Colleagues ignoring me - taking bets on how long they can keep it up

[skiddley]

Just that really. Started tail end of last year, all ok. This summer I got my hours a little bit redjusted to for childcare issues and that's when the fun started. Little snipes here and there. I had a day off and came back to being ignored. Only spoken to about work and only the briefest of replies if I asked anything else. They would chat, when I joined in, that was the chat over.

I spoke to my manager to say I was feeling left out. Her response was flat denial rather than caring. She asked for examples, all my examples were shit cos I was caught on the hop (I shouldn't have been, that was my fault) but I did mention no one ever has asked if I had a nice weekend.

Following Monday, she passes round the work and jokes shell need to give me less as illl be so busy telling everyone about my weekend. Cue lots of sniggerring. The y had obviously gone and told them what I'd said. That week was awful and I went off sick. 4 weeks later, I am pumped full of citalopram and I'm loving it. Came back to work last week andnot one person has asked me if I'm feeling better . No one is speaking at all. Therr is a total silence the whole time I'm in. Chat goes on when j go to the loo, stops when I'm back.

I'm being perverse but I am loving it. I am waiting to see how long they continue to ignore me cos I'm loving the silence. I work tuesday to Thursday so they can chat alm the like those days but right now I am wondering if they will take this right up to xmas. Thay is going to be a fun Christmas lunch

You can record them without listening to the recordings - maybe ask your husband to. You would at least have something concrete to send to the owner when you go and they can get a bollocking when you've gone.

You can be arrested for sending noxious substances through the post. I did find a website that sells dried poop from various animals that can be sent anonymously through the post. But to be honest you'd want it to be like those exploding confetti cards though. Although it's the cleaner that would suffer.
Thinking about the news today, you could bring some boiled eggs, tuna, aged soft cheese like you can get in France or other strong smelling food for lunch. Pritt Stick all the rolls of toilet paper in the ladies toilets. Squirt of lemon juice in the milk to make it lumpy. Or like The Office, a stapler set in jelly.😆
I'm sorry that they are such pathetic bullies. 💐

why do you need to stay till xmas?

Then on the last day take in a crappy pack of Haribos or a beaten up box of Celebrations for them all to enjoy 🥳

Sugar free gummy bears. They give you the shits.

Well, that's a good point. I went back after 4 weeks off as the pills are fab! ANd i feel better at work so nothing they do is bugging me too much. And I could go tomorrow and never glance back. But I have a few projects to tie up. I like (most) of my clients, and do a good job and interesting work. By all accounts we either don't take, or don't get offers, for new work the latter part of December, so There won't really be the danger of leaving a project half finished if i finish up for good on Xmas Eve.

Haribo Sweets - I'm not even buying them that! One girl, fir her birthday (HER birthday mind), brought in cakes with an email to all and a note by kettle saying to help yourself. She took lots of them home with her a couple of days later! I felt so bad for her. I thought she was fairly well liked, and everyone loves cakes, but not these cakes apparently! She was a temp and I'd not long started, but she never got kept on. Maybe her face didn't fit either

ok, I'm adding message but the message is not added to my text! Weird

Yes, definitely smelly lunches now to Christmas. Develop irritating habits like tapping your nails on the desk.

Smelly lunches. I think I can manage that

My work colleagues don’t chat to me much. It’s brilliant, I actually get work done.

