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Just majorly fucked up things for my 6 year old - what’s wrong with me?

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Drinkandknowthings · 08/12/2019 12:11

I missed a text from the school about Christ jumper day and DD was the only child not wearing a Christmas jumper. She’s 6 and was really upset.

Today I sent her to a birthday party at 12 with DH to find it had been on at 10 to 12.

I’m so upset for her and disgusted at myself for making such stupid mistakes.

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Ssmiler · 08/12/2019 14:34

A busy working mum of four once told me that she dropped her youngest daughter at a party - taking much credit for being on time for once. Child ran in to the party house alone - mum raced off to collect another child from sport practice - only on party pick up did she find out that the child was in her tights...she forgot to put her party skirt on - it had been nicely ironed in a last minute frenzy and then forgotten

Apparently no one minded but years later it’s still talked about
It happens OP - don’t beat yourself up

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Drinkandknowthings · 08/12/2019 14:37

DD is home and not too bothered at all! I told her she could tell her elf to tell Santa I was naughty and she said she wouldn’t!

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Drinkandknowthings · 08/12/2019 14:38

ssmiler well at least that wouldn’t happen me - I don’t iron!!

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TicTac80 · 08/12/2019 14:44

Def don’t beat yourself up about it. We’ve all been there! A couple of times I even forgot non uniform day despite me having it in my phone diary AND posting a reminder on the class WhatsApp chat the night before! Oops! I’ve also forgotten a party too. I’m human, and it shows my kids that we all make mistakes and how best to learn from them! :D

Pinkblueberry · 08/12/2019 14:49

From the thread title I thought I was going to read about something quite worrying - I’m glad for you that it’s not obviously, but you really need to get some perspective. I’m not one to say this really but, here goes - first world problems much?? Get a grip. No one’s hurt. How will you ever cope if an actually emergency occurred?

Ssmiler · 08/12/2019 14:50

@Drinkandknowthings ha neither do I! In fact I did explain to the mum of the skirtless party goer that it was this strange compulsion to iron that caused the entire problem

tempester28 · 08/12/2019 15:01

Forgive yourself ! It happens especially when juggling lots of things. Maybe get something to stick on the fridge to remember these events.

10 is pretty early for a party so

lilmishap · 08/12/2019 15:05

Years from now she'll roll her eyes when retelling the stories, you can groan, apologise AGAIN and you'll grin at each other.

I know because my eldest is in her 20s and I made similar fuck ups, she survived all of them...she hasn't forgotten. But time really is a great healer

Mydogmylife · 08/12/2019 15:15

Really if these are things you class as ' f..... Up her life' , you're going to have a hard road ahead!! You both need to chill and be thankful you don't have serious things to worry about! ( sorry if I sound harsh , having a bad week)

Celebelly · 08/12/2019 15:18

Yes, this is hardly a major fuck-up! In my life it would just be a 'whoops, that was unfortunate/embarrassing' moment. Just take a deep breath and don't sweat the small stuff like this!

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Drinkandknowthings · 08/12/2019 15:20

mydogmylife pinkblueberry

I hope things improve. I think this was a bit of a case of a straw breaking a camels back as well as my mum has been having health issues as well and I’m trying to juggle her appointments with my kids.

I’m actually pretty ok in an emergency. I can focus and deal with things.

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Obligatorync · 08/12/2019 15:21

We all do it. We're all juggling too many things.

loseyourself · 08/12/2019 15:29

you are ok, she won't remember any of that next week at all, don't beat yourself up about it, sometimes your energy needs to go elsewhere like for your mum.

MAFIL · 08/12/2019 16:01

Show me a parent who has never forgotten something or made a mistake and they are either liers or need to add the word "yet".
None of us is perfect. Don't put unreasonable pressure on yourself. Neither of these things is important in the great scheme of things and both will probably be forgotten by next week.

Disfordarkchocolate · 08/12/2019 16:31

I'm a SAHM due to health issues and this sort of thing is still a joint responsibility. We have a family app (Timetree) and we put this sort of thing in as soon as we receive it. You need to set something like this up and get texts sent to him too.

doritosdip · 08/12/2019 16:40

I once kept my kids at home because I thought it was an INSET day. The INSET day was actually the following week!

The kids still tease me about my mistake

kateandme · 08/12/2019 17:03

you sound like you doin gyour best op.we all do it.he wont remember this if you dont let her.
and if she does seem a bit low could you say lets wear our chrsitmas jumpers and have party food one day this week.
let yourself have a seat tonight.you sound like your juggling so much.
just give her a big hug and tell her you love her and mums head gets muddled sometimes when it full.

TheCatsWhisker · 08/12/2019 17:05

Please don't beat yourself up over this. Move on and just make sure you check things in the future, it's ok to fuck up sometimes Smile

My mum once dropped us off at a party as it was ending, I can't remember it at all but only know about it as she still goes on about how bad she still feels. It was over 30 years ago Grin

Catsick36 · 08/12/2019 17:08

DH and I have a shared calendar and photo album . A photo of invitation / letter is taken and details put into the shared calendar, the original kept on the fridge. Seems to work. I do stuff like that when I am overwhelmed with things to sort out

BeverlyGoldbergsHairAndJumpers · 08/12/2019 17:12

I have taken my children to school in mufti on school uniform day . . . and taken them in school uniform on a mufti day.
I have taken them to school and we have been the only ones there . . . and then been walking past school having a ‘nice day off’ and seen the playground full of children.
We only forget things of make mistakes because we are doing a million things to make our family happy so don’t feel bad.

Emmapeeler1 · 08/12/2019 17:12

I sent my child to school dressed as a witch once. It wasn’t dress up day... And I have seen several children come to a party at the end. You are just human! I also reluctantly came round to a phone calendar and it works. Photos of invites and letters are a good idea.

OneUsernameOnly · 08/12/2019 17:17

Don’t worry op. These things happen. I was an hour late for my own dd’s birthday party one year because I had written down the wrong time. 😳
My dd still takes the piss out of me 😂

CroissantsAtDawn · 08/12/2019 17:22

@Drinkandknowthings

Next time a DC is sick, bring said DC into your bed and send your DH off to sleep in the single bed. Thats what we do in order for everyone to get the best possible nights sleep. Its what my parents did too and they re still happily married 46 years and counting.

DamsonDress · 08/12/2019 17:25

Ah please don't worry.

I did the same. I had forgotten it was a dress up day until I waited outside school at home time and realised with horror that everyone spilling out of the school had costumes on.

Herself came traipsing out in a man's Hawaiian shirt and a rather gothic red crushed velvet skirt, trailing on the ground behind her.

I thought the staff were kindly (but a bit mad) to sort her out with the bizarre outfit but turns out she chose those items herself from the dress up box. Confused

We laugh about it now. In fact I laughed about it then. She looked ridiculous.

I work in a school and it happens so don't worry! I actually took my kids' old book day costumes and Xmas jumpers in for the kids who have forgotten (because their fantastic and not at all awful parents are human!). It's no biggie. She'll be fine.

DamsonDress · 08/12/2019 17:31

At least you got her to school. I - more than once - have arrived at work with children still in the back seat when they were little.

Little skitters chuckled silently to themselves as I drove right by their school. Hmm