1-10, how offended would you be if your partner called you a cunt in anger?

[AnneTwackie]

Just that, on a scale of 1-10

When I used that word to XH it was an attempt to convey my absolute hatred of everything about him. (Yes with hindsight I know I should've left before then!)

The point is; nothing is ok unless it's ok with both of you. We swear. If I'd been out of order I'd expect to be called out on it. In our relationship some bad language wouldn't be an issue - if it was deserved.

You say he wanted a haircut on your lie in? In my head he woke up, woke you up and said "I'm off" you said "er? What" he said I'm having a haircut" you said "hang on, it's my lie in" he said "you're a cunt". That's not ok.

However, if he'd said 2 weeks beforehand "oh I need a haircut but they can only fit me in on at " and you'd said "ok, fair enough" then refused to get up that would be different.

Context, normality etc are massively important.

36 years together, he’s never sworn at me or I him.
So I’d be furious, but thinking the worst. Brain tumour etc.

Zero.
To me “cunt” is the female equivalent of calling a man an “asshole” because that’s what you fuck on a man.

Apoplectic. We never call each other names.

10. Not because of my feelings towards the word, actually. I use it and quite like it.

But DH would never use the word and if he said it to me it would signal utter contempt, which is the death of a marriage.

And he wanted to steal your lie in.

10. My partner and I are on the same page about being respectful to each other.

XH wasn’t, called me a cunt a few times; I cited it in my divorce papers.

It really is a word loaded with violence.

Probably like a 2 if it was a bad argument (which don't really happen) but to kick off because it's your turn for a lie in is pathetic.

Zero.
To me “cunt” is the female equivalent of calling a man an “asshole” because that’s what you fuck on a man.

Surprised at the people trying to down play the word with wide eyed faux innocence. We all know society in general view it as the worst swear word and it is.

I don't know how I'd feel because in thirty years it's never happened. But I suspect there would be something akin to the start of World war three in our house because I'd not take it well at all.

1 because its his favourite swear word so I know he doesn't mean it.

10. I swear a lot, I use that word all the time, but I never direct it towards someone in anger.

If my DH ever spoke to me like that in a rage (and vice versa), I'd have a very serious think about where to go from there.

There are worse swear words than cunt. I think whore, bitch, bastard, are worse. Cunt just means you are acting badly. The others disparage your identity.

100

8

10 and there would be no going back from that.

It’s not a word he would ever use.

0, I use the word to describe others so I’d be being hypocritical if I was offended by it used against me.

An ex-partner called me that. He became an ex that very moment.

100 a deal breaker for me.

10. It’s not a word I will allow in my house. It’s completely vile misogynistic to use it as a swear word or as an insult.

Cunt just means you are acting badly.

It means the person who called you it has zero respect for you.

We're a sweary household and probably use the word cunt most days in casual conversation. We don't ever name call though and as pp said, we'd be having a serious conversation about the future of the marriage if DH tried it. I don't think he would though, so far we've managed 14 years without verbally abusing each other. It's not acceptable.

Probably a 6....I’m way more likely to swear in an argument, and actually there are non swear things he would say that would upset me more. But like others have said we all have our own boundaries

Off the scale.

It'd be totally out of character. We don't swear at one another and haven't done so for the 30 years of being together.

Id be horrified and devastated. I'm not sure I could come back from it.

Partner? Was called a cunt by a random cold caller trying to flog dishcloths on my doorstep. Lovely. That was a 10+

I put 10.
But I’m still shocked at how many people saying it would be the end of their relationship.
All the upheaval of divorce over a word?