight loss you really have to be in the right frame of mind to do it. Last year I was fed up of all the crap and was more than ready 😁

Suffolkcatlady · 31/12/2019 20:36

Eat better
Move more
Get out more
Get off the internet more and do more stuff - free stuff like walks by the river, beachcombing etc -
Stop checking the depressing news when I wake up!
Take time to do things I love - crafting, travel, movies, bands etc

bluetongue · 31/12/2019 21:41

I love this. So inspirational Smile

My goal is to move away from the city I’ve lived in my whole life. It won’t be easy. I’ll need to find a new job and sell my house. I have no doubt everyone will think I’m mad and tell me not to go but fuck it. I only have one life and I don’t want to live here anymore.

One of my options is moving to the South Island of NewZealand (I currently live in Australia). This will put me back financially but I just tell myself there’s more to life than money. I have about 150k equity in my house which should help.

The biggest thing holding me back is what to do with my beloved dog. He WILL be coming with me but it will be a bit tricky to organise.

my2020newdecade · 31/12/2019 21:49

Finish my degree

Finally get to grips with my weight and lose those excsessive stones

Get a dog - a lab, maybe?

do couch to 5k and get fit enough to parkrun with my teen

Stay teetotal

Finish my art project

Win the lottery - I'm no longer hoping for small wins, I want the big life hanging one

Travel more

Become autonomous

Cherrysoup · 31/12/2019 22:08

Lose a LOT of weight.
Get back on my horse or a horse if he can’t be ridden.
Exercise. I used to love it and now I’m totally sedentary. ☹️

8MinutesToSunrise · 31/12/2019 22:28

To do my professional doctorate, finally, though that would have been on my list for 2009 too.

To be the best mum I can possibly be.

To find someone amazing and have another baby or two.

To hopefully tolerate the meds, stay in remission from Crohn's and avoid surgery. Or at least to face these new challenges with courage and dignity, and to minimise the impact on my son.

tangledyarn · 31/12/2019 22:33

Get on top of my chronic condition. Totally unmanageable at the moment, and ruling my life, not entirely in control of this obviously but will do what I can!

If I succeed with the above enough to keep my job buy a house in next 3 years and then get a dog!

Become great at sewing..am ok now but a long way to go.

Visit some new places

Eat better and if able try to start some regular exercise.

Kinsters · 31/12/2019 22:53

Have a baby!
Maybe have another baby or two.

Then hopefully get my fitness back.

SentinelWoo · 31/12/2019 23:01

Move abroad
Address my eating disorder and become healthier and stronger

Gingernaut · 01/01/2020 18:51

I spent an hour in the gym today and accidentally hit the emergency stop, so I don't know what distance I've done or calories I've burned. 😳

I've also signed up to Netflix too.

Witcher or PureGym......hmmm. Hard.

MrsMaudwatts · 01/01/2020 22:53

I have some big, some small.

Get PhD - in progress
Get something published - ongoing battle!
Learn archery - course booked!
Travel more - 2 little trips booked (not sure how I'll pay for them though!)
Take kids to New York
Get to goal weight (and bloody maintain it!)
Get DCs through GCSEs
Pass course I'm doing
Do a handstand
Read 1984
Enjoy the process of working towards ^^ and don't stress over them. The sun will continue to rise even if I don't get my PhD, or never manage a handstand.

Onceuponatimethen · 01/01/2020 23:02

Get my house looking nice (currently uncomfortable and needs building work Confused

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