Colleagues ignoring me - taking bets on how long they can keep it up

[skiddley]

Just that really. Started tail end of last year, all ok. This summer I got my hours a little bit redjusted to for childcare issues and that's when the fun started. Little snipes here and there. I had a day off and came back to being ignored. Only spoken to about work and only the briefest of replies if I asked anything else. They would chat, when I joined in, that was the chat over.

I spoke to my manager to say I was feeling left out. Her response was flat denial rather than caring. She asked for examples, all my examples were shit cos I was caught on the hop (I shouldn't have been, that was my fault) but I did mention no one ever has asked if I had a nice weekend.

Following Monday, she passes round the work and jokes shell need to give me less as illl be so busy telling everyone about my weekend. Cue lots of sniggerring. The y had obviously gone and told them what I'd said. That week was awful and I went off sick. 4 weeks later, I am pumped full of citalopram and I'm loving it. Came back to work last week andnot one person has asked me if I'm feeling better . No one is speaking at all. Therr is a total silence the whole time I'm in. Chat goes on when j go to the loo, stops when I'm back.

I'm being perverse but I am loving it. I am waiting to see how long they continue to ignore me cos I'm loving the silence. I work tuesday to Thursday so they can chat alm the like those days but right now I am wondering if they will take this right up to xmas. Thay is going to be a fun Christmas lunch

How are you getting on@skidley ?

Hey @skidley how did it go in the end?

Hello. It went fine. I handed in my notice the week before the xmas holidays. Had a mega chat with the big boss and he was lovely. He someone you only really see on your first day and last day (apart from coming in and out) and he had no clue about the culture at work but as I left, whi knows if anyone called called into his office, probably not). My official finish was Friday there but I didn't need to go back (I just needed to go on one day between xmas and NY to tidy up admin but we all have do do that). Last week at work was actually fine. Things had been getting better and I was in a better frame if mind. Manager still a cow but I could see that she was shite with everyone. I wasnt special 😆. Just thought I was.

Otherwise, feeling a bit lost and the impact of my mothers death (as well as my in PILs deaths) are now starting to tell and I fin myself just overwhelmed for no reason at all. The high from the ADs has worn off which us a pity but I am keeping in them for a while longer.

One thing I took from all this was my attitude at work. Wirh so much going on, I was distracted, maybe distant, and perhaps that led to people thinking I was being off with them. I took this so personally which made me retreat further into myself, they took it as weirdness.... endless cycle. I broke the cycle mostly by the end. I started initiating general chatter, and getting chatter back. Most people aren't real bullies, they just follow the leader. I found that when she want there work actually was bearable. Just not enough to want me to work there ever again 🤣

Thanks everyone. Its going to be a slow process of becoming me again and having a happy marriage again (DH has depression too, it's not been a happy home) but we are both on the road to recovery.