Insta-Mum Drama

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Is there already a thread about the instamum dramas involving MoD today?

This is hands down the most utterly incomprehensible thread I have ever seen on MN. Who the fuck are these people? Is it more footballers' wives, or the cast of a TV show? And do they do anything apart from howl at each other?

OMG you couldn't make it up! I remember the insta mum threads but never followed MOD (not my thing). She needs to step away from selling her kids. This is why I left insta, it's just a huge MLM platform.

I don’t post on Tattle, I’ve read a few things - mostly after the Sali Hughes drama and whilst there are some very constructive and useful comments, yes there are some harsh comments and I agree forums and social media at times can be terrible.

There does seem to be something with influencers (hate that term) where they are happy to be discussed but only in glowing terms. When money is changing hands and they are making hundreds of thousands and even millions of pounds due to their following, then valid criticism will spill forth. Yes some people will take it way too far (and they need to be dealt with) but for the most part when you boil down many criticisms of influencers and take away the in jokes, you get valid questions about their abuse of power and platform.

I couldn’t be arsed to post on a gossip forum and I think the truly vile things need to be moderated out. However I can see why people are lured to post in such an environment when they are in a strange relationship with an influencer.
These influencers use a lot of flowery, almost hypnotic language to cultivate an audience. They are your friend, they love you, we’re all the same, one big family, sisterhood, united women blah blah blah.

I can understand how after many years of following someone, seeing their marriage, their children being born (literally in some cases), buying houses and catching a reply thrown toward you here and there from them and feeling a bond or connection (I mostly see this with my teenagers) to then find out about their dodgy deals (not specifically talking about MOD here) might make you want to at the very least discuss your realisations with people who feel similarly.

The problem in this specific instance is, MOD has called out Tattle as being a problematic, troubling and a bullying website, all the while engaging in the very same behaviour on the exact same site she is moaning about.

I do feel sorry for, she obviously has a lot of weight on her shoulders and I expect this will cause a lot of stress for her. I think what she did was nasty and speaks volumes about her character but I do hope she has a good support network around her at the moment.

I don't think people need to feel sorry for her. She is only merely sorry as she got called out. If you dont like the smoke then do not light a fire.

@TryingToBeBold you have no idea what you're talking about. MOD and FOD have consistently sold their family and family life to the highest bidder. If you don't want people commenting on that, the simple solution to it is make your social media private or better yet, no social media at all. I can't be arsed going into all this again, but if you read the Tattle threads, you'll see that most of the posts are concerned with the safeguarding and privacy of influencers children.

Aside from that, MOD, like a number of other influencers trying to shut criticism down, has spouted lots of banal platitudes about always 'being kind' and 'women should be supporting women'. So it's ironic really, that MOD has been caught out slagging off her fellow Instamums and real life friends on an anonymous forum that she once tried to shut down.

**39ReanimatedSGB, totally agree.
I got to about page six or seven of this incomprehensible thread before seeing any actual names. Two women, both called Clemmie who appear to be 'mummy bloggers'. What a load of shite.

Influencers need to realise that if you sell stuff to your followers particularly if your not transparent then people will get pissed off. Insta doesn't allow debate hence people found other forums.

Clearly tattle struck a nerve so MOD was doing damage limitation, probably scared of losing ££££. What a divvy.

I notice SusieJV and UltimateGirlGang talked about this drama in their stories but have now deleted. I expect their managers have pointed out it will be a stain on all InstMums and needs quickly white washing.

MOD’s comments about Candice Braithwaite on that site are breath takingly rude and racist. I hope Candice calls her out but it’s a shame on all of them that they aren’t rallying around Candice and calling out MOD on her behalf.

Oh god don't be so snooty, if you don't understand what's going on and aren't interested then just read a thread about parking or something?

I feel sorry for Clemmie as I wouldn't want my kids seeing what kind of stuff I was posting about my friends, but then I refer back to the CC posts that Alice posted and my sympathy evaporates.

Social media is toxic. I'm glad this is showing more people just what a load of bullshit goes on behind the scenes and the trite women support women messages. People should question more of what they see, because so little of it is real.

Oh god don't be so snooty, if you don't understand what's going on and aren't interested then just read a thread about parking or something?

🤣 Agreed. Never understood why someone comes crashing onto a thread to tell everyone they have no idea what anyone's talking about. Why even bother opening it in the first place, let alone reading it then posting about why you can't understand anyone cares about it.

We get it. You're far more superior than us.

Urgh, this will all be deleted and white washed away. You can absolutely bank on that. The lawyers will be involved now. Shame on the the instamums that called her out and then deleted. Shame on MOD, but then we knew she had no shame anyway.

I’m genuinely confused. I’m not being a knob I promise who are these people and why does no one like this mod person?

This thread is gibberish to me

And no, not being superior, just baffled and feeling somewhat elderly, confused and out of it . Shuffles off to Gransnet

I think the threats of using lawyers are part of the problem really. Instead of addressing some of the things that people take issue with (plastering kids all over feeds, sly advertising, misleading reviews, not being entirely truthful with followers) they have chosen to try to close down the conversation with threats of taking people to court (and I am not just talking about the Hoopers). Except Tattle haven't given in to this pressure. Certain other influencers don't get criticised in nearly as much depth - you have to wonder why that is?

If you don’t know who these people are you are probably better off. Resist the urge to catch up.

Just go on MOD's stories. There is a (clearly written by a lawyer) confession there. It tells you plenty.

The Hoopers need to go back to their day jobs and stop expecting our clicks to fund their renovations, and their expensive cosmetic dental work.

She drove cash caraway to a nervous breakdown last year with her trolling. That is why the news today is so shameful for her. She made everyone before cc was crazy and paranoid. She also has form for racism and bullying of other instahuns. However, none of this will stick. White privilege and white fragility will whitewash it all away in time for the Xmas ads she has signed up to.

I actually feel sorry for her. With all she seemingly has going for her, didn't she get a contract with Marks &Spencer recently?! She still behaves like this. Bizarre, bullying and really quite childish behaviour. I would wager she's either deeply unhappy with herself or not very bright.

I think she's probably not super bright but also a bit drunk on the power she held as top dog in the instamum world. Tattle is very addictive too which she alludes to in her 'confession', I think a lot of people on the site get sucked into saying things they wouldn't say otherwise. The other instamums are massively overreacting though (with the exception of the CC stuff which was just pure vindictive), and I think they must know that a lot of what she said is probably quite true too. It must have felt a bit cathartic to say some of the stuff she did. I don't think the accusations that people who post on Tattle must be unhappy with their lives is true, a lot of people there just share massive frustrations about instagram that are supressed on Instagram because everything other than huns comments are deleted most of the time.

How do you all find the time in the day to keep up with this utter shit? Literally?

I’m just amazing at multi tasking, literally?

Tattle is a fucked up place, I wouldn't be surprised if it's full of insta type slebs bumping their own threads and posting about their rival egos.
The whole instagram influencer thing is batshit and will come at a price in the future. There is no safeguarding for the children involved.