1-10, how offended would you be if your partner called you a cunt in anger?

[AnneTwackie]

Just that, on a scale of 1-10

I would be terrified he had some sort of brain tumour as dh has never called me any name once since we met in 2003 nor I him.

Cunt would have the same affect as any other insult, it's just a word and I don't find it to be the hideous word others seem to, it doesn't offend me as a word in itself.

That said, DH and I never name call or swear at each other, it's abusive, so if he started swearing and name calling I'd be mightily offended and rethink our relationship. Only people with limited intelligence need to resort to such generic language to express themselves in an argument. Road rage however, totally acceptable

Offended? He’d be getting a divorce
There’d be no coming back from that.

It's just a word. Personal comments are much more hurtful.

I would assume he'd had a blow to the head or developed a brain tumour if he called anyone a cunt!

DH 10. ExH 1.

10 - I know he wouldn't ever use that word.

5 ish, we're very sweary people and any insult said in anger is upsetting but specifically cunt is quite overused in this house. DH unaffectionately uses cunt to refer to the dog about 75% or the time

It's just a word and no more offensive than dick.

If my DH is being a dick then I call him on it. Wouldn't be offended if the same was applied to me. DH doesn't tend to use cunt but I certainly do.

“ It's just a word and no more offensive than dick.“

Rubbish- of course it is. People like to pretend it isn’t, but it is entirely different. Think of the circumstances where you would consider using both words. Think of whether you would hear them on chat shows on the telly, for example. Or in a stand up routine. What would you think if your teenage children used them?

@BertrandRussell it's perception though isn't it. I would use it interchangeably with dick, but not publicly because I know it offends others, doesn't mean I personally find it any more offensive, it's just about fitting in. Same reason I don't really swear in public! At home between DH and I, I will happily refer to people and objects as cunts.

I suppose it depends on what your normal relationship is. If you call each other names as a matter of course then maybe you wouldn't be bothered. Would be a deal-breaker for me because it's not normal for us.

It wouldn't really matter which word it was, swearing at me in anger would be a really bad sign for me. We argue but we've never insulted each other like that.

Just one time, I said something like 'do you have to be such an idiot' or something like that and I immediately felt like the biggest wanker in the universe and apologised. I still think about it and keep a tighter reign on my tongue.

If someone called me a fanny I’d be none too pleased but it wouldn’t be totally offensive. If they called me a cunt, well that’s a totally different game if ball.

5

I think context is more important than a word.

2
Names like that don't really bother me.

It's a 3 for me. I don't like the word but it wouldn't end my marriage. I agree with a pp though it is the worst swear word - much worse than bastard bitch slut etc.

Now if someone used that word in front of my kids then it would be a 10

10 because he doesn't ever swear at me (to my face ha ha! )
Then thing is I use the word myself but a man calling a woman that is different. It sounds so full of contempt and violence. Because they know it's the "worst" word to call a woman.

10 - he called me it once and it was nearly the end of us

1. I don’t find the word offensive, I didn’t even realise it was deemed offensive until I was 17 and someone told me (no one around me ever used it, I just assumed it was a form of British slang like nuffink and dog and bone). I’d be very surprised though.

1. I call him a prick during arguments sometimes, and he calls me a cunt in the same moments. Water off a duck's back.

@BertrandRussell I genuinely use both interchangeably.

I agree with a pp though it is the worst swear word - much worse than bastard bitch slut etc.

I'd be getting divorced if DH called me a bitch or slut. Nasty misogynistic words.

10+ !