1-10, how offended would you be if your partner called you a cunt in anger?

[AnneTwackie]

Just that, on a scale of 1-10

It would be off the scale for me. In fact if he called me any names at all it would be off the scale.

How do so many people not understand the concept of a scale from 1-10?

I suppose it depends on how you view the word. If you use it yourself it won't be as big a deal as if you never, ever do. So each person's reaction will be coloured by this and you can only tell yourself how big a deal this is in the context of your relationship.

Sounds like kids are starting to fray his nerves? Boo hoo. Just suck it up and get on with it manchild. No sympathy here.

Off the scale. I'd leave him.

Sorry absolutely no excuses...cunt is the most offensive word imaginable!

I'd pack his bags.

About a 5. We're both quite swear-y though. It's perfectly reasonable for you to have your own boundaries in your relationship and expect your partner to respect them however.

Oh op. Poor you.
Ex DH called me that in anger a couple of times. I thought it was cos he was provoked. It was actually part of a much bigger pattern of disrespect and control. Hence why hes now an ex.
I also thought lots of people said things like that in anger, turns out 100% of my friends and family think its unacceptable.
for you

We've had some huge barneys in the 30 years we have been together but we don't name call and I would consider bitch as bad as cunt tbh, both nasty and said to hurt.

10

I have a potty mouth, and after Wayyyy too many years on MN I’m pretty desensitised to the word! We’re not adverse to saying things like ‘stop being a twat’ if one of us is going on about something or whatever and we’ve told each other to fuck off etc but we’ve never sworn AT each other. It’s hard to explain the difference ~ but there definitely is one. I can’t imagine DH doing it, but he’d only do it once. And I wouldn’t do it, it’s one thing to tell him to stop being
a twat and quite another to call him a twat 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yes, it would definitely feel like a ‘turning point’ for some of us, but not others - all that matters is how the person involved feels 🌷

10k to 1
Mine called me it. Part of the reason I divorced him.

I've been called a bitch by my DH tonight. Blamed me for losing his phone charger when I said I had no idea where it was. I'm very upset and sad. Sorry to hijack thread with my own problem. But yes, 10. No one deserves it

I don't think he meant it, it just came out. I was getting annoyed over the silly phone charger. Just one of those silly things. But the word C* is so much worse and definitely no excuse

10

My husband swears like a trooper in conversation, I don't. That's fine, but if he ever swore at me he would know about it. Like others have said it's about how your relationship works, it would mean nothing to some but be a deal breaker for others.

1. My current partner has never called me any names and same goes for me. However people are human, it is only a word and said in anger so I would forgive him.

1. But everyone has their limits so YWNBU to be offended.

I would be at a 10 for "Slag" though.

memoriesmemories I’m sorry

@AnneTwackie
Thanks. Had a hot bath, a few tears, a cuddle with the dog and feel better now.

I am offended when I hear that word anyway. No need to ever use it in my book so it is 10 for me and 11 if my loved one called me it.it

My dh swears like a trooper, but has never sworn 'at' me. It does sound like a turning point.

It's verbal abuse. Those posters minimising it must have extremely low standards for their own treatment.

10. We call each other cunts all the time, in an affectionate way... But if he said it in anger, it's a game changer for me.

My XP called me this and I moved out the same night.