Some inspiration for you OP 😉

nypost.com/2015/09/21/want-your-coworkers-to-hate-you-bring-these-smelly-foods-to-work/

mintymabel Yes, I've been more productive the past few days

getbusy - will savour that thread for my lunch tomorrow at work - im thinking of a chicken tikka ready meal (only smelly think I can think Ive got in the fridge)

Had similar situation OP and left, am also too old for this shit! Can’t deal with bitchiness at work anymore and am now blissfully happy working from home

There’s nothing to about op.
What your experiencing is abuse and I agree with pp. Ypur manager is acting very very unprofessional. Is she aware of her duty of care and welfare that she has to all her staff. If you go under she could well be made accountable

It is abuse but I've been hearing g so much worse stories. Reading about someone on here earlier whose DH had an aneurysm due to stress, had their work openly critisiced in front of clients/other staff. Ive not experienced that. I know I'm being ignored, home life has meant ive not coped well. But I'm coping much better now. I have a way out and that feels like such a blessing and I am so much luckier than many. I have 2 meetings outside the office tomorrow so I wont see them too much. I shall wear my best shoes and put on my best smile. Only 5 weeks to go .... (probably)

Eggs. You need eggs.

Fish, OP, microwave it. Every single fucking day til you go!

I had similar for about a month when a new team leader joined. For whatever reason, she didn't like me, and got the rest of the team to send me to Coventry.

When it was all over, I asked one of the others with whom I had thought I was friendly, why? I was told it was easier to go along with what the new woman wanted. I didn't waste my time with any of them after that.

This happened to me when I had just moved to a new town and job. It was down to a crap manager and craven colleagues sucking up to avoid being the victim. It gave them breathing room, for the bus being 5 mins late, or needing two rather than one bathroom breaks after lunch. What a shithole.

Fair play to you for your breezy attitude. Have fun !

It is abuse but I've been hearing g so much worse stories. Reading about someone on here earlier whose DH had an aneurysm due to stress, had their work openly critisiced in front of clients/other staff. Ive not experienced that.. This is why they are bullying you, because you're nice! They must feel terrible about themselves to be so horrible.

Skiddley .Reading about your situation as a Guardian just makes me want to weep TBH. How these people can be so unkind is just beyond me .Are they so desperate that you leaving 5 mins early ,or having a day or two unpaid here and there to care for a child , constitutes this dreadful bullying? Sad Sad People .Look forward to Christmas with renewed vigour this year! Look into your Canal Boat and imagine getting up and having a coffee seeing birds ,voles ,an otter? while they are living nasty petty little lives!

Some years ago I was bullied and ignored for about a year. The woman who started it wanted to manage me but I'd refused as her profession was different to mine and wanted to continue to be managed by someone in my profession. It was terribly distressing and involved unions who weren't actually a lot of good. I would walk into a room and people would turn their backs, I would speak up at a meeting and people would start yawning or looking at paperwork.
So I started carrying a little note book in my bag. Each time anything happened I made a big point of getting my little notebook out and very obviously writing ( usually shopping lists!)
It was great seeing the look of worry on their faces, no-one could actually challenge this and I felt quite empowered.
Try it OP! BTW my bullying stopped once I didn't crumble for a year and went on to another poor soul

Hello. New (but sameish) name. Nothing exciting to report today. Manager asked me into her office and I almost crapped my pants thinking she'd read this thread. Was just a back to work interview and went fine. I didnt tell her much, my line was for stress, I told her that had passed. She sympathised with all that has been going on in my "wee world" as she put it the past few months and even managed a smile. I was out much of the day and and back in now for admin. Not much has changed with my colleagues but i dont expect it too. I've been so much calmer this past week that ive been in years! Roll on 5pm and Dh is picking me up and taking us all out for dinner large vino for me tonight.
billandben I am loving that idea of taking out a notebook!! Genius.

to everyone else going through the same. Dh said I should go up for lunch but leave my PC on with a workplace bullying website on display (didnt have ths heart to tell him it would be a short window as the screensaver kicks in after 5mins and you have to log back in but it was a nice idea)

How are the smelly lunches?

Last day: Take some chocs in to share, cos you're SO sorry to be leaving - oops did you accidently buy laxative chocolates?! oops!

Glad you are feeling better OP.
Please dont start doing some of the things suggested on here as they will all pounce on it and make themselves "the victim"
Head high, earphones in.
You could be in serious trouble for secret filming or tampering with food.